(2) An implement used for striking, consisting of a loop or occasionally two loops of thick wire, coated with plastic, rubber, or leather, and affixed to a handle. A cable loop can be used much like a crop or similar implement and produces intense sensations.
Cable Tie; also, Cable Cuff, Plasticuff, & Zip Tie
(2) A type of cuff consisting of a thin plastic strip with a row of teeth on its surface, and a small ratchet on one end. The end of the cable tie can be placed through the ratchet to form a loop which can be pulled tight but not loosened again. Sometimes used by police in favor of handcuffs.
(4) A type of cuff consisting of a thin plastic strip with a row of teeth on its surface, and a small ratchet on one end. The end of the cable tie can be placed through the ratchet to form a loop, which can be pulled tight but not loosened again.
Cages
(3) Most common is the use of a large animal cage. The construction of a cage can be of wood, steel, fencing material. Used to confine the submissive, for play or punishment.
Caning
(7) Using a long, thin, flexible rod to whip someone. A form of flagellation.
(9) Stroking someone with a cane.
Candles
(4) Play that involves dripping hot candle wax onto the skin of the submissive. Plain white paraffin candles are best, while colored or beeswax candles are more likely to burn. Generally, soft candles have a lower melting point and are safer.
(c) Moderate Risk; Bee's wax candles are hot enough to be unsafe.
Cane, pluralCanes
(1) A wooden, plastic, or graphite stalk used in BDSM play. It can hurt, so use it carefully.
(2) noun A long, thin, flexible instrument used for caning, as opposed to the one created for use as walking sticks. Canes are made of various materials though most are made out of rattan or fiberglass rods.
(4) Traditionally, rattan rods come in a variety of lengths and thicknesses, although more recently man-made materials like fiberglass have become available. Depending upon how the cane is applied it can simply sting or it can raise severe welts. Usually applied to the ass but occasionally (in schoolroom role-play) to the palms of the hands.
(11) L
Caning
(2) verb The act of whipping someone with a long, thin, flexible instrument; canes. Caning is an act that requires experience to avoid doing damage.
(3) Mostly made of bamboo, this whip is by far the most painful. Care should be used, as the welts from caning are slow to rise, and blood can be accidentally drawn if not in constant monitoring. Caning should be limited to the fleshy part of the buttocks, and nowhere else on the body.
(3) This can be very dangerous, and is not for the novice.
(3) See also: Beating, Whipping
(8) A whipping with a switch or cane to discipline your partner.
(11) An act of whipping someone with a long, thin, flexible instrument; canes. Caning is an act that requires experience in order to avoid doing damage.
(c) High Risk
Captain's Daughter; Archaic, colloquial
(2) See cat o' nine tails.
(2) Etymology: The cat o' nine tails was used as an implement of discipline aboard British Navy sailing ships beginning in the late 1600s. The term "captain's daughter" was a slang term for the cat o' nine tails popular among sailors, likely because it could not be used without the captain's express authorization.
Carabiner
(2) Any device used to connect two chains or ropes together, often in the form of a D-shaped metal ring with a spring-loaded lever that can open the ring.
(2) See related panic snap.
(2) Commentary: Carabiners are not usually appropriate for suspension, as they cannot easily be removed if the suspended person's full weight is bearing down on them.
(4) Any device used to connect two chains or ropes, often in the shape of a ‘D’ metal ring, with a spring-loaded lever that can open the ring.
Castration Fantasy
(3) There has been much confusion as to the actual meaning of this term. This refers to the removal of the testicles; however, some people use it for the removal of any/all sexual organs of either sex. The removal of the testicles is sometimes referred to as Emasculation and a man who has had his testicles removed is referred to as a eunuch. This procedure causes permanent and significant changes to the body. Castration fantasies are actually quite common among heavy S/m players and are played out in scenes involving cock and ball torture (CBT), permanent and play piercing, and even genital shaving. However, few people actually choose to make this fantasy a reality.
(3) Note: This is a serious surgical procedure and not something someone can teach themselves to do safely. This form of play is very dangerous.
(3) See also: Cutting, Knife Play.
(c) Fulfillment of this fantasy, even done by a qualified medical person, is High Risk.
CAT; also: Cat-o-nine tails
(4) A generic term for any flogger whose lashes are braided or knotted, regardless of the number of lashes.
(11) A whip that has multiple tails that are usually braided or beaded. These whips produce a very stinging sensation, unlike the heavy thud of a flogger.
Catharsis
(4) The purging of emotions or tension. People may bring to BDSM sessions issues of self-esteem and past psychological trauma. The intense emotional charge generated by some BDSM encounters can be the catalyst, which brings these issues to the surface. This can be either good or bad, depending on how it’s dealt with. It is potentially dangerous to stray into deep BDSM play unless you know what you're doing.
Catherine's Wheel
(2) A large, upright wheel, usually made of wood, to which a person may be bound and then rotated to any position.
(4) A large, upright wheel, usually made of wood, to which a person may be bound and then rotated, to any position.
(w) Also breaking wheel
(w) An instrument of torturous execution originally associated with Saint Catherine of Alexandria.
(w) Also:
breaking wheel
execution wheel
Catherine wheel
simply The Wheel
(w) Breaking Wheel: A torture method used for public execution primarily in Europe from antiquity through the Middle Ages into the early modern period by breaking the bones of a criminal or bludgeoning them to death.
Catheter
(2) Any thin, flexible tube designed to be inserted in the urethra.
