(1) Technically, this refers to knife play. But it has come to mean anything “on the edge.” It can even include fisting, asphyxia, play piercings, needle play, caning, etc. Since one person’s edge can be another’s norm, there are no hard and fast rules defining what “edgeplay” is.
(2) A scene that pushes a person close to a personal limit or 'edge'. The definition of this type of scene varies from person to person, what may be an edge to one individual may not be to another. This type of play should only be done between partners who know one another on a deep level due to the physical, emotional, and psychological barriers it deals with.
(4) Term used for activities that carry a degree of risk which is perceived to be high, or play which pushes the submissives limits 'to the edge'. It can include activities that are physically risky (e.g. the use of guns or knives in a scene) or ones that are emotionally risky (e.g. play that involves 'taboo' subjects like rape, slavery, or indeed anything the submissive is genuinely uneasy or phobic about).
(10) Edgeplay refers to BDSM activities which are regarded as unusually risky, either in physical or psychological terms. In BDSM discussions, there is frequently a tension between edgeplay practitioners and the Safety Police tendency.
A similar tension often exists in relation to the ownership and Master/slave relationships, over the issue of Consensual Nonconsent.
From: www.seekdiscipline.com
(11) A scene that pushes a person close to a personal limit or 'edge'. The definition of this type of scene varies from person to person, what may be an edge to one individual may not be to another. This type of play should only be done between partners who know one another on a deep level due to the physical, emotional and psychological barriers it deals with.
(c) High Risk.
Ejaculation; verb, to ejaculate
(8) Expulsion or spurting out, as of the semen at the time of sexual climax or orgasm.
Elasticity
(10) Elasticity is a measure of the urgency of a need, and is discussed in the article about needs.
From: www.ownership-possession.com
(c) See also need
Electric Play; also, Electrical Torture, Electro Play
(2) A scene involving the use of electrical devices for erotic stimulation. Be smart when participating in this type of activity and read up on safety precautions.
(2) See Electro-torture.
(4) Activity that involves the use of electrical current, often applied to breasts of genitalia, in BDSM play sessions
(9) The “safest” way is by using a TENS unit (E).
(11) A scene involving the use of electrical devices for erotic stimulation. Be smart when participating in this type of activity and read up on safety precautions.
(11) See also Electro-torture.
(c) Moderate to High Risk
Electricity
(3) Using electricity in BDSM play seems a scary notion to most people, but it can easily be made safe provided two simple rules are followed:
only use devices powered by low-voltage batteries, and certainly no main-powered appliances; and
avoid placing any contacts above the waist (including hands or arms),
Even small currents to the heart or brain can disrupt those organs' delicate electrical activity with serious consequences.
(3) Popular devices: "TENS" units designed for the relief of muscle and back pain; and "Violet Wands" which use a radio frequency discharge, and can be used above the waist provided the face is avoided.
(3) Any form of this play can be dangerous.
(3) See also: TENS Unit, Violet Wand
(7) The use of various forms of electricity to create sensations in a submissive.
(c) High Risk
Electro-Torture
(2) The use of electrical devices in a scene. There are many types of electric instruments used in SM play. The violet wand and tens unit are two of the most popular toys used though there are many different ones in existence. Electric play is another activity that should only be done by a knowledgeable player.
(11) The use of electrical devices in a scene. There are many types of electric instruments used in SM play. The violet wand and tens unit are two of the most popular toys used though there are many different ones in existence. Electric play is another activity that should only be done by a knowledgeable player.
(c) High Risk.
Emotional Attraction
(6) noun: a capacity that evokes the want to engage in emotionally intimate behavior (e.g., sharing, confiding, trusting, inter-depending), experienced in varying degrees (from little-to-none to intense). Often conflated with sexual attraction, romantic attraction, and/or spiritual attraction.
Emotional Triggers
(4) Events, words, situations (e.g. rape) that produce a strong emotional reaction in particular individuals and for that reason may be either deliberately avoided or used in play.
Encasement
(2) The complete confinement of the male genitals in a sack, ball, or similar item, to deny stimulation to those areas.
