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PA; Also, Prince Albert

(2) A ring that pierces through the urethra and comes out of the underside of the penis. There are several piercing and modification sites where you can see photographic examples of the PA.

Packing

(2) The activity of wearing a dildo or similar object in the crotch area to simulate male genitals. Placement can be assisted with the use of a harness, button pants or shorts, or tight men's undergarments.

Paddles

(2) Flat objects made of wood, leather, or similar materials. Used for paddling.

(4) A spanking implement intended to be used on the buttocks. Paddles are traditionally made of wood but variations include leather paddles, usually with a rigid spine made of steel or fiberglass, and wooden paddles with holes drilled in them to reduce wind resistance when the paddle is swung and produce a harder contact. Any relatively rigid, flat objects such as a hairbrush or ping-pong paddle can also be used as a paddle.
(4) related term, Paddling

Paddling

(2) Striking a submissive repeatedly with a flat, hard object. Paddling is usually done on the buttocks and/or inner thighs.

(7) The striking of a submissive, usually on the buttocks, with a flat instrument.

Pain

(3) In broad terms, pain is the body's warning that something is wrong; however, our pain responses are very complex and it is very easy to produce the effect of pain without doing any real harm to the body. The "pain threshold" at which a stimulus crosses the boundary between intense sensation and pain is a gray area in terms of our perception. BDSM is associated in most people's minds with potentially painful activities, sometimes referred to as "pain games". It is true; however, that some people actually enjoy or at least get some satisfaction out of the intense physical sensation. Some of the satisfaction may be attributed to the release of body chemicals also known as "endorphins". Most player's interests are a mixture of physical aspects and the psychological dynamics of Domination and submission, and some play with hardly any physical pain at all. Those for whom the interest in pain is predominant are sometimes referred to as sadists and masochists rather than Dominants and submissives.
(3) Aftercare is needed, and monitoring the one receiving pain is mandatory. Not for the novice for play.

Pain Pig

(7) A term used to describe a masochist who can't get enough BDSM stimulation.

(c) See also Pain Slut

Pain Play

(2) Any activity in which one person inflicts pain on a consenting partner, for the pleasure of one or more of the people involved. Spanking, flogging, paddling, whipping, and so on are all forms of pain play.
(2) See related sadist, masochist.

(4) Any activity in which one person inflicts pain on a consenting partner, for the pleasure of one or more of the people involved.

Pain slut

(2) A term used to describe a heavy masochist. This title is seen as complementary.

(4) A masochist who enjoys and seeks out pain for its own sake.

(c) See also Pain Pig

Paingasm; Colloquial

(2) An orgasm achieved through painful stimulation.
(2) See related contrapolar stimulation.

Panic snap

(2) A safety device used in suspension and bondage that lengths two ropes or chains together and allows for quick release even if tension exists in the system.

(4) A specific type of carabiner designed in such a way that the mechanism can be opened to release a rope or chain, even if a full weight is bearing down on it.

Pansexual; also, Pan Sexual

(2) An activity that is open to all who wish to participate and does not discriminate against sexual orientation or practices.

(4) Not limited or inhibited in sexual choice by gender or activity; sexuality that has many different forms, objects, and outlets. Often used to describe groups, which embrace all gender and sexual orientations.

(6) adj.: a person who experiences sexual, romantic, physical, and/or spiritual attraction for members of all gender identities/expressions. Often shortened to “pan.”

(7) An event or scene that includes Dominants and submissives of both genders.

(c) Also A person who holds such values.

Panty Boys

(2) Those who like to wear female underwear, especially panties, as part of a scene.

Parachute

(2) A cone-shaped device used to prevent damage to the scrotum when suspending weight from the testicles.

(3) Round leather device which is fitted between the scrotum and the base of the penis with chains for weights to be added. This is a form of play or punishment.

(4) A small leather cone with a hole in its centre, which is often used in genital torture. The parachute is wrapped around the scrotum, and weights are suspended from it, pulling on the scrotum and compressing the testicles.

Paraphilia

(8) Sexual arousal to an unusual or socially unacceptable object or act.

Passing

(6) 1 adj. & verb: trans* people being accepted as, or able to “pass for,” a member of their self-identified gender identity (regardless of sex assigned at birth) without being identified as trans*.
(6) 2 adj.: an LGB/queer individual who is believed to be or perceived as straight.

Pecattiphilia

(9) Fetish for sinning by breaking religious rules.