(2) See related sound.
(4) Any thin, flexible tube designed to be inserted in the urethra.
(c) Also noun urethra sound.
Catheterization
(2) The insertion of a small sterile tube into the urethra.
(3) A flexible tube used in medical procedures is generally inserted into the area controlled by the bladder. This procedure is most often used for "control" scenes.
(3) See also: Bathroom Use Control, Enemas, Urethral Play
(4) The act or process of inserting a catheter, often as part of medical role-play.
(11) The insertion of a small sterile tube into the urethra.
(c) Also verb sounding.
Cattle Prod
(3) An electrical prodding device used to herd animals, more frequently for cattle. Sometimes used in S/m play for "branding" or serious hardcore pain play, and is considered dangerous play.
(c) High Risk, and dangerous.
Cat-o-nine tails; also, Cat 'o' nine tails, short name, Cat
(2) A whip that has multiple tails that are usually braided or beaded. These whips produce a very stinging sensation, unlike the heavy thud of a flogger.
(w) commonly shortened to the cat, A type of multi-tailed flail that originated as an implement for severe physical punishment, notably in the Royal Navy and British Army, and also as a judicial punishment in Britain and some other countries.
(4) Originally used by the British Navy to flog uppity sailors, and was a leather whip with nine thongs which were sometimes weighted with lead to produce a devastating punishment that could strip the skin off right down to the bone. Nowadays the cat 'o' nine tails is often a term used to refer to any multi-thonged whip.
(7) A multi-tailed whip in which the tails are braided.
(c) See also CAT
CBT, acronym
(2) Commonly Cock and Ball Torture.
(9) Cock and ball torture – causing pain to male genitalia (E).
(c) Moderate Risk
(c) From (2) A scene involving painful manipulation of the penis and testicles for erotic purposes.
(11) Abbreviation for cock and ball torture
(11) See also Cock and ball torture
Cells, orClosets
(3) Play which involves locking the submissive in a cell-type device and/or closet. Usually as a form of punishment. Not recommended for claustrophobics.
(c) Moderate Risk
Chain collar
(10) A chain collar is the simplest design of a collar, consisting of a chain and some form of fastening, especially a padlock. Some substantial jewellery collars take the form of chain collars with a locking clasp.
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Chains
(3) A strong metal type of bondage material used in bondage scenes. Chains are less flexible and potentially more dangerous than other types of bondage material. Note: Always make sure you observe metal bondage rules and choose a chain and equipment that will withstand a heavier strain.
Chamber-Pot Use
(3) Scenes involving the use of the toilet for humiliation and/or control. Generally used for medical scenes.
Chastity
(2) The practice of disallowing any form of sexual release or sexual activity, sometimes imposed on a submissive by a dominant. Some forms of imposed chastity include the use of locking devices such as chastity belts to prevent direct sexual stimulation of the genitals. Also sometimes called chastity play, enforced chastity.
(4) The practice of disallowing any form of sexual release or sexual activity, sometimes imposed on a submissive by a dominant. Some forms of imposed chastity include the use of locking devices such as chastity belts to prevent direct sexual stimulation of the genitals.
(4) Also: Sometimes called chastity play or enforced chastity.
(9) No sex for you
(c) Formally Chastity by Device.
(c) Alternative method Chastity by Honor.
Chastity Belt; pl., Chastity Belts
(2) Any device intended to prohibit contact with or stimulation of the genitals. Female chastity belts often take the form of a lockable harness which passes between the legs and around the waist; male chastity belts may include a locking enclosure into which the penis is placed.
(3) In S/m circles, meaning the banning or physically preventing one (male or female) from achieving orgasm or any form of genital stimulation. A means of domination over one's submissive. A device (lockable) panty-type which when worn prevents any type of genital stimulation.
(3) See also: Enforced Chastity
(4) Any device intended to prohibit contact with or stimulation of the genitals.
(8) Leather or metal belts used to prevent genital penetration. A beltlike device of medieval times was designed to prevent the woman wearing it from having sexual intercourse.
(c) Alternative method Chastity by Honor.
Chastity Piercing
(2) Any body piercing intended to prevent sexual intercourse; as, piercings along the labia which can be locked together to prevent penetration, or a piercing of the foreskin which can be used to pull the foreskin over the head of the penis and lock it in place.
Chauffeuring
(3) Requiring one's submissive to "chauffeur" them around physically in vehicles or other types of transportation.
Chemical Play
(2) Any form of sensation play involving the use of mild irritants such as wintergreen oil, menthol, Tabasco sauce, and the like to create a sensation.
(4) Any form of sensation play involving the use of mild irritants such as menthol, Tabasco sauce, and the like to create a sensation.
Chérambault-Kandinsky syndrome
(8) A paraphilia of the solicitational/allurative stratagem; a sexuoerotic pathology in which a [person] male or female has a limerent fixation on someone unattainable, an unshakable and false conviction that his/her own life is totally under the control of the unattainable one, and that the unattainable one reciprocates his/her love, limerence or love-smitteness secretly if not openly.
CHDW, Acronym, Colloquial,
(2) Clueless Horny Dom Wannabe. A derisive term for a person who proclaims himself or herself a dominant, but who has little or no real-world experience, and/or behaves with reckless disregard for the needs or safety of the submissive.
(2) Pronounced: "chudwa."
(2) Usage: Invariably indicates a disdain for the person so named.
(2) Etymology: Originated on the now-defunct Usenet newsgroup alt.sex.bondage.
