(1) Bondage and Discipline. Although they go together in this phrase, they are not inextricably linked. Bondage means restraining someone in a helpless position (such as being tied up.) Discipline is training a person to behave in a certain way. They tend to go together because Dominants tend to do both to their submissives.
(2) An abbreviation for Bondage and Discipline.
Ball Busting; Also: Ball Play
(4) An activity involving the dominant kicking, kneeing, or striking (using fists) a submissive in the genital area, particularly the testicles.
(11) Erotic manipulation of the testicles and scrotum. Such scenes can involve bondage, piercing, weighting, stretching, tickling, slapping, castration, and other activities.
Ball Gag
(2) Toy used in BDSM play to prevent a sub from speaking. Mouthpieces are usually made from a rubber ball that is jammed between a submissive's teeth and secured in place by a strap or a little string. Could be made of plastic or leather too.
(4) A gag consisting of a ball, usually made of rubber, which is attached to a strap. The ball is placed in the mouth, with the strap tied around the head to hold it securely in place.
Ball Hood
(2) A specific type of hood, often without openings for the eyes or ears and sometimes containing integrated bladders designed to be inflated with air to press the hood tightly against the head, used as a means of rendering a person unable to hear, see, or speak.
(4) A specific type of hood, often without openings for the eyes or ears and sometimes containing integrated bladders designed to be inflated with air to press the hood tightly against the head, used as a means of rendering a person unable to hear, see or speak.
Ball Play
(2) Erotic manipulation of the testicles and scrotum. Such scenes can involve bondage, piercing, weighting, stretching, tickling, slapping, castration, and other activities.
Ball Stretching
(3) Play that involves a type of penile constraint attached to weights to provide a variety of sensations including discomfort and pain, while stretching the testicles and scrotum.
Ball Tie
(2) A specific form of bondage in which the person is bound in a seated position with the knees up, the head bent down over the knees, and the hands behind the back.
(4) A specific type of bondage in which a person is bound in a seated position with the knees up, the head bent down over the knees and the hands behind the back. This posture quickly becomes tiring and should not be attempted by those unaccustomed to it.
Bandage Scissors
(4) Specialised scissors often used by emergency medical personnel, consisting of a pair of scissors with one sharp blade and one blunt blade with a rounded end. The blunt blade can be slid beneath bandages or anything else wrapped tightly around a limb without the risk of cutting or injuring a person.
Bare-backing
(9) Sex without a condom (E)
(c) High Risk
Bastinado
(2) The act of striking or whipping the feet with a rod, cane, or similar object.
(4) Any form of pain play, involving the infliction of pain on the soles of the feet, often by striking, cropping, or whipping them.
(11) The act of striking or whipping the feet with a rod, cane, or similar object.
Bat
(2) A thin, flexible instrument used for striking, consisting of a rigid but flexible shaft wrapped or braided with leather or cloth, very similar to a crop but usually slightly shorter and with a wider leather striking tip.
(4) A thin, flexible instrument used for striking, consisting of a rigid but flexible shaft wrapped or braided with leather or cloth, very similar to a crop, but usually shorter and with a wider leather striking tip.
(c) Contraction for Baton, as in a police officer's club.
Bathroom Use Control; also, Bathroom Control
(3) Scenes where the Dominant restricts or takes control over the submissive's bodily functions through the use of techniques such as catheterization, enemas, diapers, rubber pants, and possibly golden showers.
(3) Examples in play: House training a puppy, age play, and golden shower play.
(3) See also: Catheterization, Enemas
(9) Deciding when someone can use the restroom.
BD, Also: B/D, B & D
(11) Abbreviation for Bondage and Discipline.
(11) See also, Bondage and Discipline
BDSM; Also, BDsM; Initialism
(1) A popular acronym for activities inclusive of (but not limited to) Bondage, Domination/Discipline Submission/Sadism & Masochism. Also called WIITWD, an acronym for “What It Is That We Do.” Both mean this type of alternative lifestyle. Sometimes the word “Bondage” has the same broad range meaning when used in a descriptive context.
(4) Originated on the internet as an all-inclusive term to bring together the distinct but related activities of Bondage and Discipline (BD), Dominance and Submission (D/s), and Sado-Masochism (SM).
(8) Bondage, domination, sadism/submission, and masochism; used as a generic term to describe one portion of the alternative sex community.
(10) BDSM is an overlapping abbreviation for Bondage & Discipline (B&D), Dominance/submission (D/s), and Sadomasochism (SM or S&M).
The term BDSM apparently originated in the late 1980s following discussions on various adult bulletin board systems and other online venues aimed at creating a single over-arching term to encompass all participants in leather, fetish, SM, and similar activities. While the search continues, as of yet, no one has found the definitive first use of the term. It clearly predates 1991 and probably predates 1989. Various reports suggest its first use on the Compuserve Human Sexuality area moderated by BDSM author Gloria Brame or even earlier on the fetish/SM area that flourished as part SOBnet (Sexually Oriented Bulletin Board network) in the mid-1980s. BDSM's component parts (B&D, D/S or D&S, and SM or S/M or S&M) were all in common use in adult classified ads in the United States by the end of the 1970s.
Ownership and Master/slave relationships are part of the D/s aspect of BDSM.
Alternet text Ownership and Possession relationships are part of the D/s aspect of BDSM, and O&P relationships frequently involve other aspects too.
From: www.seekdiscipline.com
Alternet text from: www.ownership-possession.com
(11) Term which combines B & D , D/s, and S & M.