Pegging

(8) A sexual practice in which a woman penetrates a man's anus with a strap-on dildo. Advice columnist Dan Savage wrote that he believes all men should try pegging at least once, as it may introduce them to a new enjoyable sexual activity and illuminate them to the receiver's perspective in sex. A few instructional movies and books have emerged in recent years, including Bend Over Boyfriend, produced by Fatale Media, Inc., and directed by Shar Rednour, SIR Video co-founder. As an accomplished author of numerous sex guides and informational books on various sexual taboos, Violet Blue wrote and released The Adventurous Couple's Guide to Strap-On Sex in 2007.

The National Institutes of Health (NIH), with information published in the British Medical Journal (BMJ), states that, "There is little published data on how many heterosexual men would like their anus to be sexually stimulated in a heterosexual relationship," but that, "Anecdotally, it is a substantial number. What data we do have almost all relate to penetrative sexual acts, and the superficial contact of the anal ring with fingers or the tongue is even less well documented but may be assumed to be a common sexual activity for men of all sexual orientations.

Penalties

(C) See, Punishment

Percussion

(2) Any form of impact play involving striking with a blunt or fairly heavy implement, such as a buck hammer or Taylor hammer.

(4) Any form of impact play involving the striking with a blunt or fairly heavy instrument.

(c) A subset of impact play.
(c) Implement; rubber mallet.

Perl Showers

(c) A male ejaculating on another person in an erotic manner.

(c) Also Brown, Golden, Roman, Yellow

Persona

(2) An alter-personality assumed during a scene.

Pervert

(4) A person whose sexual behavior is regarded as unacceptable or abnormal. Often used by self-appointed moralists to describe those whose odd sexual tastes differ from their own odd sexual tastes.

Pervertible

(4) Any object which serves an ordinary and prosaic function, but which also has a use in BDSM activities, i.e. clothespegs used for nipple torture, cling wrap used for mummification etc.

(c) UK clothespegs, US Clothespins

PGP; pl., PGPs

(6) abbr.: preferred gender pronouns. Often used during introductions, becoming more common as a standard practice. Many suggest removing the “preferred,” because it indicates flexibility and/or the power for the speaker to decide which pronouns to use for someone else.

Pheromones

(8) Natural chemicals or hormones that induce a sexual response.

Phone Sex

(3) Play which involves having simulated "sex" over the telephone. Some phone companies deem this illegal.

(8) Verbal sex between partners on a phone.

(c) Historical: In the USA, using 976 local exchange and 900 area code to charge for the service to the caller's phone bill.
(c) The technological predecessor to online sex, net sex, and cam sex.

Piercing

(2) The insertion of sterile needles into the skin for sensation or jewelry placement.

(3) Piercing of the body with a thin sharp object such as a needle. There are two types of play, permanent and temporary. Permanent piercing is done with a thicker needle which enables the jewelry to be easily inserted. Temporary piercing is done with a smaller, thinner needle which can be removed without permanent scarring after the session is completed.
(3) Examples: nipple piercing, ear piercing, genital piercing.
(3) Mostly done to enhance the sensual areas of the skin. Piercing should be done by a professional.

(4) Penetrating the flesh, either temporarily or on a more permanent basis. In play piercing, needles are used only for the duration of the play in different areas of the body. Permanent piercings, for decorative or erotic purposes, may be done in the nipple, tongue, nostril, eyebrow, ear, lips, scrotum, penis, the inner and outer labia, or the hood of the clitoris. Metal rings and studs are usually inserted into the piercings, and sometimes thin chains are attached to the nipple or genital rings during BDSM play to 'lead' and control a submissive.

(c) Also; referring to the resulting hole, as in a tongue piercing, a PA piercing.

Pig

(7) A title given to someone who overindulges in excessive sex or engages in raunchy sexual activities.

Pillory

(2) Archaic; See stock.
(2) Also, verb, archaic: to expose to scorn or ridicule.

(4) A set of stocks mounted on an upright piece of wood, which imprison the head and hands obliging the prisoner to stand bent over in an uncomfortable position.

Pillory Bed

(2) A bed with a stock built into the headboard and/or footboard, such that a person lying on the bed may have the stock closed over his or her ankles, wrists, or wrists and head to restrain the person and prevent him or her from leaving the bed.

Plasticuff

(2) See cable tie.

Play

(2) A term used in reference to an SM scene or activity.