Chicken
(2) An insulting term used to describe a person who is significantly younger than his or her sex partner.
(c) A term used to describe a teen gay male person who is under the age of majority or the age of consent or who does not have sufficient emotional or social maturity.
(11) An insulting term used to describe a person who is significantly younger than his or her sex partner.
Chicken hawk; alsoChickenhawk
(2) Someone who is attracted to significantly younger sex partners.
(11) Someone who is attracted to significantly younger sex partners.
Choking
(3) Compression of the carotid arteries to restrict air or blood flow to the brain.
(3) This form of play is dangerous.
(3) See also: Asphyxiation, Breath Control.
(c) High Risk
Chores; also, Domestic Service
(3) Scenes where the Dominant requires the submissive to perform chores and/or domestic service in either sexually pleasing clothing (i.e., maid outfits) or naked.
(3) See also: Housework
(c) Alternatively, in formal servant's apparel.
Chronophilia
(8) [from Greek, chronos, time + -philia]: One of a group of paraphilias of the stigmatic/eligibilic type in which the paraphile's sexuoerotic age is discordant with his/her actual chronological age and is concordant with the age of the partner, as in, respectively,
(c-w) hebephilia (pubescent children, in early adolescence, 11–14)
(c-w) ephebophilia (mid-to-late adolescents, 15 to 19)
juvenilism or pedophilia;
adolescentilism or ephebophilia (Lolita syndrome); and
gerontalism or gerontophilia (c-w) (attraction to the elderly).
Cicatrization, alsoCicatrisation
(2) 1. Formally, medicine The process of wound closure by means of scar tissue formation.
(2) 2. See scarification.
(w) the contraction of fibrous tissue formed at a wound site by fibroblasts, reducing the size of the wound while distorting tissue. Cicatrization can mean:
the process of a wound healing to produce scar tissue
scarification, a form of body modification that uses cicatrization to create patterns on the skin.
(11) See also scarification.
Cinch
(2) 1. To wear a cincher, often very tightly and sometimes as a form of body modification
(2) 2. To tie with rope by making several windings of rope around two limbs, or around a limb and a fixed object, then passing a loop of rope around the windings. The loop of rope is used to regulate the tightness of the binding.
(2) 3. To tie a cinch knot.
Cinch Knot
(2) A specific type of knot made by passing a rope or line through an opening, then around and around itself several times, and finally through a loop near the opening.
Cincher; also, Ribbon Corset, Waist Corset
(2) A specific type of corset which is shorter than a full corset and wraps around the wearer's waist.
Cisgender/“siss-jendur”/
(6) adj. : a gender description for when someone’s sex is assigned at birth and gender identity correspond expectedly (e.g., someone who was assigned male at birth, and identifies as a man). A simple way to think about it is if a person is not transgender, they are cisgender. The word cisgender can also be shortened to “cis.”
Cisnormativity
(6) noun: the assumption, in individuals and institutions, that everyone is cisgender, and that cisgender identities are superior to trans* identities and people. Leads to the invisibility of non-cisgender identities.
Cissexism
(6) noun: behavior that grants preferential treatment to cisgender people, reinforces the idea that being cisgender is somehow better or more “right” than being transgender, and/or makes other genders invisible.
Cleave Gag
(2) A type of gag, usually made of cloth, that is pulled tightly between the wearer's teeth and tied behind the head. The cleave gag forces the mouth partway open and is quite effective in preventing speech.
Clit
(8) See: clitoris
Clit Torture
(2) A form of play involving manipulation of the female genitals. These areas are very sensitive and do not require heavy contact to produce an extreme sensation.
(11) A form of play involving manipulation of the female genitals. These areas are very sensitive and do not require heavy contact to produce an extreme sensation.
(c) Comperable male CBT, Cock and Ball torture
Clitoris; pl., clitorides; adjective, clitoral or clitoridean
(8) The small, hooded organ (the clitoral glands) at the top of the cleft of the female vulva, which is the counterpart of the penis in the male. Usually, only the glands of the clitoris are externally visible. In the human female the body of the clitoris extends internally on either side of the vulva and vestibule. In total, the clitoris is about 80 percent the size of the male penis. In the rat, mouse, and hamster, the clitoris is not hooded, but its covering is fused as in the male's penis to form a urinary tube.
(8) from Greek, kleitoris, clitoris
Clitoromegaly
(8) Extreme enlargement or hypertrophy of the clitoris.
Clitoropenis
(8) See: penoclitoris.
Closeted
(6) adj.: an individual who is not open to themselves or others about their (queer) sexuality or gender identity. This may be by choice and/or for other reasons such as fear for one’s safety, peer or family rejection, or disapproval and/or loss of housing, job, etc. Also known as being “in the closet.” When someone chooses to break this silence they “come out” of the closet.
(6) See Coming out.
Clothed Sex
(9) Sex with clothes on, so the fabric goes inside you.
Clover Clamp
(2) A specific type of nipple clamp consisting of a clamp with a lever mechanism to which a chain or cord is affixed in such a way that pulling on the chain or cord increases pressure on the clamp.
(4) A specific type of nipple clamp consisting of a clamp with a lever mechanism to which a chain or cord is affixed in such a way that pulling the chain or chord increases pressure on the clamp.
Clothespins
(3) Small pinning devices used for hanging clothes. Generally used in BDSM play as quite effective nipple clamps, testicle clamps, etc. Great for the bargain BDSM player! Be sure the wood doesn't become stuck to the skin while removing, as it will remove the skin from the body.