(11) See also, B & D , D/s, and S & M.
(c) BD - Bondage and Discipline, also Bondage and Degradation, DS - Domination and Submission, SM - Sadism and Masochism, slave and Master. An umbrella term intended to cover all things kinky.
BDSM Play Scene
(10) The BDSM Play Scene refers to the various public and semi-public communities and groups of practitioners of physical BDSM play, where the primary object of that play is sexual or sensual pleasure, or an enjoyment of achieving technical competence.
Other related scenes include the Fetish Scene, the Leather subculture, and the Ownership Subculture.
From: www.seekdiscipline.com
BDSM Rights
(10) BDSM Rights is the belief that people whose sexuality or relationship preferences include Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, or Sadism and Masochism ("BDSM") deserve the same human rights as everyone else, and should not be discriminated against for pursuing BDSM with consenting adults.
When confronting discrimination against BDSM by governments, employers, or other organizations, the concept of BDSM Rights provides a way of introducing arguments based on human rights laws and conventions. This is particularly relevant in European countries, where the European Convention on Human Rights (ECHR) provides many of the safeguards which are enshrined in constitutional rights in other countries.
Criticisms
However, in the Ownership Subculture (and some areas within the BDSM play scene, such as edgeplay), this approach is limited due to the ability of governments to override personal freedoms for the greater good ("for the protection of health or morals" in the words of the ECHR.) Furthermore, the concept of inalienable rights can be at odds with the consensual nonconsent present in ownership relationships.
(3) Striking the body with various objects or the hand. Typically administered as punishment in connection with childhood punishments.
(3) Example: The Dominant may administer a "beating" to an unruly submissive.
(3) See also: Spanking, Caning
Begging
(10) Begging in O&P relationships is a very submissive way of asking for something that acknowledges that the dominant has the choice about whether to say yes or no. Begging often involves using cues that imply a difference in status and make the submissive appear vulnerable (vulnerable to the reply "no" about something they obviously really want in particular.) Those cues seem to connect to some subconscious part of humans being begged to, whether the response is mercy or just a sadistic smile.
As everything in a slave's life is a privilege, all requests by a slave are implicitly or explicitly a type of begging, as they are from a position of vulnerability rather than control. For this reason, the ability to beg well is something for slaves to cultivate so they can present their desires appropriately and increase the chance those requests are granted.
"Begging 101"
In a weblog post, Tanos gave the following recipe for begging:
Say what it is you're asking for. This is what it's all about.
Say why it's important to you. This makes your vulnerability about this more significant.
Say that it's entirely up to the dominant whether you get it.
Say "please". A lot. That says lack of status (very polite) and that the dominant has all the choice ("please" is short for "if it pleases you".)
Use the dominant's form of address (or name, as appropriate) to help stress the status differential.
Use any available physical way of stressing the status differential (kneeling, hands clasped, tears etc.)
Don't do anything resembling negotiation. You're not striking a bargain. You're making it look like the dominant has all the power. They'll like that ;)
Keep doing all that, in some kind of slightly random, Jazz improvisation sort of order, until they let you stop.
For example:
Please Brer Fox, don't throw me in the briar patch! Please! I'm begging you, sir, please! The briars will tear me to pieces, please don't Brer Fox, please. I know I've always tricked you and I don't deserve anything but the briars, but please have mercy, sir! I begging on my knees. Please!
Brer Rabbit and the Tar Baby, A Georgia Folktale
etc etc.
From: www.ownership-possession.com
Being Serviced, sexually
(3) Play which involves just that. The Dominant instructing the submissive to do exactly how He / She wants the submissive to perform sexually.
Bell Dancing
(2) Attaching bells or other noise-making items to the skin with the use of temporary piercing or sutures. Once attached the person begins moving to cause them to sound.
(11) Attaching bells or other noise making items to the skin with the use of temporary piercing or sutures. Once attached the person begins moving to cause them to sound.
(11) See also: temporary piercing
Belting
(2) The practice of striking a person with a belt or with any long, narrow, belt-like strap
Berkley Horse
(2) A type of bondage furniture consisting of a padded bench with integrated restraints and a pair of arms to which a person's legs can be affixed. A person is bent over the Berkley Horse and restrained in place; the Berkley Horse is designed so that it can be elevated, rotated, or moved into any position, and the arms to which the ankles are bound can be opened or closed. Etymology: The Berkley Horse was allegedly invented in 1828 by Theresa Berkley, a prodomme in London who specialized in flogging her clients.
Bestiality
(2) Sexual acts performed between a human and an animal.
(3) Play which incorporates the use of animals for sexual pleasure. Not to be confused with animal role-playing.
(3) This form of play can be very dangerous.
(4) Sexual intercourse or other sexually motivated activity between a person and an animal.
(8) See zoophilia.
(11) Sexual acts performed between a human and an animal.
(c) High Risk
Better too little than too much
(2) An unwritten rule when playing with someone new to the scene or new to each other: it is better to end the scene while still wanting more than to end it regretting doing too much.
(11) An unwritten rule when playing with someone new to the scene or new to each other that means that it is better to end the scene while still wanting more than to end it regretting doing to much.
(11) See also, Play
Bicurious
(6) adj.: a curiosity toward experiencing attraction to people of the same gender/sex.
(6) Similar toQuestioning.
Bigender
(6) adj.: a person who fluctuates between traditionally “woman” and “man” gender-based behavior and identities, identifying with two genders.
(6) Sometimes identifying with either man or woman, as well as a third, different gender.
