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1950’s Fetish

(9) roleplay of the traditional, American, nuclear family – can be practiced in reverse.

24/7

(2) A relationship where the submission of a slave is in operation 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

(9) A power exchange relationship that functions 24/7.

4Ps Training

(10) The 4 P's Model breaks training down into teaching the dominant's protocols, preferences, and principles, and aligns the submissive or slave's perceptions with their status. In O&P's ongoing training model, these 4 P's have to be actively maintained as well as taught, and updated if the dominant's desires or other circumstances change.

• Protocols - rules of correct behavior for a submissive, including both practical issues and rituals.
• Preferences - the personal likes and dislikes of the dominant (and anyone else they will be serving.)
• Principles - the dominant's general ethical values and practical principles, which a submissive can use to deal with unanticipated situations.
• Perceptions - including rejecting false entitlement, or feeling owned due to Internal Enslavement.

See also

• Training
• Slave Training
• Protocols
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Abasiophilia, (Psychology)

(2) Sexual attraction to people in or who use wheelchairs, casts, braces, or other orthopedic fixtures.

(w) A psychosexual attraction to people with impaired mobility, especially those who use orthopedic appliances such as leg braces, orthopedic casts, or wheelchairs. The term abasiophilia was first used by John Money of the Johns Hopkins University in a paper on paraphilias in 1990.

Abduction Seduction

(9) Kidnapping someone but in a loving manner

Abrasion, also Abarsion

(2) Using something rough or texture (such as sandpaper).

(3) A wearing, grinding, or rubbing away by friction. In BDSM play this would See also stimulating the surface of the body with abrasive materials such as rough silk, leather, sandpaper, brushes, etc.
(3) See also: Cutting, Knife Play

(4) Any form of sensation play involving stroking or brushing the skin with rough, textured objects such as sandpaper, emery boards, etc.

Absolute

(10) A school of M/s philosophy possibly founded by J Mikail Togneri and popularised on his Yahoo Groups mailing list, AbsoluteBDSM. The group introduction read as follows:

This list caters specifically to those for whom BDSM is an absolute lifestyle. Not a kink, not a role-playing game, not something that we do as often as "real life" allows, not another "flavour"; but a lifestyle in the purest sense of the term, the very foundation of all that we do and everything that we are. Dominance and submission are either total and unconditional, or inexistent. A dominant who is limited in the use of his/her slave is not a dominant; a slave who has influence on the relationship is not a slave. This list welcomes anyone who identifies with the absolutist world-view

Ownership of the group was passed to Flagg and Soulhuntre, and on 23rd January 2005, the group was renamed Absolute_Dynamic in response to Yahoo's actions against groups mentioning "BDSM" in their names or descriptions. The message archive of Absolute_Dynamic still includes the posts from the AbsoluteBDSM period.

"Absolute Power Exchange" was also a term frequently used by Jon Jacobs in preference to Total Power Exchange.

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Absolute Power Exchange: (APE)

(2) See Total Power Exchange. Usage: Less common than TPE.

(10) Absolute Power Exchange, from: Total Power Exchange also referred to as Total Power Exchange or TPE, is a term coined and defined by Steven S. Davis in the mid-1990s: "A TPE (Total Power Exchange) relationship, sometimes described as an absolute lifestyle d&s relationship ... is a relationship in which no impediment to the exercise of the owner's power is accepted ... Such things as safewords, contracts, negotiated limits, and anything else which recognizes/acknowledges/formalizes limits on the owner's power are inimical to TPE."

Although there is a large overlap between TPE and Internal Enslavement, the term "TPE" (and "APE") can be misleading in several respects and has lost much of its original meaning.

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Abuse

(4) Treating another person with physical or mental cruelty, usually regularly and against their will. A fundamental difference between BDSM and abuse is that the former is consensual but the latter isn't.

Acupressure

(8) Pressure points on the body that induces certain responses, some sexual.