(11) The complete confinement of the male genitals in a sack, ball, or similar item, for the purpose of denying stimulation to those areas.
Endorphins
(2) A natural chemical produced by the body that assists it in dealing with pain or stress. The release of endorphins brings on a temporary feeling of pleasure or the effect of being 'high'. Athletes get this sensation every time they perform, as do many participants in SM scenes when play is intense. A person who thrives on these natural chemicals and attempts to reach that stage to an extreme is called an Endorphin Junkie.
(4) Natural substances created by the body that reduce pain and can create a feeling of well-being and euphoria which is often called an 'endorphin high'. Exercise can produce endorphins, and some athletes become addicted to the opiate-like feelings that a good workout can produce. Some submissives during BDSM activities report the same feelings of euphoria and well-being. This sensation is often called 'bottom-space', 'sub-space', 'flying' or an 'endorphin high'.
(11) A natural chemical produced by the body that assists it in dealing with pain or stress. The release of endorphins brings on a temporary feeling of pleasure or the effect of being 'high'. Athletes get this sensation every time they perform, as do many participants in SM scenes when play is intense. A person who thrives on these natural chemicals and attempts to reach that stage to an extreme is called an Endorphin Junkie.
Enema; pl., Enemas
(2) The introduction of fluid into the bowel for erotic and/or cleansing purposes. Enemas can have medicinal qualities with the use of proper herbal substances but must not be done extensively. Note that any substance that enters the body in this manner is 5 times more effective than if consumed orally.
(2) Example: One cup of coffee used in an enema is equal to drinking 5 cups.
(3) A thorough anal cleaning involving a water bottle and tube. Most frequently used in medical scening although might also be used for control scenes as well.
(3) See also: Bathroom Use Control, Catheterization.
(4) A device used to inject fluid into the anus to flush the lower intestines. Generally used for medical reasons (e.g. before surgery or internal examination) but sometimes used as part of D/s or sexual play for humiliation, to cleanse before other anal play, etc. They can also be used for sexual stimulation and a rapidly growing fetish subculture is dedicated to the sexual use of enemas. When coffee is used in an enema, it allows high concentrations of caffeine to be absorbed by the body, producing a unique sensation.
(9) Douching or cleaning the anal cavity or rectum.
(11) The introduction of fluid into the bowel for erotic and/or cleansing purposes. Enemas can have medicinal qualities with the use of proper herbal substances but must not be done extensively. Note that any substance that enters the body in this manner is 5 times more effective than if consumed orally. Example: One cup of coffee used in an enema is equal to drinking 5 cups.
Enforced Chastity
(3) In BDSM / S/m circles, meaning the banning or physically preventing one from achieving orgasm or any form of genital stimulation. A means of domination over one's submissive. A device (lockable ) panty-type which when worn prevents any type of genital stimulation.
(3) See also: Chastity Belt.
(c) Also: Penis cage alternative device, Colloquial, slang Cock cage.
English
(4) A code word for corporal punishment, stemming from the supposed devotion of the English to anything that smacks of a good spanking.
Entitlement
(10) Entitlement refers to both the false feelings of entitlement that good slaves set aside over time; and the owner's sense of the rightfulness of making use of their own property.
Slaves' feelings of entitlement are a major source of reactance in established relationships.
From: www.seekdiscipline.com
Erotic Dance
(3) Scenes involving erotic dancing / stripping as a form of erotic pleasure; i.e., dancing / stripping to music.
Erotic Humiliation
(2) The act to 'force' a submissive to speak, act, or dress in a manner that is out of the norm for that person and is deemed socially unacceptable to do so in public situations.
(2) Example: having the person take on a persona of a wonton slut, etc.
(2) Similar to humiliation.
(11) To 'force' a submissive to speak, act, or dress in a manner that is out of the norm for that person and is deemed socially unacceptable to do so in public situations.
(11) Example: having the person take on a persona of a wonton slut, etc.;
(11) Similar to humiliation.
Erotic Power Exchange
(2) Another term for SM but is a little more 'vanilla' and socially acceptable.