Binder
(6) noun: an undergarment used to alter or reduce the appearance of one’s breasts (worn similarly to how one wears a sports bra).
Binding
(6) verb: the (sometimes daily) process of wearing a binder. Binding is often used to change the way others read/perceive one’s anatomical sex characteristics, and/or as a form of gender expression.
(8) Wrapping the feet or genitals with string, rope, or lace.
Biological sex
(6) noun: a medical term used to refer to the chromosomal, hormonal, and anatomical characteristics that are used to classify an individual as female or male or intersex.
(6) Often referred to as simply “sex,” “physical sex,” “anatomical sex,” or specifically as “sex assigned at birth.”
Biphobia
(6) noun: a range of negative attitudes (e.g., fear, anger, intolerance, invisibility, resentment, erasure, or discomfort) that one may have or express toward bisexual individuals. Biphobia can come from and be seen within the LGBTQ community as well as straight society.
Biphobic
(6) adj.: a word used to describe actions, behaviors, or individuals who demonstrate elements of this range of negative attitudes toward bisexual people.
Birch
(2) noun An implement used for striking, consisting of a bundle of light, thin wooden rods, typically made of birch.
(2) verb To strike with a birch.
(4) An implement used for striking. Consisting of a bundle of light, thin wooden rods, typically made of birch.
Bisexual; also, bisexuality
(6) 1noun & adj. : a person who experiences attraction to some men and women.
(6) 2adj. : a person who experiences attraction to some people of their gender and another gender. Bisexual attraction does not have to be equally split or indicate a level of interest that is the same across the genders an individual may be attracted to.
(6) Often used interchangeably with “Pansexual”.
(8) People who are sexually attracted to both sexes.
(8) adjective, noun: 1. characterized by other-sex and same-sex contacts, either concurrently or sequentially in the course of development, either in genital acts or as a long-term sexuoerotic status [from Latin, bi, two + sex].
(8) 2. bisexuality; bisexualism: erotic pairing with partners of either genital morphology, usually serially, but possibly simultaneously. The distribution of heterophilia and homophilia in bisexuality may be 50:50 or, more likely, in unequal proportions such as 60:40 or 20:80. Bisexuality is not a paraphilia, although paraphilias may exist in association with bisexuality. People who are sexually attracted to both sexes.
(8) Antonym, monosexual.
Bit
(2) See mouth bit.
Biting
(3) Scenes involving the biting of the skin to induce pain. Safety Note: Although certain types of nibbling/biting are quite safe, extreme biting causing breaking/bleeding of the skin is not recommended and can be dangerous if not carefully done.
(9) Gimme those teeth.
(c) Moderate to High Risk.
Black room; Historical
(2) An old term used for 'dungeon'.
(7) See Dungeon
(11) an old term used for 'dungeon'.
(11) See Dungeon, Playroom
Black Sheep Party
(2) An orgy for people into BDSM sex.
Black Snake
(2) A completely flexible single-tail whip.
(11) a completely flexible single-tail whip.
(11) See also, single-tail
Blading; Colloquial
(2) See knife play.
Blindfold; also, Blindfolds, Blindfolding
(2) noun Any implement designed to prevent a person from seeing by covering the eyes.
(2) verb The act of using a blindfold on a person.
(3) Play which involves temporarily blocking the submissive's sense of sight. This type of play is essential when everyday objects are used to give unexpected sensations. Blindfolds come in many forms from the more expensive leather (full-head type) to the more inexpensive handkerchiefs, scarves, bandages.
(3) Safety Note: Do not make the blindfold too tight as to put pressure on the eyeballs. Although some people take blindfolding in stride, it can have unpredictable psychological effects and be extremely frightening for some people.
(3) See also: Full-Head Hoods.
(4) Devices that block vision and are used in BDSM play to create feelings of helplessness and disorientation.
(8) Covering the eyes during sexual play.
(c) Moderate Risk
Blood Choking
(9) Making someone pass out by restricting blood flow to the brain (E).
(c) High Risk
Blood Play
(9) Sexual arousal from seeing, letting, or playing with blood. Has many other subgenres like vampirism (E).
(c) High Risk
Blood Sports, akaBlood Play, Bloodsports
(2) Deliberate breaking of the skin during an SM scene. Play involving cutting, piercing, heavy caning or flogging, etc. are included. This type of scene requires extreme safety techniques to protect all parties from the possibility of spreading/contracting diseases such as AIDS, hepatitis, and other blood-hosted viruses.
(4) BDSM activities, which break the skin and result in blood being shed.
(4) Example, cutting with a knife or razor, a hard whipping or caning, branding or piercing. A few Goths who dabble on the fringes of BDSM are heavily into the 'vampire' thing and see themselves as bloodsuckers, but Dracula of course didn't have to contend with AIDS.
(11) Deliberate breaking of the skin during an SM scene. Play involving cutting, piercing, heavy caning or flogging, etc. are included. This type of scene requires extreme safety techniques to protect all parties from the possibility of spreading/contracting diseases such as AIDS, hepatitis, and other blood-hosted viruses.
(c) High Risk.
Blow Job
(8) Vernacular term for fellatio.
Blue
(2) A safeword used to end an activity taking place in a scene that is not being enjoyed.
(11) A safeword used to end an activity taking place in a scene that is not being enjoyed.
(11) See also, Safeword
Body Bag
(2) A long, heavy bag, often shaped like a narrow sleeping bag and typically made of canvas, rubber, or latex, used to restrain a person very tightly. Sometimes includes integrated straps that wrap around the person within the bag.