AC/DC (Slang)

(2) An individual who is bisexual.

(11) Goes both ways. Bisexual.

(c) "One who swings both ways!"

Adult Baby; pl, Adult Babies, (also)AB

(2) Grown-ups who wish to be treated like babies. This can include the wearing of nappies, bottle feeding, and changing.

(9) Acting like an infant, wearing diapers, and receiving care.

(c) nappies, i.e., diapers.

Advocate

(6) 1 noun: a person who actively works to end intolerance, educate others, and support social equity for a marginalized group.
(6) 2 verb: to actively support or plea in favor of a particular cause, the action of working to end intolerance or educate others.

Aftercare

(1) After a BDSM scene, particularly a demanding one, the Top should make sure the bottom is OK and is returned to normal from his/her high endorphin level (often called “subspace”) that BDSM scenes often cause.

(2) The time after a BDSM scene or play session in which the participants calm down, discuss the previous events and their personal reactions to them and slowly come back in touch with reality. BDSM often involves an endorphin high and very intense experience, and failure to engage in proper aftercare can lead to subdrop as these return to more everyday levels.

(4) A period of time after intense BDSM activity in which the dominant partner cares for the submissive partner. It is here that a submissive partner may need a psychological space to unwind and recover after an intense session.

(c) Almost mandatory for all parties of a scene to recover from the psychological and biochemical "rush" or "high" and to prevent a "crash" from "top drop" / "bottom drop"; usually consists of nonsexual intimacy, snacks, &/or rehydration.

Aftershock

(2) After a long session or play, some submissives may experience effects from their body being used in shock from the pain. (trembling, feeling of cold)

Age Play

(2) A type of role-playing in which one or both parties assume personas of persons much older or younger than their actual age. Examples of such are scenes involving Teacher/student, Daddy/child, Mommy/child, Babysitter/child, etc.

(c) Not to be confused where there is an actual substantial difference in the chronological ages.

(3) Acting as if you were either younger or perhaps older than you really are.

(4) Between adults involves adopting different roles to express a fetish based on age.
(4) Example: It can take the form of teacher and naughty schoolgirl or mommy and child.

(11) A type of role-playing in which one or both parties assume personas of persons much older or younger than their actual age. Examples of such are scenes involving Teacher/student, Daddy/child, Mommy/child, Babysitter/child, etc

Agender

(6) adj.: a person with no (or very little) connection to the traditional system of gender, no personal alignment with the concepts of either man or woman, and/or someone who sees themselves as existing without gender. Sometimes called gender neutrois, gender-neutral, or genderless.

AIDS: acronym,

(8) Caused by a retrovirus (HIV-I, human immunodeficiency virus) infection, and formerly almost always lethal. No cure has been discovered as of this writing, but many HIV positive individuals can delay the onset of, or reverse the progression into, AIDS by careful attention to diet, exercise, stress reduction, and appropriate medication

Algophilia; also, Algolagnia, Psychology

(2) Sexual arousal from receiving pain. See also masochist; See related pain play, sadomasochism, sadist.

(4) Sexual arousal from receiving pain.

(w) Psychiatry desire for sexual gratification through inflicting pain on oneself or others; sadomasochism.

Aliens

(9) Fantasy about having sex with aliens, often abduction and forced.

Ally /“al-lie”/

(6) noun: a (typically straight and/or cisgender) person who supports and respects members of the LGBTQ community. We consider people to be active allies who take action in support and respect.

Alpha Sub; (Colloquial

(2) In a relationship in which one dominant has more than one submissive, the submissive accorded the greatest power or respect among all the submissives. See related polyamory: [[polyamory]]; polyamory: [[primary/secondary]].

(4) In a relationship where one dominant has more than one submissive, the submissive accorded the greatest power or respect among all the submissives.