(3) See also: Nipple Clamps.
Cock and Ball Torture; alsoCBTacronym
(2) A scene involving painful manipulation of the penis and testicles for erotic purposes.
(3) Any form of restraint or orgasm control to a male's genitals. Can be used for play or punishment.
(3) Not for the novice, as this can be dangerous.
(4) The 'torture' or involvement in the painful erotic play of the male genitalia (cock and balls). Methods may include clamps, clips, tight bindings of various sorts, whips, crops, electrodes, and hard-core addicts have even hammered nails through their unfortunate appendages.
(7) A SM activity where strong sensations are administered to the male genitals.
(11) Scene involving painful manipulation of the penis and testicles for erotic purposes.
(c) See also, CBT
(c) Moderate to High Risk.
Cock Bondage
(2) Tying or restraining the penis.
(4) Tying or restraining the penis.
Cock Cage
(2) A device placed on male genitals to restrict the penis.
(11) A device placed on male genitals to restrict the penis.
Cock Ring; also, Cockrings, Cock Rings
(2) A ring that is worn around the base of the cock that restricts the blood from flowing out of the penis, blood is allowed to freely flow into the penis, resulting in erection enhancement. Usually, the ring allows for both testicles to be passed through it, compressing the scrotum.
(3) Rubber, metal, or leather type ring used to strap around the base of the cock and balls when soft. Increases blood flow to the genital area during self-stimulation and sex. When released, causes minor pain during recurring blood flow.
(4) Rings, as the name suggests, that go around your cock. Usually, they go around the base of it, behind the balls. The penis becomes erect when the blood vessels at its base constrict (because of arousal), trapping blood in the cock and causing it to swell and prolonging erection. They're often used as an aid to impotence, or simply to prolong and increase the pleasure of an erection. Made of leather, with adjustable snaps, so you can tighten or loosen them to fit, rubber or metal.
(8) Rings are placed around the base of the male genitals to maintain erections.
(11) A ring that is worn around the base of the cock that restricts the blood from flowing out of the penis, blood is allowed to freely flow into the penis, resulting in erection enhancement. Usually the ring allows for both testicles to be passed through it, compressing the scrotum.
Cock Sucking, formallyFellatio
(7) Administering sensations of an erotic nature to the male genitals with the mouth and tongue.
Cock Worship
(3) Play which involves the fantasy of worshiping the cock. Performed mostly by the submissive to the Dominant. Scenes might include licking and/or fellatio. Even some female Dominants may use strap-ons that are worshiped by the submissive male or female.
(3) See also: Homage, Licking.
Code words
(2) Another name for safewords.
(11) Another name for safewords.
(11) See also Safeword
(c) Using gay lexicon in a generic way of speech that a non-gay person would not be able to discern the true meaning.
(c) gay slang.
Coffin
(2) An item of furniture consisting of a long, narrow box, sometimes shaped like a conventional coffin, padded on the inside and usually featuring built-in restraints, a lockable lid, or both. The lid of a coffin typically features small openings or flaps at the level of the face, breasts, and genitals, allowing people outside the coffin to reach in and stimulate the person inside, or to allow the person inside to perform oral sex on those on the outside.
Coffle
(10) A coffle is a gang of slaves, chained or roped together in a line, for transportation on foot.
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Coital Aninsertia
(8) Inability in the female to have the penis inserted into the vagina, or in the male to insert the penis. It may be associated with neglect or denial of one's own penis or vagina (as in many unoperated transsexuals) or, more commonly, with phobic anxiety or panic and avoidance of penetration of one's own vagina, or of inserting one's own penis.
Coital Fantasy
(8) Imagery of erotically stimulating content that accompanies sexual intercourse and may precede it and be essential to the attainment of orgasm. It may or may not be related to the actual partner and activity going on, and may in fact be an intrusion that cannot be voluntarily controlled. Alternatively, it may disappear as sexual excitement builds up, as the person becomes totally immersed in body sensations.
(8) Synonyms, copulation fantasy; intercourse fantasy.
(8) See alsomasturbation fantasy.
Coitus; orCoition
(8) The sexual act, specifically the taking of the penis into the vagina, or the penetrating of the vagina with the penis; but more generally the complete interaction between two sexual partners.
(8) See alsocopulate; intercourse; mount.
Collar
(2) Used to indicate that a submissive is under the direction of a Dominant. A collared submissive is viewed as the property of that Dominant and any interaction with the submissive must be approved by the Dominant who owns the collar. A collar given solely for a purpose of play is used to assist the submissive in achieving the headspace necessary for an SM session.
(3) Worn around the neck to indicate one's submissiveness. These can be made of leather, steel, rubber, rope. Used in scenes for humiliation and/or examples such as dog/puppy or even boy/girl play.
(4) Used in BDSM and having a physical appearance often like a dog collar, made of leather or a chain, and worn around the neck (although some favor a symbolic thin gold chain for everyday wear). The conventional collar may simply be used as a prop in BDSM 'play' to denote a negotiated submission for a limited play session, but it can also be used as a more permanent symbol of ownership in some ongoing Dominant/submissive or Master/slave relationships.
(10) The traditional collar is a neckband, normally in leather, metal, or rubber. Collars can vary widely - from the decorative to the purely functional and although often removable, some are a permanent fixture. The wearing of a collar generally indicates that the wearer is a submissive, and in the Ownership Subculture, that both the collar and wearer are owned.