(2) See related mummification.
(4) A long, heavy bag, often shaped like a narrow sleeping bag. Typically made from canvass, rubber, or latex. It is used to restrain a person very tightly. Sometimes includes integrated straps, which wrap around the person within the bag.
Body Fluid Monogamy
(4) When both partners in a steady relationship deciding to share body fluids only with each other to avoid the risks of AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases, only having sex outside of the relationship by practicing strict safe sex.
Body Harness
(2) A harness consisting of a series of straps designed to be worn around the torso, which may optionally include a mechanism for locking the harness into place and may also include rings or other attachments for ropes, cuffs, or chastity belts.
(4) A harness consisting of a series of straps designed to be worn around the torso, which may optionally include a mechanism for locking the harness into place and may also include rings or other attachments for ropes, cuffs, or chastity belts.
Body Modification
(2) The act of altering the skin, in appearance or shape. The most popular forms of modification are tattoos, piercing, scarification, branding, and corseting. These acts are used as a form of spiritual release, personal freedom, or in the BDSM realm can be used as a mark of Ownership and/or commitment.
(4) An inclusive term covering piercing, tattooing, and other practices, which decorate or change the body for erotic or fetish purposes. Now often used in mainstream culture simply as a fashion statement rather than an indication of an alternative lifestyle.
(11) The act of altering the skin, in appearance or shape. Most popular forms of modification are tattoos, piercing, scarification, branding, and corseting. These acts are used as a form of spiritual release, personal freedom, or in the BDSM realm can be used as a mark of Ownership and/or commitment.
Body Painting
(8) Drawing or painting temporary designs on the body.
(9) Painting bodies, treating the skin as a human canvas.
Body Worship
(2) An act in which the submissive is allowed to touch, kiss, suck, lick, or otherwise stimulate, a part of the Dominant's body. This is usually an act of reward, though can also be a form of humiliation.
(4) Any practice of physically reverencing a part of another person's body, and is usually done as a submissive act in the context of BDSM. Typical kinds of body worship are muscle worship, foot worship, pussy worship, cock worship (or oral servitude), and ass worship. Body worship is popular among people of all sexual orientations and gender identities.
(4) Usually accompanied by prostration, re-enforcing a sense of inferiority, a "sub" generally licks, kisses and sucks their dominant's body part, and is not allowed to touch it more conventionally. The aspect of erotic humiliation is perhaps appreciated by bearing in mind the commonplace phrase "kiss my ass." Facesitting and smothering are forms of body worship that differ chiefly because of their aggressive approach.
(8) Sex game in which one partner is made to adore another's body.
(11) An act in which the submissive is allowed to touch, kiss, suck, lick, or otherwise stimulate, a part of the Dominant's body. This is usually an act of reward, though can also be a form of humiliation.
Boi, alsoBOI, Colloquial
(2) 1. A person, usually biologically female and often boyish or "butch" in manner, appearance, or dress, who is submissive; commonly but not exclusively used in lesbian D/s relationships.
(2) 2. An effeminate man.
(4) A person, usually biologically female and often boyish of “butch” in manner, appearance, and dress, who is submissive. Commonly but not exclusively used in lesbian D/s relationships.
(c) modern A gay man, usually young, usually but not exclusively bottom.
(c) An alternative spelling of "boy" for a gay male of legal age.
(c) historical, c. 1992 Used for AOL chat rooms to get around the filters in the "M4M" rooms that would presume "boy" was an invitation or solicitation for an underage male to participate in sexual discussions.
(11) See, Boy
Bondage
(1) Making a submissive physically helpless and to a great extent immobilized. Techniques include rope ties, handcuffs, leather cuffs, stocks, and mummification.
(2) Many practices involving tying or securing a person, as with ropes, cuffs, chains, or other restraints. Restraint bondage, the most common form of bondage, involves immobilizing a person, by tying or otherwise restraining him or her to an object or by binding his or her limbs together. Stimulation bondage is any form of tying in such a way that the subject is not immobilized and has freedom of motion, but the ropes or ties shift and move against the body, often insensitive or erogenous areas; certain forms of shibari are stimulation bondage. A person in bondage is said to be bound.
(2) Physical restraint of a person using various materials to restrict movement. Ropes, cuffs, spaghetti (see food play), hanging cages, etc. can be used in such scenes.
(3) The restriction of a person's bodily movements for erotic reasons using fastenings of various types or textures. Also used in S/m practices though with a heavier pretense.
(3) Examples: Rope, cuffs, chains, and other restraining apparatus.
(3) See also: Breast / Chest Bondage, Immobilization, Intricate Japanese Rope Bondage, Manacles / Irons, Mummification, Shibari, Spreader Bar, Straight Jacket.
(4) Being rendered helpless by restraints. For many people, the knowledge that they are powerless, that someone else can do things with their body and they can't prevent them, is a powerful turn-on. For others, the physical sensation of bondage feels erotic.
(7) Physical materials applied to a submissive to restrain their ability to move, to restrict them.
(8) The state of one who is bound as a slave or serf.
(8) A state of subjection to a force, power, or influence.
(8) The practice of being physically restrained, as with cords or handcuffs, as a means of attaining sexual gratification.
(8) also: [Villeinage - the tenure or status of a villein, a feudal tenant entirely subject to a lord or manor to whom he paid dues and services in return for land.]
(9) Restraining or restricting movement
(11) Term used to describe physical restraint of a person using various materials in order to restrict movement. Ropes, cuffs, spaghetti (see food play), hanging cages, etc. can be used in such scenes.