(4) Consensual BDSM activity, which may or may not have an agreed sexual component. The sadomasochistic things two or more people do together in 'play' might range from a light spanking through erotic torture to pretty much anything else you can imagine. A 'playroom' is a safe and secure room specially set up for SM play, which might be equipped with restraints, mirrors, whips, paddles, whipping posts and benches, or whatever else you fancy. BDSM 'play' is also called a 'scene' or 'sceneing'.

(7) Unstructured sexual or SM/BD encounter, often spontaneous.

(8) The consensual acting out of a role or game, sometimes sexual.

Play Party

(2) A social gathering that allows SM scenes to occur publicly. Play parties have a list of rules that must be followed and usually a Dungeon Master/Mistress that assures all rules for play are abided by.

(4) A social gathering whereby all invited to have the opportunity to participate in BDSM activities.

Play Piercing

(2) Inserting sterile needles just below the skin. This is done to feel the sensation, not for jewelry placement.

(9) Temporary piercing the flesh for aesthetic or sensory reactions (E).

(c) High Risk

Playroom, also, Play Room

(2) A room that is designed and decorated for SM play.
(2) Also; Dungeon

(4) A safe and secure room specially set up for SM play, which might be equipped with restraints, mirrors, whips, paddles, whipping posts and benches, or whatever else you fancy.

(8) A room equipped with sex paraphernalia and used primarily for sex play.

Poignant Sensation

(2) A term coined by the Marquis de Sade to describe the pain.

Polyamory / Polyamorous

(6) noun: refers to the practice of, desire for, or orientation toward having ethical, honest, and consensual non-monogamous relationships (i.e. relationships that may include multiple partners). Often shortened to “poly.”

(8) Many loves, having more than one submissive or slave.

Polyamorous

(4) A term meaning "loving more than one". The love may be sexual, emotional, spiritual, or any combination thereof, according to the desires and agreements of the people involved. "Polyamorous" is also used as a descriptive term for people who are open to more than one relationship even if they are not currently involved in more than one.

Polygamy

(8) One person with multiple marriage partners.

(c) Sometimes referred to as a plural marriage.
(c) Polygamy is illegal in state law in the USA.

Pony; aka, BDSM Pony

(3) A device used directly on genitals for punishment. The person's body weight, plus additional weight is placed directly on the pony which distributes pain to a very area.
(3) This is extremely dangerous as permanent damage may result. Not for the novice.

Pony Boy/Girl

(2) Sub is dressed in a pony outfit, with a mouth bit and an anal plug with a tail. They are told to prance or behave like a pony.

(c) Physicality of a pony is important, especially being fit, lean, and infrequently, having stamina, as when a pony is required to pull a trap with a passenger.

Pony Gear

(3) This type of gear includes hoods, bits for mouth, bridles, straps, harnesses, saddles, and anal plug tails. Some use hoof shoes as well. These are used to “train” a submissive to be used for work, as a pony.
(3) This can be very dangerous as joints, limbs, or back may be damaged. Not for the novice.

Pony Play; also, Pony-Play, Pony Training

(2) A subculture all its own, pony play combines various techniques of bondage, control, and more to create a unique form of play that involves the submissive taking on the persona of a pony. 'Ponies' are used for shows, cart pulling, and dressage training. Hand signals, whips, and clickers can be used to create communication between the pony and the trainer.

(4) A distinct sub-culture within BDSM. A ponygirl (or ponyboy) engages in role-playing involving assuming the role of a 'pony' and being 'trained' by a dominant. Typically the human 'pony' is required to wear a harness and reins while performing actions that a real pony would perform, such as running on a lunge line, pulling a cart, carrying a rider, or being groomed, inspected, and shown.

(7) A structured encounter in which a Master/Trainer gives a slave/pony Instruction and Training in proper Equine behavior, protocol, and interactions. Play occurs when the Master/Trainer Provides the proper environment in which the human pony can act out and live this part of his/her persona.

(9) Using someone as a pony (including riding). Can include costumes.

Pony Slave

(3) Scenes involving the submissive being dressed or made up as to portray a "pony". Scenes might include mouth bits, harnesses, saddles, riding crops, etc.
(3) Note: Riding your pony can cause serious damage to their backs, hips, joints.

Popper

(2) 1. See cracker (def. 1).
(2) 2. Colloquial A vial of amyl nitrate, butyl nitrate, cyclohexyl nitrite, or any similar high-volatility organic nitrate or nitrite compound, whose vapors produce euphoria and sometimes heightened sexual sensation when inhaled.