History
Collars were used as part of metal restraints in ancient times. (For example, the well-preserved iron coffle or "chain for six slaves" on display in the Manchester Museum from the 1st century BC.) However, iron collars were also used by the Romans to identify slaves and even give instructions for their return:
I am Asellus, a slave of Praeiectus an official of the prefect of the grain harvest. I have gone outdoors, beyond the walls. Hold me fast, because I have run away. Return me to the barber's shop near the temple of Flora.
(CIL 15.7172)
Collars were also used in the 18th century to identify slaves in Britain (even though the legality of slavery on English soil, at least, was hotly disputed during this period), and to some extent in American plantation slavery.
It is likely that these historical precedents led to the association of slavery with collars in subcultures like Old Guard leather and in BDSM fiction, such as The Story of O and the Gor series.
Gay leathermen traditionally used a padlocked chain to collar their slaves. A tradition developed in some leather bars in the 1980s of wearing a collar with an open padlock to indicate that one was seeking a partner, and a closed padlock to indicate that one was in a relationship. This symbolism became less common in the 1990s as even in gay leather bars, many men began wearing collars for reasons of fashion rather than to indicate a relationship (or desire for a relationship). Also, many older leathermen were quite offended when younger men began flagging with unlocked collars. Traditionally, the top owned the collar and locked it on his slave. Slaves or potential slaves did not collar themselves.
Collar designs
A padlocked chain is the simplest type of collar. Collars made of solid metal can largely be divided into the flat (a thick metal band) and the Turian (circular in cross-section) styles. A wide variety of leather collars are available from BDSM retailers, including special purpose designs such as posture collars.
Many collars have D-ring attachments so the neck can be either bound to another part of the body, to a fixed object, or so the submissive can be led on a leash.
Slave and ownership collars
In the Ownership Subculture, the wearing of a collar signifies that the wearer is a submissive, and almost always that they are in a relationship with a dominant: it can be used to represent the relationship in much the same way a wedding band does.
Some submissives wear a "symbolic collar", often a bracelet or ankle chain, which is more subdued than the traditional collar and can pass in vanilla situations. It is not uncommon for a submissive to have several collars for special occasions.
It is generally agreed that ownership collars continue to be owned by the dominant for the during of the relationship and should be returned to them if it ends.
Other use of collars
Collars are also used in bondage and the effectiveness of using such an intimate restraint in a bondage scene should not be underestimated, as restraining the neck restrains the head and the apparent seat of consciousness behind the eyes. As well as being very effective in holding the submissive immobile it also reinforces the subject's sense of helplessness and loss of control.
Collars are often used in role-playing games involving humiliation because they have connotations of control and pet-like or animalistic status, especially when worn with a leash. They may also be useful during play as a physical tethering restraint.
It is important to remember that the punk rock and goth scenes have also adopted collars as purely fashion item, so one cannot assume that all people wearing collars are into D/s or BDSM.
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(11) An adornment used to indicate that a submissive is under the direction of a Dominant. A collared submissive is viewed as the property of that Dominant and any interaction with the submissive must be approved by the Dominant who owns the collar. A collar given solely for a purpose of play is used to assist the submissive in achieving the headspace necessary for an SM session.
(c) Also a bondage tool to attach handcuffs, etc.
Collared
(2) To wear the collar of a Dominant. A collared submissive is noted as belonging to the Dominant who owns the collar for the time it is worn, either as a full-time submissive or for a scene.
(c) Not all collars are for an owned sub. A sub can be collared with a collar of protection or a collar of training with neither indicating ownership or an LTR (long term relationship).
(11) To wear the collar of a Dominant. A collared submissive is noted as belonging to the Dominant who owns the collar for the time it is worn, either as a fulltime submissive or for a scene.
Collaring
(2) The formal acceptance by a dominant, of a sub's service, or the "ownership" of a pup by a Master or Trainer. Also, the ceremony is when a dominant commits to a sub (much like a wedding or other contract).
(4) Usually, the formalizing of a relationship between a dominant and submissive. There is no set procedure. It may be a simple understanding between two people or a ceremony attended by friends where vows are exchanged and the submissive is physically 'collared' (given a collar to wear). The collar itself may be symbolic or real. Collaring is often likened to a marriage, although of course, it is not a legal contract.
(9) Wearing a collar to show you are a submissive. Can be as serious as a wedding ring in some BDSM circles.
Collaring Ceremony
(4) A formal ceremony celebrating or symbolizing a commitment between a dominant and a submissive (not unlike a wedding ceremony), typically during which a collar is placed around the submissive’s neck.
Colors; also Club Colors
(2) A patch bearing a Club insignia that is worn on leather or denim vests to show the wearer is a member of the Club.
(11) A patch bearing a Club insignia that is worn on leather or denim vests to show the wearer is a member of the Club.
Competitions, With Other Subs
(3) Scenes involving competitive-type sports or play with other submissives.
(3) See also: Auctioned for Charity.
Coming out
(6) 1noun: the process by which one accepts and/or comes to identify one’s own sexuality or gender identity (to “come out” to oneself).
(6) 2verb: the process by which one shares one’s sexuality or gender identity with others.
Consensual
(2) Used to describe activities that have been agreed upon and consented to between competent adults.
(7) An activity done by two or more consenting adults.
(11) Term used to describe activities that have been agreed upon and consented to between competent adults.