Bondage and Discipline; also, B & D
(2) Some people believe it to be the same as SM; others argue they are totally different activities. I view it as different in the sense that it reflects the definite use of bondage in play, where SM reflects the definite use of erotic pain.
(8) In the vernacular, sadomasochism involving constraint with rope, chains, or other equipment, and abuse, punishment, or torture with various forms of equipment to enforce obedience, servitude, or enslavement.
(11) Some people believe it to be the same as SM; others argue they are totally different activities. I view it as different in the sense that it reflects the definite use of bondage in play, where SM reflects the definite use of erotic pain
(11) See also SM.
Bondage Belt
(2) A belt used to restrain a person, which consists of a heavy band of leather or similar material which can be strapped or locked about the waist and which has several attachment points to which the subject's wrists may be bound.
(4) A belt used to restrain a person, which consists of a heavy band of leather or similar material, which can be strapped or locked about the waist and which has several attachment points to which the subject’s wrists may be bound.
Bondage Bunny, Colloquial
(2) A person who enjoys being tied or bound. Usage: Often implies that the person described is not necessarily submissive or masochistic, but enjoys bondage because he or she takes pleasure from being restrained.
(4) A person who enjoys being tied or bound. Often implies that the person described is not necessarily submissive, but enjoys bondage and takes pleasure from being restrained.
Bondage Clubs
(1) Private clubs where lifestylers meet and play. Usually filled with equipment such as the St. Andrews Cross and spanking benches, these are great places to not only play but learn by observing others do their scenes.
Bondage Mitt; alsoBondage Mitten
(2) A fingerless mitten, often made of leather, canvas, heavy vinyl, PVC, or similar materials, which is placed over the hand and then fastened in place with an integrated buckling or locking cuff. The bondage mitt holds the hand flat or balled up, and prevents the wearer from being able to pick things up or otherwise make use of his or her hands.
Bondage Scissors
(2) Specialized scissors, often used by emergency medical personnel, consisting of a pair of scissors with one sharp blade and one blunt blade with a rounded end. The blunt blade can be slid beneath bandages or anything else wrapped tightly around a limb without the risk of cutting or injuring the person.
Bondage Tape
(2) A vinyl tape material, available in many colors, which sticks only to itself but not to other materials such as skin or clothing, making it ideal for bondage.
(4) A vinyl tape material, available in many colors, that sticks only to itself but not to other materials such as skin, clothing, making it ideal for bondage.
Boot Boy
(4) The name given to a submissive (usually gay) male who has a fetish for leather boots worn by dominants, and who often works at a leather bar or charitable event shining shoes. The conclusion to the shoe-shining may be oral service to the boots.
Boot slave
(2) A submissive whose sole purpose, no pun intended, is to care for a Dominant's fetish footwear.
(11) A submissive whose sole purpose, no pun intended, is to care for a Dominant's fetish footwear.
Boot worship
(2) A reward granted to a submissive with a boot fetish in which the submissive shows admiration to the Dominant by kissing, rubbing, riding, and/or otherwise manipulating the Dominant's boot.
(3) The practice of play involving a fetish for boots/shoes. Commonly used for Domination and humiliation practices (i.e., licking or cleaning of the Dominant's boots, shoes, or bare feet).
(3) See also: Foot Worship, Homage, High Heels
(11) A reward granted to a submissive with a boot fetish in which the submissive shows admiration to the Dominant by kissing, rubbing, riding, and/or otherwise manipulating the Dominant's boot.
Bootblack
(2) A person who has mastered the art of polishing, cleaning, worshipping, and caring for boots.
(11) A person who has mastered the art of polishing, cleaning, worshipping, and caring for boots.
Bottom
(1) A submissive. Also can be called a slave. As many say there are differences between these terms, I will cover that debate in future columns.
(2) A person involved in the scene that has masochistic tendencies and gives control only during a scene.
(4) The word used in BDSM to describe a person who receives pain or sensation, and a 'top' is the person who gives it. There is no implied domination or submission. The term 'bottom' includes anyone who is on the receiving end of BDSM activities like bondage, corporal punishment, spanking, etc. The words are sometimes also used as verbs (example: to 'top' someone, or to 'bottom' for someone).
(7) A submissive and or a masochist. Someone who enjoys being given various sensations rather than being controlled. Refers to the submissive during the sex act.
(8) Passive partner who experiences stimuli during sex games; also known as a masochist, slave, or submissive. An S&M term describing the submissive or masochistic partner in a scene. The word "bottoming" is sometimes used as a verb.
(10) The bottom is the participant in a BDSM activity who takes the passive role. For example, who is struck with the flogger, is tied by the ropes, or obeys the orders. A minority limit the meaning of the word bottom to physical BDSM, but the most common usage of the word includes submissives as a special type of bottom.
From: www.seekdiscipline.com
(11) A person involved in the scene that has masochistic tendencies and gives control only during a scene.
Bottom's Disease
(2) Used to describe a submissive that acts as such towards others without permission or prior negotiation. This is looked down upon by most and viewed as portraying a lack of knowledge regarding proper 'protocol'. The term is synonymous with Top's disease.
(11) Term used to describe a submissive that acts as such towards others without permission or prior negotiation. This is looked down upon by most and viewed as portraying a lack of knowledge regarding proper 'protocol'. Term synonymous with Top's disease.
(11) See also Top's disease.