(8) Social role play, revolving around the power element that forms a part of every relationship between human beings. Hence it is not - although often depicted as such - a purely sexual game. In fact, many people will identify it as a lifestyle and, sociologically speaking, one might even identify it as a separate culture or at least a subculture. Erotic power exchange identifies the power element, magnifies it, and uses the power dynamics between partners as one of the instruments to build and shape a relationship. It is usually - but not always - connected but not restricted to the sexual activities between partners in a relationship
(11) Another term for SM but is a little more 'vanilla' and socially acceptable.
(11)) See also: SM; vanilla.
Erotica
(8) Depictions of ideas and images in the literary and visual arts that have sexual and erotic appeal and, for at least a selected audience, sexual arousal value, without being condemned as pornographic. More specifically, erotica is congruent with the idealized content of one's idiosyncratic lovemap and is therefore effective in eroticizing, arousing, and facilitating orgasm in that individual. (pictures and literature)
Estate protocol
(10) The Estate website has gone through several versions during the early 2000s, and along with the spin-off site The Grey Book, has outlined some of the service training ideas of its authors, Flagg, Soulhuntre and SirC.
Although both websites are very incomplete, the three authors contributions do contain enough information to fill out a composite protocol schema.
Classes
The two basic classes are dominants and submissives, with a hierarchy of status between dominants which determines some aspect of submissives' behaviour towards different dominants.
Dress and symbols
No dress codes are laid down, although wearing a dominant's collar is used as a symbol of that dominant's authority over the submissive. Collars are also used figuratively ("worthy of a collar") to represent the privilege of service.
Speech rules
A protocol for introductions is laid out, based on the status of the participants and also conveying information in their involvement in BDSM.
Inferiors are introduced to superiors.
Introductions are in the order of hierarchy (a submissive's dominant is at the top of their hierarchy.)
"I would like you to meet X" indicates the interaction is vanilla.
"I would like to introduce X to you" indicates the interaction is scene-friendly.
"I would like to present X to you" indicates "a very formal scene protocol". This form shouldn't be used by submissives making introductions.
(This idea of conveying information through the form of introduction is rather like the Mafia-aware ("connected") and Mafia-member ("made") protocol described in Donnie Brasco: 'When I introduce you, I'm gonna say, "This is a friend of mine." That means you're a connected guy. Now, if I said instead, "This is a friend of ours," that would mean you're a made guy. Capiche?')
Deportment
Flagg gives the following outlines for low, medium and high protocols:
Low protocol:
Used in vanilla and informal situations.
A continuous reminder of service and its responsibilities
Permitted casual behavior, yet with specific boundaries.
Recognition of station, orders, demands and requests in an invisible and unobtrusive fashion.
Behavior which reflects my intentions and desired interaction on a personal and professional level
Awareness of accountability, despite the temptations offered by casual behavior and independence.
Medium protocol:
For most public BDSM scene environments, and during play scenes.
Prioritize decisions in the appropriate context
The time and place for degrees of casual behavior
Consistent ground rules of action and responsibility
Awareness and anticipation of my needs, wants, and desires- and those of other respected Dominants in my company as a priority
Focus on BDSM priorities, no matter how long or strenuous the time spent in Middle Protocol
High protocol:
Normally used for short periods or during longer punishments.
Complete attention and focus, no matter what the distractions.
Absolute and instantaneous obedience, without delay, hesitation or question.
Decision-making and priorities are NOT part of High Protocol; the servants wants, needs and desires are suspended.
All extraneous movement, speech, and thought are unacceptable. If First Protocol is in effect, concentration is demanded.
Awareness that every move, answer and behavior is being carefully scrutinized and judged.
From: www.seekdiscipline.com
Ethical systems
(10) Several ethical systems for ownership or the other aspects of BDSM have been put forward.
de Sade
Probably the first ethical structure put forward in a BDSM context is contained in de Sade's "Dialogue Between a Priest and a Dying Man" (1782):
the entirety of human morals is contained in this one phrase: render others as happy as one desires oneself to be, and never inflict more pain upon them than one would like to receive at their hands.
Marquis de Sade
This is a Sadean variation of an ancient principle, the Golden Rule, "do as you would be done by", but with a subtle twist about receiving and inflicting pain appropriate for someone like de Sade who was both a sadist and a masochist himself.