Consensual Non-Consent; Initialism, CNC
(2) Any situation in which one person knowingly and voluntarily gives up the ability to prevent another person from doing whatever he or she wants; as, for example, deliberately engaging in activities which the submissive may be physically prevented from resisting and does not have a safe word. Some forms of rape play are consensual non-consent.
(4) Any situation in which one person knowingly and voluntarily gives up the ability to prevent another person from doing whatever he or she wants. For example, some forms of rape play are consensual non-consent.
(9) also known as rape play (still consensual).
(10) Consensual Nonconsent (CNC) refers to an agreement between a dominant and a submissive, in which some or all authority over the submissive is transferred to the dominant, either permanently or temporarily, on the understanding that the submissive may not withdraw consent for the duration of the agreement.
CNC agreements may be anything from a short-lived BDSM scene (eg being in a cage for an hour irrespective of what the submissive then says) up to a life-long relationship (for example, a submissive consenting to the process of enslavement.)
A CNC agreement is the polar opposite of giving the submissive a safeword as a veto.
From: www.seekdiscipline.com
(c) Note: The term "Consensual Non-Consent" may be easily misunderstood and maybe falling out of favor with alternates becoming more in use.
(c) Also, Meta Consent, Irrevocable Consent, Blanket Consent, Comprehensive Consent, Absolute Consent
Consensual Slavery; from: Master/slave
(10) Master/slave relationships are a special case of D/s, in which the dominant has ultimate authority over the submissive.
Master/slave also exists as a subculture which straddles the Leather and BDSM worlds, and is represented at regular conventions and meetings in North America. These include the annual International Master/slave contest for Master and slave pairs, held as part of South Plains Leatherfest each February; the MASTER/slave Conference held in Washington DC each July, which is also the largest convention dedicated to M/s relationships; and Masters And slaves Together with over 20 chapters across the United States.
From: www.ownership-possession.com
Consensuality Agreement
(1) The somewhat infrequent agreement that a Top requires a bottom to sign before play. This is usually executed in private play where the bottom is a newbie and an experienced Top does not wish to risk the bottom claiming, at some later date, that the scene was non-consensual. Although not legally binding, it does prevent misunderstandings and provides limited legal protection. We will offer some “Consensuality Agreements” in future articles here in Kink Weekly.
Consent
(2) Mutual agreement to the terms of a scene or ongoing BDSM relationship.
(10) Consent is a key concept in all BDSM ethical systems, either as a fundamental element (eg in Safe, Sane, and Consensual, Risk-Aware Consensual Kink, and Informed Consent) or derived from others (such as in BDSM Rights, or Respect for Property.)
O&P and M/s relationships frequently involve subtleties such as Consensual Nonconsent.
Consent in O&P
Consent is one of the ten keywords in the O&P manifesto, which says:
O&P is defined in terms of property, and so uses property as its ethical foundation. People are born owning themselves, under the guardianship of parents. As adults, people have the right to hand over some or all of their self-ownership. Respect for property rights requires that O&P must be entered with the freely given informed consent of the submissive.
by Tanos: House of Tanos
As such, consent is both a defining characteristic of O&P, and something derived from its fundamental concepts of the ownership or possession of property.
From: www.ownership-possession.com
Constellation
(6) noun: a way to describe the arrangement or structure of a polyamorous relationship.
Contract; also, Slave Contract
(2) A written document that outlines in detail a BDSM relationship. Limits, expectations, rules, punishments, goals, and any other issues deemed necessary are all spelled out and usually, a time limit is placed on the contract.
(2) This is not legally binding in a court of law.
(4) An agreement, which formally sets out the roles, responsibilities, and limits of a Domination/submission relationship, sometimes called a slave or ownership contract.
(11) A written document that outlines in detail a BDSM relationship. Limits, expectations, rules, punishments, goals, and any other issues deemed necessary are all spelled out and usually a time limit is placed on the contract.
Corporal Punishment
(2) Any activity involving disciplining a person through physical means, as by spanking.
(4) Any activity involving disciplining a person through physical means, like spanking, caning, etc.
Corset, pl, Corsets
(2) An article of clothing, often made of leather, PVC, or vinyl and sometimes including strips of rigid "boning," which is tightly laced and designed to narrow the waist and lift the breasts, creating an "hourglass" figure.
(2) See related corsetry.
(3) A lingerie / binding type device worn to restrict the chest area and make the waist smaller. Worn by early 19th Century women as a form of formal dress to make one's self more appealing to the opposite sex.
(4) An article of clothing, often made of leather and sometimes includes strips of rigid “boning”, which is tightly laced and designed to narrow the waist and lift the breasts, creating an hourglass figure.
Corset Collar
(2) A specific type of posture collar, typically made of leather, vinyl, PVC, or similar material and sometimes containing rigid inserts or rigid metal sides, which is designed to lace up the front, back, or sides rather than buckling or locking closed.
Corset Piercing
(2) A form of body modification in which multiple rows of rings are placed through a person's skin, then laced together with a silk cord or similar tie. Corset piercings can be done on the back, down the sides, or even on the labia, tying it closed. The piercings themselves may be temporary or permanent.
(4) A form of body modification in which rings are placed through a person’s skin, then laced together with a silk cord. Corset piercings are often done on a person’s back, or even on the labia, tying it closed. The piercings themselves can be either temporary or permanent.
Corset training
(10) Corset training, waist training, or waist reduction is a form of body modification which is achieved by prolonged periods wearing an hourglass corset. Waist reduction, sometimes called "tightlacing," is often used by women who are post-pregnancy or by women involved in BDSM.