Bottom Drop
(2) A temporary bout of depression suffered by a bottom or submissive after a scene. This can be accompanied by feelings of guilt, failure, and confusion. In the book "The Loving Dominant" written by John Warren, Ph.D., the explanation of why this occurs follow the hypothesis that the body interprets the return of the bodies normal sensation levels as a depression which in turn causes the mind to create a further downward spiral while attempting to understand the perceived depression.
(c) The term is synonymous with Top Drop.
(4) A sudden, abrupt feeling of depression, unhappiness, or similar negative emotion in a submissive, which may occasionally occur immediately after a BDSM activity.
(11) a temporary bout of depression suffered by a bottom or submissive after a scene. This can be accompanied with feelings of guilt, failure, and confusion. In the book "The Loving Dominant" written by John Warren, Ph.D., the explanation of why this occurs follow the hypothesis that the body interprets the return of the bodies normal sensation levels as a depression which in turn causes the mind to create a further downward spiral while attempting to understand the perceived depression. I believe it can also be caused by sudden feelings of guilt over participating in acts deemed 'immoral' or 'unhealthy' by the standards of society. Term synonymous with Top Drop.
(11) See also Top Drop
Bottom Space
(2) The mental state that a bottom or submissive enters either naturally or during a scene that allows a complete release of submissive energy. The term is synonymous with Top space.
(4) A euphoric state reportedly experienced by some 'bottoms' during BDSM play when they are receiving pleasure or pain, allegedly triggered by the release of endorphins.
(4) Also known as sub-space, endorphin-high, or 'flying'.
(11) The mental state a bottom or submissive enters either naturally or during a scene that allows a complete release of submissive energy. Term synonymous with Top space.
(11) See also Top space
Boundaries
(2) Limits outlined and agreed upon by the parties involved during negotiations of a scene or BDSM relationship.
(4) The personal lines that people don’t wish, or aren't prepared, to cross.
(4) Example: Refusing any activity that involves children, animals, bloodsports, 'scat', (shit), or any subject or situation which either the dominant or submissive finds frightening or repulsive.
(4) Also called ‘limits’.
(11) Limits outlined and agreed upon by the parties involved during negotiations of a scene or BDSM relationship.
(11) See also Limits.
Bow
(10) Bowing, as with the curtsey, was performed as a social gesture and involved the act of lowering the head, or sometimes the entire upper body from the waist. Bowing probably originated as a gesture of deference (or subordination) since lowering the head leaves the bower vulnerable. Different cultures have placed varying degrees of importance on bowing and have used bowing in a variety of ways. In Japan, for example, the Samurai (who were near the top of a highly stratified society) are said to have retained the right to kill anyone who did not show them the proper respect by bowing.
In European cultures bowing was an exclusively male practice and in the courtly circles of Europe, males were expected to "bow and scrape" where scraping referred to the drawing back of the right leg as the bow was taken, such that the right foot scraped the floor. Typically the left hand pressed horizontally across the abdomen while the right hand was held out from the body whilst performing the bow in a display of deference to those being bowed to.
In Japan, bows are called o-jigi, o-rei, or rei and are the traditional greeting, but bowing is not reserved only for greeting. Different bows are used for apologies and gratitude, to express different emotions, humility, sincerity, remorse, or deference.
For Japanese men and boys, basic bows are performed with the back straight and the hands at the sides. Girls and women bow with their hands clasped in the lap and with eyes down or closed. Japanese bows originate at the waist and generally the longer and deeper the bow, the stronger the emotion and generally speaking an inferior bows longer and more deeply (and more frequently) than a superior.
Japanese bows can be divided into three main categories: informal, formal, and very formal. Informal bows are made at about a fifteen-degree angle, and more formal bows at about thirty degrees. Very formal bows are deeper still. In extreme cases (in apology or thanks) a kneeling bow known as saikeirei ("most respectful bow") may be performed, which is so deep that the forehead touches the floor.
Unlike Japan, bowing in Chinese culture is not nearly so formal and is normally reserved for occasions such as funerals or ancestral worship only. However, kneeling and bowing so low as to touch the head to the ground as an act of deep respect, known as kowtow (from the Chinese term kòu tóu) was required to come into the presence of the Emperor of China throughout the seventeenth and eighteenth century. Current Chinese etiquette, however, does not contain any situations in which the kowtow is regularly practiced, although it may still occur in rare and extreme cases, for example, where one is begging for forgiveness or offering an extreme apology.
Emily Post describes a number of different situations which require a variety of bows. From the "bow of ceremony" or standing bow (made by a gentleman when he rises at a dinner to say a few words, or as he bows to a lady or an elderly gentleman across the room at a formal dinner) to the informal bow (when acknowledging a friend on the street.) In all cases, it would seem that the countenance of the person performing the bow is as important as the performance of the bow itself.
Unlike Japanese culture excessive bowing in European cultures was avoided. Under formal circumstances, a lady would bow to a gentleman first. People who knew each other well would bow spontaneously, but in meeting the same person many times within an hour or so, bowing would not be performed beyond the second (or at most the third) meeting.
Curtsey en avant:
Here the lady pauses on the foot that made the last step, slides the disengaged foot into the fourth position, or to the front, and bends the knees with her weight equally distributed (and without bending the body or shaking) she then rises with the weight on the front foot.
Curtsey en arriere:
Stepping aside, the lady curtsies in the first or third position with weight on the rear foot.
Curtsey en passant:
The lady positions herself parallel to the person being greeted, makes a step on the left foot, and half turns to the person, then bends her knees bringing forward the right foot and coming up with the weight on the right foot.