(c) First Boy (Slave), Best Boy (Slave), Head Boy (Slave),

Alternative Lifestyle

(2) A term used to describe someone's preference to living outside the 'normal' constraints of society. This term is used by persons who are involved in BDSM, swinging, are gay or lesbian, etc.

(11) A term used to describe someone's preference to live outside the 'normal' constraints of society. This term is used by persons who are involved in BDSM, swinging, are gay or lesbian, etc.
(11) See also: BDSM, B & D, D/s, S & M

Ambisexuality

(8) Having characteristics shared by both sexes [from Greek, ambi, both + sex]--in human beings, for example, nipples; pubic hair; birth-defective genitalia that looks hermaphroditically ambiguous or intersexed; or mating behavior shared by both sexes.

Amenorrhea

(8) Absence or failure of the menstrual periods.

Amazonian

(9) Wanting to get it on with really strong, authoritative women.

Amputees

(9) Getting turned on by people with amputations.

Anal Beads

(3) A set of strung beads used to insert into the anus to stimulate the anal nerves as foreplay or to cause an orgasm.

Anal Play; also, Anal Sex, Ass Play

(2) Sexual play that involves stimulation of the outer rim of the anus and/or penetration of the rectum; includes rimming.

(3) This is generally a type of play where the anus may be penetrated with either beads, ice, dildos, anal plugs, penis, or a fist. Rimming the anus with a finger or toys stimulates the nerves which can create a more intense orgasm. Inserting and playing with one's prostrate gland (males) will cause an increased orgasm.

(4) Any sexual or fetish practice that centers on the anus (known more colloquially as the ass-hole).

(8) Stimulating or penetrating the anus to derive or impart sexual pleasure.

(11) Sexual play that involves stimulation of the outer rim of the anus and/or penetration of the rectum; includes rimming.
(11) See also, rimming

Anal Plug

(3) A specially designed dildo for use in the anus that is shaped in a way so that it will not "fall out". Most commonly inserted and left in the anus for a given amount of time. Also used for "ass training" to stretch out the anus and get one accustomed to having something in their ass.
(3) See also: Dildo, Vibrator

Anal Sex

(3) Any sexual activity involving the anus. Examples are; rimming (oral), Butt / Anal Plugs, Dildos, and penile penetration.
(3) See also: Rimming

(5) Sexual intercourse involving a penis entering your anus.

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(9) Some people just like it in the butt.

Anal Training

(4) Activities designed to allow the anus to accommodate larger objects more easily.

Anal Torture

(2) Inflicting pain on the anus.

Analingus

(8) Rimming or penetration of the anus with the tongue. Stimulation of the anus with tongue and lips, not a paraphilia, but maybe part of normophilic sexuoerotic activity as well as part of the sadomasochistic repertory.

Ancient European Houses myth

(10) The Ancient European Houses myth is an internet phenomenon, in which claims are made about the existence of secret BDSM training houses in Europe which have existed for hundreds of years.

Versions
The late Tammad Rimilia's account of presentation in Baltimore about one such European House includes many of the key aspects:

The presenter claimed that there are "dozens" of different Families or Houses of D/S in and around Europe, and that the oldest one has been in continuous operation for 1300 years. ...

The smallest Houses only train 3 charges at a time, the largest House has 300 charges in training simultaneously. The full course of training for a charge takes several years, and is then updated on a continuing basis. ...

The presenter indicated that his House was one of the smaller ones, yet their main residence (which they own) where the Patriarch and dozens of Masters and charges live, is a full-city-block somewhere around Amsterdam and that they also own various other free-standing houses and flats in England and the USA.

Origins
It is likely that the chateau of Roissy in The Story of O, and the training houses of Laura Antoniou's Marketplace series have inspired the original versions of these myths.

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Androcur

(8) The trade name of the hormone, cyproterone acetate, manufactured by Schering A.G., West Berlin. The hormone resembles progestin and is antiandrogenic. It has various clinical applications, one of which is to help sex offenders gain personal governance of their sexuoerotic conduct. See also Depo-Provera.