No structural features distinguish a modern waist training corset from a corset worn as an external garment for special occasions. Training corsets are always made from strong fabric (or leather) and with relatively inflexible boning (not all corsets are strong enough to mold a body). A training corset is designed to be used every day, and will probably be hidden under clothing, so it is likely that practical aspects (comfort, ease of laundering, etc.) will have been stressed in its construction over aesthetic ones.
Any style of corset can be used for waist training, although some styles are more popular and suitable than others. However, as the corsets necessary to maintain a body modification are no less rigid than those first worn to achieve the modification, there is no effective structural difference between corsets worn during training and those worn once the desired body shape is achieved. The term "training corset" can, therefore, be used for any corset worn by somebody undertaking training.
From: www.ownership-possession.com
Corsetry; also, Tight-lacing
(2) The practice of wearing a corset, often laced extremely tightly, and sometimes constraining motion, as a form of body modification or for control.
(2) See related lacing (def. 1).
(4) The practice of wearing a corset, often laced extremely tightly, and sometimes constraining motion, as a form of body modification or for control.
Corsetting
(8) Body modification or oxygen restriction from using corsets.
(9) Shape changing of the body through corsetry, sometimes includes breath-play.
Costumes
(8) Dress-up clothes for sexual fantasy play.
Counting games; alsoCounting the Strokes
(2) Activity in which the submissive is required to count the number of strikes received. Some Dominants may require a thank you and request for another strike to be added in the response.
(4) A ritualized counting of the strokes of a caning, with the recipient, sometimes being required to thank the dominant after each stroke. If the submissive miscounts a stroke or remains silent, then the stroke may be repeated.
(11) Activity in which the submissive is required to count the number of strikes received. Some Dominants may require a thank you and request for another strike to be added in the response.
(c) Formal response, "Sir. One, Sir. Sir, thank you, Sir. Sir, may I have another, Sir?"
CO-DOM; alsoCo-Dom, CO-MASTER, and other variants
(2) 1. A person who acts in conjunction with or as an assistant to a dominant during a specific scene.
(2) 2. A person who shares a submissive with another dominant, often in the context of a [[polyamorous]] relationship.
(2) verb To act in concert with another dominant.
(4) A person who acts in conjunction with or as an assistant to a dominant during a specific scene.
(c) Sometimes in a long-term living arrangement, where two or more dominants give mutual aid and share in the running of a household with one or more submissives.
Co-Top
(4) A person who acts together with another dominant in a particular scene.
Co-Topping
(2) An activity in which two or more Dominants coordinate a scene with one or more submissives.
(11) Activity in which two or more Dominants coordinate a scene with one or more submissives.
Cracker
(2) 1. A short piece of cord on the end of a whip, which makes a loud cracking sound as the whip is snapped.
(2) 2. Archaic, colloquial, One who wields a whip.
(4) A short piece of cord on the end of a whip, which makes a loud cracking sound as the whip is snapped.
(c) From the sound "crack" that is made when the whip is "cracked", which is basically when the end of the whip moves so fast that the whip's end breaks the sound barrier.
(c) A person of white European descent, also a 'whitie', both used in a pejorative sense, by non-white persons, in the same pejorative sense that a person who is of African descent would be referred to as a 'nigger' by a white person.
Crash; also, Crashing
(2) Colloquial, An abrupt feeling of depression or unhappiness immediately following the end of a BDSM activity. This feeling may be triggered by several different factors, including feelings of guilt (especially among people raised with traditional ideas about sex and relationships), confusion, unexpected psychological response to the activities, or even physiological processes such as a drop in the levels of endorphins.
(2) See related top drop, bottom drop.
(4) An abrupt feeling of depression or unhappiness immediately following the end of a BDSM activity.
(11) See: Top Drop or Bottom Drop.
Crop
(2) Short for a riding crop. The thing that jockeys use on horses. A well-applied crop causes significant pain and will leave marks, even when applied lightly.
(4) A thin flexible instrument used for striking, e.g. riding crop used in the horse industry.
(8) A jockey's riding crop, used as an implement for discipline.
(11) short for riding crop.
(11) See also Riding crop.
Cross
(8) Usually a St. Andrews shaped heavy wooden cross, about 2 meters high, used for bondage during a BDSM scene.
Cross Dresser; also, Cross-dresser
(2) A person who dresses in clothes normally associated with a gender opposite of their own.
(6) noun: someone who wears clothes of another gender/sex.
(11) A person who dresses in clothes normally associated with a gender opposite of their own.
Cross-dressing
(2) Wearing attire normally associated with the opposite sex.
(4) Dressing in clothes of the opposite gender and is a reasonably common fetish.
(7) Dressing in clothing usually worn by the opposite sex.
(8) A person who wears the apparel of the opposite sex.
(9) Wearing another “gender’s” clothing.
Cross-Orientation Play
(2) See orientation play.
Crotch Rope
(2) See sukaranbo.
Crotch Torture
(3) Any form of torture to the male or female genital area.
Crucifixion
(4) As practiced in BDSM usually refers to a kind of bondage where the submissive is tied to a cross. Care needs to be taken to make sure that the weight is supported evenly and that the submissive can breathe properly. More rarely, hard-core devotees go further and actually have themselves nailed to a cross.
Cuckold; alsoA Cuck
(2) CUCKOLD: One whose partner practices cuckoldry.
Cuckoldry
(2) The practice by which a dominant takes one or more sexual partners other than his or her submissive, to humiliate the submissive.