For lots of leatherfolk, pain is a goal of their play. We claim the right to decide for ourselves what sexual activities we will partake in, including pain play. As long as no one is harmed, and by that we mean that no damage is done which does not readily and quickly heal, we believe that the government (and everyone else) has no right to proscribe our actions. However, as with most other democratic freedoms, the rights which we claim come with a heavy load of responsibility. One who is not prepared to accept that responsibility should never pick up a flogger. We are responsible for the health and safety of our partners and ourselves. Remember, it is okay to hurt your partner (i.e., cause pain), but you must never harm them.
(10) Etiquette is the set of conventions for personal behaviour observed in a particular society or culture. It aims to avoid unintentional offence or embarrassment by providing generally accepted patterns of behaviour.
Major issues addressed by etiquette include introductions, physical contact (such as handshaking), topics of conversation, precedence, terms of address, and the use of titles.
From: www.seekdiscipline.com
Evil Stick; Colloquial
(2) An implement consisting of a thin rod of carbon fiber, typically about the diameter of a mechanical pencil lead, attached to a small, rigid handle. The carbon fiber rod is flexible and very strong; when laid against the skin and then flicked with a strong upward motion at its tip, it causes sharp pain and typically leaves a thin, well-defined welt that can persist for days.
Examinations
(3) Scenes involving some type of physical examination (i.e. medical exams) where the use of various types of equipment are used.
(3) Safety note: Genital examinations should be done carefully, as serious consequences could result if not performed carefully.
(3) This form of play can be dangerous.
(c) Use gloves and other protective gear for scene enhancement but mainly for safety.
(c) Moderate Risk.
Exercise
(3) Play which involves forcing one's submissive to exert physical exercise as a form of control/humiliation (may include lifting, running, weight-lifting, etc.).
(c) The submissive can be in public wearing scanty clothing, or naked when in a kink-friendly setting.
(c) See Note at Exhibitionism
Exhibitionism; noun, exhibitionist
(3) Common dictionary term meaning a perversion marked by a tendency to indecent exposure; an act of such exposure; the act of practicing or behaving in such a manner as to attract attention to oneself. Scening involving the display of public/private exhibitionism in order to exert control and/or humiliation.
(3) NOTE: In many countries, this form of play, is illegal and will get you arrested if caught by law enforcement.
(8) A paraphilia of the solicitation/allurative type in which sexuoerotic arousal and facilitation or attainment of orgasm are responsive to and contingent on evoking surprise, dismay, shock, or panic from a stranger by illicitly exhibiting an erotic part of the body, including the genitals [from Latin, exhibere, to exhibit]. The reciprocal paraphilic condition is voyeurism, also known as being a "Peeping Tom." The condition of being responsive to, or dependent on the surprise, debasement, shock, or outcry of a stranger (usually female), unexpectedly exposed to the sight of the penis, to obtain one's erotic arousal and facilitate or achieve orgasm. The actual event may be replayed in masturbation or coital fantasy.
(9) Enjoying when other people watch you having sex.
Exhibitionist; pl., Exhibitionists
(2) A person who derives sexual pleasure from performing sexual and/or SM acts in a public setting. Also used to describe someone who enjoys showing off his or her body to get attention.
(4) People who love drawing attention to themselves. The term has a specific use in psychiatry, where it describes a compulsion to exhibit one's genitals in public.
(11) A person who derives sexual pleasure from performing sexual and/or SM acts in a in a public setting. Also used to describe someone who enjoys showing off his or her body to get attention.
External Enslavement
(10) External Enslavement is slavery which is made inescapable by physical forces rather than the slave's internal psychological state. Legally or socially enforced slavery is an example of External Enslavement. Most historical slavery took this form.
This is in contrast to Internal Enslavement.
From: www.seekdiscipline.com
Eye Contact Restrictions
(3) Restricting one's submissive from any eye contact with the Dominant (i.e., forcing the submissive to look away / look down). Similar to military boot camps. Control is enforced by the Dominant by refusing eye contact.