Androgen

(8) Male sex hormone [from Greek, andros, man], produced chiefly by the testis, but also by the adrenal cortex and, in small amounts, by the ovary. In biochemical structure, there are several different but related steroid hormones that qualify as androgens. They differ in biological strength and effectiveness.

Androgen-induced Hermaphroditism

(8) A syndrome of hermaphroditic birth defect of the sex organs induced in the 46, XY gonadally female fetus by an excess of masculinizing hormone transmitted from the mother through the placenta. The syndrome may be experimentally induced in animals by the injection of the hormone testosterone, whereas in human beings it is adventitious, the source of the hormone is a maternal (possibly placental) hormone-producing tumor.

Androgen-Insensitivity Syndrome (AIS)

(8) A congenital condition identified by a 46, XY sex chromosomal karyotype in girls or women who appear externally to be not sexually different from normal females, except in some cases for swelling or lump in each groin, or for the absence of sparseness of pubic and axillary hair after puberty. The cells of the body are unable to respond to the male sex hormone, which is made in the testes in normal amounts for a male. They respond instead to the small amount of female sex hormone, estrogen, which is normally made in the testes. The effect before birth is that masculine internal development commences but is not completed. It goes far enough, however, to prevent internal female development. Externally, the genitalia differentiates as female, except for a blind vagina, which is usually not deep enough for satisfactory intercourse and needs either dilation or surgical lengthening in or after middle teenage. There is no menstruation and no fertility. Breasts develop normally. Incidence of occurrence is approximately one in 500 births. Synonym, testicular-feminizing syndrome.
(8) Also: testicular-feminizing syndrome.

Androgyny /“an-jrah-jun-ee”/, also Androgynous

(6) 1 noun: a gender expression that has elements of both masculinity and femininity;
(6) 2 adj. : occasionally used in place of “intersex” to describe a person with both female and male anatomy, generally in the form “androgyne.”

(8) Having both female and male characteristics; hermaphroditic. Being neither distinguishably masculine nor feminine, as in dress, appearance, or behavior. showing characteristics of both sexes [syn: hermaphroditism, bisexuality]

Androsexual, also, Androphilic

(6) adj.: being primarily sexually, romantically, and/or emotionally attracted to men, males, and/or masculinity.

Anilingus; also Analingus

(2) Any sexual activity involving licking, kissing, or tonguing another person's anus.

(4) Anal-oral sex (or ass-licking).

(w) The oral and anal sex act in which a person stimulates the anus of another by using the mouth, including lips, tongue, or teeth. It is also called anal–oral contact and anal–oral sex and is additionally known by slang names.

(c) High Risk

Animal Role Play; also, Animal Role Playing, Animal Play

(2) A scene in which one or both parties assume animal personas. Most of these scenes involve the submissive becoming an animal in training with the Dominant being in the trainer position. Any animal persona can be taken on, though the most popular is that of a dog, cat (domestic and otherwise), horse (or pony), and the beloved pig.

(3) Games in which one or more partners, usually the bottom, take on the role of an animal. Most common is probably a dog, or puppy boy/girl though horses are also popular. The 'animal' may imitate animal behavior, wear items such as collars, leads, bridles, and so on, or carry out tasks associated with animal behavior.

(4) Consensual role-playing where one or more of the participants adopts the role of an animal, such as a pony or a puppy, not to be confused with bestiality.

(11) A scene in which one or both parties assume animal personas. Most of these scenes involve the submissive becoming an animal in training with the Dominant being in the trainer position. Any animal persona can be taken on, though the most popular are that of a dog, cat (domestic and otherwise), horse (or pony), and the beloved pig.

Animal Sex

(5) Sex with an animal (dog, cat, horse, etc.)

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Animal Transformation Fantasy

(2) Fantasy in which the focus is on the sub entering the altered mindspace of a different species, typically a dog, pony, or horse.