Bow of ceremony:
This bow would include an apparent "heel-clicking" motion with a quick bend from the hips and neck (remaining quite rigid in between.) The countenance should remain serious and eye contact should be maintained throughout.
An informal bow:
The informal bow is a modification of the bow of ceremony, but is less rigid ("but should suggest the ease of controlled muscles".) In this bow, however, the bow is made with a smile (or to a very intimate friend, with a broad grin) and should be accompanied by a formal salutation.
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Box Tie
(2) A specific form of bondage in which a person brings his or her arms together and grips each forearm with the opposite hand, and then ropes are brought around the forearms to tie them together. Often combined with ropes between the upper arms to prevent the bound person from slipping his or her arms sideways out of the tie.
Boy
(2) A term used to describe a bottom or submissive who relates to the Dominant in a parent/ child nature. A boy can be a natural male or a female who relates to the male gender. Some butch females prefer to use an 'i' instead of the 'y' resulting in the term 'boi'.
(4) A term sometimes used for male submissives, which has a special meaning in the gay leather culture where it may also refer to the submissive partner in a Daddy/boy relationship. The word is also used in lesbian culture to denote a male-identified (but biologically female) bottom.
(7) A submissive (male or female) who relates to their Dominant as a male child to parent.
(c) See Commentary at Boi.
(c) Historical: antebellum: used to refer to a male black slave, regardless of age; 1950-1970: used to refer to a male BDSM slave regardless of race.
(11) Term used to describe a bottom or submissive who relates to the Dominant in a parent/ child nature. A boy can be a natural male or a female who relates to the male gender. Some butch females prefer to use an'i' instead of the 'y' resulting in the term 'boi'.
Branding
(2) The burning of the skin with a piece of hot metal to produce a design, as well as an endorphin rush. Burn scars can spread or disfigure so a trained modification artist should only perform this activity.
(3) Making a permanent or semi-permanent scar on the skin by burning it with a hot metal object, as practiced on livestock. Seen by some as "body art", this technique can be carried out safely; however, it is still likely to be intensely painful. Can also use temporary tattoos or markers. Used by Dominants to mark Their property.
(3) Not for the novice.
(3) See also: Cutting, Knife Play, Tattoo.
(4) Burning the skin with heated metal to produce scarification in a design or pattern. It is sometimes used as decoration or to signify ownership, as when a 'master' will brand his 'slave' to denote that she is his property.
(9) Marking the skin with a heated object to form an image, word, or symbol (E).
(10) Burning the skin with a mark to indicate the status of property (or criminal conviction in some cases.) As with livestock, branding slaves has a long history.
The Babylonian "Code of Hammurabi" from 1780 BC recorded laws regulating the branding of slaves (and penalties for surgeons obscuring such brands), and this image shows a bronze branding iron with the cunieform characters for "I am his slave", apparently from 2000-1800 BC.
As largely permanent marks, brands identifying owners are unsuitable if the owner is likely to change. However, the mark can carry other information. For example, the Roman practice of branding recaptured slave fugitives with "FVG"; and the branding of African slaves to be shipped to the Americas with a symbol for their port of origin, or the company that exported them.
In SM fiction, branding appears in both Story of O and John Norman's Gor books.
With the growth of modern body modification, branding is a small but increasingly common practice within the ownership subculture.
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(11) The burning of the skin with a piece of hot metal to produce a design, as well as an endorphin rush. Burn scars can spread or disfigure so a trained modification artist should only perform this activity.
(c) Can be either hot branding or super cold branding.
(c) High Risk
Brank; also, Branks; Archaic
(2) See scold's bridle.
Brat
(2) A term used to describe a submissive that takes on the persona of a rebellious child. Being a brat in a scene is acceptable; being a brat when not negotiated is looked down upon.
(4) A submissive or bottom who loves to resist and test the patience of the 'tops' or 'dominants'. Being a brat generally involves role-play, with the 'brat' acting like a spoiled and wilful child.
(11) Term used to describe a submissive that takes on the persona of a rebellious child. Being a brat in a scene is acceptable; being a brat when not negotiated is looked down upon.
Breast Bondage; also, Chest Bondage
(2) The act of tying female breasts so that they are either flattened against the chest or so that they bulge.
(3) The restriction/bondage of the woman's breast/chest area for erotic reasons using various types of fastenings (i.e., rope, scarves, etc.).
(3) See also, bondage.
(4) Erotic play, which involves binding the breasts tightly. Generally, it involves restraints (rope, rubber, etc) that encircle each breast tightly where it joins the chest. The breasts and nipples become engorged with blood and exquisitely sensitive to the slightest touch. Stroking, clamping, or whipping can cause intense pain and pleasure.
(2) A type of device, often consisting of two horizontal wooden planks with an adjustable screw or clamp mechanism between them, which can be clamped over the breasts.
Breast Press
(4) A type of device, often consisting of two horizontal wooden planks with an adjustable screw or clamp mechanism between them, which can be clamped over the breasts.
Breast Sex
(5) The use of cleavage for male genital stimulation.
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Breast Torture; also, Nipple Torture
(2) Pain play involving the breasts and/or nipples.
(9) The equivalent to CBT, causing pain to the breasts and nipples (E)
(c) Moderate Risk
Breast Whipping
(3) Whipping of the woman's / submissive's chest area using a variety of items which include: floggers, whips, cat tails, paddles, for erotic purposes.