(4) The practice by which a dominant takes one or more sexual partners other than his or her submissive, to humiliate the submissive.
(9) A male partner who loves watching his woman have sex with another man – a form of humiliation.
Cuffs
(2) Either metal or leather and worn on the wrists and/or ankles as a method of restraint.
(3) A leather or metal bondage device is used to restrict movement. Usually locks around the limbs to place the submissive in a precarious position.
(4) Leather, cloth, or metal strap or bridle designed to restrain the wrists or ankles.
(c) Also, Predicament bondage.
Cunnilingus
(2) Use of the lips, tongue, and mouth to stimulate the female genitals.
(5) Sexually stimulating the vagina with a mouth/tongue.
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(8) Oral sex performed on a woman. oral stimulation of the vulva or clitoris.
(8) syn: cunnilinctus.
(11) The use of the lips, tongue, and mouth to stimulate the female genitals.
Cupping
(2) The application of cups or similar items onto the skin to create stimulation. Negative pressure is created inside the cups by the use of fire or vacuum devices to attach the cups to the skin. Cupping originated in China and was first used to treat boils and snake bites but has since evolved to treat various other conditions and illnesses.
(4) A type of sensation play involving the use of small glass or plastic cups which are placed over the skin and then evacuated to create a vacuum, and hence suction.
(9) Heating up a specialized round cup that creates a vacuum on the skin – often used in Chinese therapy.
(11) The application of cups or simialar items onto the skin to create stimulation. Negative pressure is created inside the cups by use of fire or vaccumn devices to attach the cups to the skin. Cupping originated in China and was first used to treat boils and snake bites but has since evolved to treat various other conditions and illnesses.
(10) A curtsey can be defined as being a traditional gesture of greeting, in which the woman bends her knees whilst bowing her head. In essence, the female equivalent of male bowing in Western cultures. In sixteenth and seventeenth-century France the curtsey was used as a basic movement of female reverence and developed a number of variations during its use which indicated the level of reverence shown to those of senior social rank (its flamboyance only restricted by the amount of movement the current fashion in costume allowed.)
In its most basic form, the lady slid back on the instep of the right foot pressing the instep to the ground, behind, and slightly to the left of the left leg. The instep of the sliding foot took the weight and the lady gradually sank down sitting on the bent right leg (arms falling to the side with the head lowered.) The lady then rose with her weight on the left foot since this foot did not move during the entire sequence of the curtsey.
A more formal variant of this more traditional curtsey involved the woman bending the knees outwards rather than straight forward (often sweeping one foot behind her whilst holding her skirt out from the body to show still greater deference.)
On entering a room the curtsey en avant was used and on leaving the curtsey en arrière was more appropriate. A compliment in conversation might also be acknowledged with a curtsey en arrière.
In walking, however, the curtsey en passant was made since this curtsey can be repeated to many different individuals in a group or receiving line.
In England, according to Victorian dance etiquette, a woman curtsied before beginning a dance (and it is common still for female dancers to curtsey at the end of a performance to show gratitude and acknowledgment of applause from the audience.) Throughout the nineteenth century, some female domestic workers also retained the curtsey for use in front of their employers. But, generally, it seems the curtsey was retained only as a show of deference to adults by young girls and by adult women towards members of the Royal family.
In recent years even this tradition has diminished. In 2003, at the request of the Duke and Duchess of Kent, Female tennis players were no longer required to curtsey to the Royal family when walking onto or leaving Centre Court (although they are still required to do so if Queen Elizabeth II or Prince Charles is in the box.)
Emily Post, in 1922, was still writing of "little girls" curtseying in deference to visitors at afternoon tea and of adult ladies curtseying deeply as they are received at Court by the Queen.
From: www.seekdiscipline.com
Cutting
(2) The act of decorative scarification using a scalpel or other sharp, sterile, instrument. This activity is not one for novices as it can be extremely dangerous.
(3) Cutting the surface of the skin with sharp objects, generally a knife, for the thrill, sensation, or pain. To also create decorative scars. The same basic precautions apply as with other types of blood play.
(3) Remember: Stay away from vital organ areas and genital cutting.
(3) See also: Abrasion, Branding, Castration Fantasy, Knife Play.
(4) Generally, slicing the skin with a sharp implement (knife or scalpel) so that blood is shed.
(7) Shallow decorative cuts are placed on the skin using a sharp instrument in an SM activity.
(11) The act of decorative scarification using a scalpel or other sharp, sterile, instrument. This activity is not one for novices as it can be extremely dangerous.
(c) High Risk
Cybersex
(4) Most commonly involves two or more people, who are communicating in real-time via their computers, constructing a shared sexual fantasy and describing to each other how they feel and what they are 'doing'. A bit like an interactive erotic story.
(4) also, online sex, virtual sex, virtual screening.
(c) The technological successor to phone sex.
Consensual Slavery
(10) Master/slave relationships are a special case of D/s, in which the dominant has ultimate authority over the submissive.
Master/slave also exists as a subculture that straddles the Leather and BDSM worlds and is represented at regular conventions and meetings in North America. These include the annual International Master/slave contest for Master and slave pairs, held as part of South Plains Leatherfest each February; the MASTER/slave Conference held in Washington DC each July, which is also the largest convention dedicated to M/s relationships; and Masters And slaves Together with over 20 chapters across the United States.
(10) A coffle is a gang of slaves, chained or roped together in a line, for transportation on foot.