Animalism

(2) Any form of role-playing in which a participant assumes the role of an animal to be trained, such as a horse or dog. See related pony play, puppy play.

Ankle Cuffs, also Leggcuffs

(2) Any cuffs (def. 1) specifically designed to be affixed to a person's ankles. Ankle cuffs are often made of leather, but may also be made of cloth, rope, metal, or even wood. definition

(4) Any cuffs specifically designed to be affixed to a person’s ankles. They are often made of leather, but may also be made of cloth, rope, metal, and wood.

(w) Physical restraints used on the ankles of a person to allow walking only with a restricted stride and to prevent running and effective physical resistance.
Frequently used alternative terms are leg cuffs, (leg/ankle) shackles, foot cuffs, fetters[2], or leg irons. The term "fetter" shares a root with the word "foot".

Anticipatory service vs. reactive service

(10) This occasional dispute within the ownership subculture refers to the question of whether slaves should wait for and obey their master's orders or whether the slave should anticipate the services their master desires and provide the service without first asking the master.

Those who dislike anticipatory service cite it as an example of topping from the bottom and point out that no person can correctly anticipate every need or desire. They also suggest that anticipatory service can become irritating or harmful to the power exchange if the slave's judgment is routinely substituted for the master's orders.

Advocates of anticipatory service claim that the activity of continuously thinking about and attempting to provide service desirable to the owner has the effect of making the slave an evermore perfect instrument of the owner's will and bringing master and slave into a more intimate bond. Advocates of anticipatory service suggest that the necessity for masters to continuously voice their preferences (as is the case in purely reactive service relationships) reduces the relaxation that this lifestyle offers to masters.

In practice, no M/s relationship features purely anticipatory or reactive service. So the dispute is actually about how much of the slave's service should be anticipatory or reactive.

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Aphrodisiac

(8) Drug stimulating a sexual response. exciting sexual desire [syn: aphrodisiacal, sexy] [ant: anaphrodisiac]
(8) noun: a drug or other agent that stimulates sexual desire

Arm / Leg Sleeves

(3) Play which involves binding the arms/legs of the submissive in an attempt to restrict mobility.

Armbinder; also, Arm binder

(2) A restraint device consisting of a long sleeve into which both arms are placed, often fitted with laces or straps to hold the arms securely together. An armbinder may also include an integrated collar to prevent the wearer from withdrawing the arms.
(4) Also a single-glove or mono glove.

(4) A restraint device consisting of a long sleeve, into which both arms are placed, often fitted with laces or straps to hold the arms securely together. An armbinder may also include an integrated collar to prevent the wearer from withdrawing the arms.
(4) Also a single-glove.

Armpit Sex

(5) The use of the armpit for male genital stimulation.

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Armpits

(9) Arousal or enjoyment from smelling, licking, or kissing armpits.

Aromantic, /”ay-ro-man-tic”/

(6) adj. : experiencing little or no romantic attraction to others and/or has a lack of interest in romantic relationships/behavior. Aromanticism exists on a continuum from people who experience no romantic attraction or have any desire for romantic activities, to those who experience low levels, or romantic attraction only under specific conditions. Many of these different places on the continuum have their own identity labels
(6)See Demiromantic).
(6) Sometimes abbreviated to “aro” (pronounced like “arrow”).

Aromas

(3) Play that involves the use of certain aromatherapy to induce relaxation. In some instances, these can be volatile compounds whose vapors cause temporarily increased heart and breathing rates, muscle relaxation, and a "rushing" feeling in the head. These types of play are popular in gay and rave scenes and often used in an S/m context. There are some dangers associated with their use.
(3) Also referred to as "poppers".
(3) See also: Hot Oils

(c) Moderate Risk when deliberately inhaling concentrated vapors from aromas or poppers.