Breath Control
(3) Play involving the control of or restriction of air and/or oxygen to the brain. Other examples would be strangling, which is compression of the neck/throat area to prevent the flow of oxygen to the brain. Suffocation involves reducing the level of oxygen available to breathe; hanging where the body is suspended by the neck.
(3) Remember, All these games are dangerous to play, either alone or with a partner.
(3) See also: Asphyxiation, Choking
(4) Usually involves the dominant partner controlling the breathing of the submissive. This can be done most easily when the submissive is bound or restrained, and it can involve pinching the nostrils or using other apparatus or materials to cover the mouth or nose for short periods.
(c) High Risk, Dangerous, risk of brain damage, death.
Breath Play; also, Breath Control
(2) An activity in which the Dominant controls a submissive's breathing. This can be done with the use of tubes, airtight masks, strangulation, drowning, or various other techniques. Sometimes taken to the point where the person passes out. This practice is extremely dangerous and can be deadly; Asphyxiation
(9) Coking by restricting breathing (E).
(11) Activity in which the Dominant controls a submissives breathing. This can be done with the use of tubes, airtight masks, strangulation, drowning, or various other techniques. Sometimes taken to the point where the person passes out. This practice is extremely dangerous and can be deadly.
(11) See also Asphyxiation
(c) High Risk
Brown showers
(2) A form of 'scat' play that involves one person defecating on another person in an erotic manner.
(3) The practice of play involving a fetish for including human (or animal) feces.
(3) Although this type of play can be safe if done correctly, it is not recommended for those faint of heart!
(3) aka Scat, Scat play
(11) a form of 'scat' play that involves one person defecating on other person in an erotic manner.
(11) See also Scat
(c) Moderate to High RiskDanger of parasite and other infection.
(c) Also Golden, Perl, Roman, Yellow
Bruising
(3) A condition which may occur as a result of pinching or striking. Care should be taken to avoid bruising.
Buck Hammer
(2) A medical instrument used to test reflexes and neurological function, consisting of a metal handle with two cylindrical, rubber-tipped metal hammerheads. Typically, one or both hammerheads can be detached and replaced with a short metal spike or needle-like attachment, or with a short, soft brush, both of which can be used to test the sensation and neurological function in the skin. Sometimes used for percussion or sensation play.
(4) A medical instrument used to test reflexes and neurological function. Consists of a metal handle with two cylindrical, rubber-tipped metal hammerheads. Typically, one or both hammerheads can be removed and replaced with a sharp metal spike-like attachment, or with a soft brush, both of which can be used to test sensation on the skin.
Bukkake; from the Japanese term "to splash water.
(2) A sexual practice, originating in Japan, in which a very large number of men masturbate and ejaculate onto a person.
(4) A sexual practice, originating in Japan (meaning “to splash water”), in which a very large group of men masturbate and ejaculate onto a person.
(8) A Japanese sexual term that refers to showering a receiver with sperm from one, several, or many men. It is always a sperm shower and, therefore, those on the giving end are always male.
(w) (Japanese: ぶっかけ, [bɯkkake]; English: /bʊˈkækeɪ/ buu-KAK-ay[1]) A sex act in which one participant is ejaculated on by multiple participants. It is often portrayed in pornographic films.
Bullwhip; pl., Bullwhips
(2) A type of singletail consisting of a woven or braided leather whip, usually longer than 4' and sometimes 6' long or more, with a short rigid handle.
(2) Commentary: Requires extensive practice and great skill to use safely.
(4) Arguably amongst the most dramatic implements available for BDSM play and can create intense psychological theatre. A typical bullwhip has a relatively short, rigid handle and a long flexible leather thong of varying lengths ranging from about 4-6 feet. The longer the whip, the harder it is to control.
(c) High Risk
Butch
(2) A female who possesses masculine qualities. A 'soft butch' has masculine qualities but not the hard male appearance of someone noted as being a 'hard butch'.
(6) noun & adj. : a person who identifies themselves as masculine, whether it be physically, mentally, or emotionally. ‘Butch’ is sometimes used as a derogatory term for lesbians, but is also be claimed as an affirmative identity label.
(11) A female who possesses masculine qualities. A 'soft butch' has masculine qualities but not the hard male appearance of someone noted as being a 'hard butch'.
Butt plug
(2) A cone-shaped object that is inserted into the anus. The shape allows it to be held in place by the anal muscles.
(4) Used for anal training or play. The anus (ass-hole) is rich in nerve endings and many women, as well as men, find anal play as arousing as genital stimulation. Butt plugs are inserted into the anus and stretch the tight ring of the anal muscle (the sphincter). By doing so they can if used over time and with gradually increasing widths, prepare the anus for more adventurous or easier anal play. Alternatively, the sensation of being 'filled' may simply be enjoyed as an end in itself.
(11) A cone-shaped object that is inserted into the anus. The shape allows it to be held in place by the anal muscles.
Butterfly; also, Butterfly Chair
(2) A small needle in a plastic holder, which gives the butterfly appearance, is used in the medical field to take blood samples from the elderly, children, or others who have small or easily collapsible veins; a small vibrator that fits over the clit, attaches to the submissives waste and can be controlled with a remote control device.
(11) A small needle in a plastic holder, which gives the butterfly appearance, used in the medical field to take blood samples from the elderly, children, or others who have small or easily collapsible veins. (11) A small vibrator that fits over the clit, attaches to the submissives waste, and can be controlled with a remote control device.
vv33
(4) vv33 A chair that contains two horizontal planks, to which the legs can be secured, affixed to a pivot such that the legs of the secured person can be spread apart.