Asexual

(6) adj.: experiencing little or no sexual attraction to others and/or a lack of interest in sexual relationships/behavior. Asexuality exists on a continuum from people who experience no sexual attraction or have any desire for sex, to those who experience low levels, or sexual attraction only under specific conditions. Many of these different places on the continuum have their own identity labels.
(6) See Demisexual.
(6) Sometimes abbreviated to “ace.”

Asphyxiation

(2) To cause a lack of oxygen by smothering, choking, or similar means; Breath play.

(3) Commonly referred to as "breath control". Refers to play involving the control of or restriction of air and/or oxygen to the brain. Any form of stopping breathing freely including choking, smothering, and hoods with tubes, sacks, plastics, etc, is asphyxia. Sometimes used to cause a more intense orgasm. Other examples would be strangling which is compression of the neck or throat area to prevent oxygen to the brain; suffocation involves reducing the level of oxygen available to breathe; hanging where the body is suspended by the neck.
(3) See also, Breath Control, Choking.
(3) All these games are extremely dangerous, either alone or with a partner, and may cause DEATH ).

(4) The unconsciousness and ultimately death, which happens when the supply of oxygen to your brain is cut off. This can happen in auto-erotic strangulation or other breath-control play.

(11) To cause a lack of oxygen by smothering, choking, or similar means; Breath play.
(11) See also: Breath Play

(c) High Risk

Ass Cheek Sex

(5) The use of the ass crack for male genital stimulation.

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Ass Play; also, Arse Play (British)

(2) Any form of sexual stimulation of the ass, including anal sex, anilingus, and the like.

Asymmetric Bondage

(2) Any bondage technique in which a person is bound in an asymmetric pose; for example, with one leg extended and one leg bent. Many forms of shibari include asymmetric bondage.

(4) Any bondage technique in which a person is bound in an asymmetrical pose.

Auction; also, Auctioned for Charity

(2) An activity held at BDSM events for fundraising purposes in which Dominants and/or submissives are put up for 'sale' for an evening or scene. Each event has its own set of rules for any play or contact that takes place between the parties involved.

(3) Involves play where the partner (usually the submissive) is auctioned off to others for charitable purposes and or services to another.
(3) Legal Risk This is illegal in many areas.
(3) See also: Competitions.

(4) A situation set up to auction off submissives to the highest bidder.

(11) An activity held at BDSM events for fundraising purposes in which Dominants and/or submissives are put up for 'sale' for an evening or scene. Each event has it's own set of rules for any play or contact that takes place between the parties involved.

Authenticity

(10) Authenticity is one of the ten keywords in the O&P manifesto, and part of O&P's ethical system.

The manifesto says:

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Autoerotic Asphyxiation

(8) Arousal from lack of oxygen.

Autoerotica

(8) Self-induced arousal from fantasies, pornography, erotica, or other aids.

Autofellatio

(9) A guy giving a blowjob to himself.

Auto-Erotic Asphxia, also, Auto-Erotic Asphyxiation

(2) A specific form of breath control in which a person who is by himself or herself constricts his or her own breathing, often with a rope or similar implement, while masturbating.

(w) Erotic asphyxiation (variously called asphyxiophilia, hypoxyphilia, or breath control play) is the intentional restriction of oxygen to the brain for sexual arousal. The term autoerotic asphyxiation is used when the act is done by a person to themselves. Colloquially, a person engaging in the activity is sometimes called a gasper.[1] Erotic asphyxiation can lead to accidental death due to asphyxia.

(c) High Risk

Auto-Erotic Strangulation

(4) When people try to enhance their sexual experience by deliberately choking themselves or letting others do it to them. Dangerous. Don’t ever do it alone... or at all for that matter.

(c) High Risk

A-Frame

(2) A type of bondage furniture consisting of an upright triangle, usually made of wood and typically about seven to eight feet tall, sometimes with cross slats. A person can be bound to the frame with wrists together, arms above the head and affixed to the pinnacle of the triangle, and ankles bound to the base of the triangle with legs apart.

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