(4) A vial of amyl nitrate or similar high-volatility organic nitrate compound, whose vapors produce euphoria and sometimes heightened sexual sensation when inhaled.

(c) Any of several nitrate aromas. Usage; When used as an inhalant, the plural form is used.
(c) Moderate Risk; Possible permanent effects on brain function and vision.

Position Training

(4) Training a submissive to adopt a certain position on command or under certain circumstances. Some BDSM sub-cultures, for example, the Goreans, are more into this than others and have quite elaborate requirements.

(c) "position" in this sense means posture or body carriage vs a person's place or rank in relation to others.

(10) Many slave training programs include an element in which the slave is taught to assume various bodily positions upon command. Positions are typically given short names (such as 'kneel') that correspond to very intricate specifications, covering not only overall posture (such as kneeling), but also precise positions of limbs and extremities (e.g. palms up, resting on thighs) and fine details such as eyes being cast down.

Many protocols require the slave to assume a given position in a specific context (e.g. kneeling when Owner enters the room).

Gorean adherents have a well-developed system of formal slave positions.

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Possession

(10) Possession is having control and use for one's own purposes of that which is possessed, and involves some or all of the rights associated with property ownership. In D/s and M/s, possession amounts to a transfer of authority over the submissive or slave which may be limited in time or scope, or may be veto-less and inescapable in the form of ownership.

In O&P, Possession represents the D/s half of the continuum of O&P relationships.

• From: www.ownership-possession.com

Post

(2) See whipping post.

Posture Collar

(2) A specific type of high, rigid collar, often shaped to the wearer's neck, which prevents the wearer from moving his or her neck and forces the wearer to hold his or her head high.
(2) See related corset collar.

(4) A specific type of high, rigid collar, often shaped to the wearer’s neck, which prevents the wearer from moving his or her neck and forces the wearer to hold his or her head high.

(10) A posture collar is made of a wide band of leather, several inches high, which is contoured to fit the shoulders and the jawline, and stops the head-turning or looking up or down. As well as restricting movement as part of a BDSM scene, posture collars can also be used as part of some forms of advanced service training.

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Power Exchange also, Power Exchange Dynamic

(2) The consensual giving up of control by the bottom and accepting of control by the Top during an SM scene or relationship. Used as a synonym for SM.

(4) A term used to describe a submissive granting a dominant power over her. The degree of power granted may be very limited, absolute, or anywhere in between. This 'power-exchange' forms the basis of most short-term BDSM play sessions and longer-term D/s relationships. The dominant, in accepting the power, which is offered, should also accept responsibilities towards the submissive, which will include not abusing that power.

Predicament Bondage

(2) A type of bondage in which the intent is to place the bound person in an awkward, difficult, inconvenient, or uncomfortable situation, or to set out a challenge for the bound person to overcome. For example, a person might be bound in such a way that his or her hands and feet are largely but not completely immobilized, then asked to perform a task (such as to serve the dominant partner a drink) which is made difficult by the bondage; or, a person might be bound and told to hold a weight in his or her teeth attached to a line connected to nipple clamps in such a way that if he or she drops the weight, it will suddenly yank off the nipple clamps, then be spanked or tickled in an attempt to get him or her to drop the weight.

Pregnancy Fetish

(9) Usually from males, thought to be from hormonal reactions.

Prince Albert

(c) See PA

Prison Scening

(3) Acting out a scene involving some type of prison scene. The use of a *cell* is for punishment and humiliation.

Prison Strap

(2) See hog slapper.

Pro-Domme; also, Prodomme

(2) A Dominatrix who offers SM services for money; Professional.

(4) A female dominant who earns money by dominating her clients.

Professional

(2) Someone who engages in SM activities for money. Most who are involved in SM for money do not allow sexual contact between themselves and their clients; others look down upon those in the business who do.

(c) SM for money without genitalia contact may be legal. Any sex for money is prostitution and not legal in 49 USA states.

Property

(2) A person who is in a contracted relationship with a Dominant that relates to the submissive in an Ownership manner. A submissive who is considered property must get permission from their owner before any interaction takes place with another Dominant.

(10) A person who is owned and subject to the will and authority of their owner. Often used synonymously with the term slave. This term is preferred by those who dislike the historical connection with atrocities that the word slave embodies. It is also preferred by many who erotize dehumanization.

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Prostate Milking

(2) See milking (def. 1).

Prostitution

(3) The selling of one's body for sexual purposes (i.e., selling sex or sexual favors).
(3) This form of play is illegal in many areas.

Protocol

(2) Any defined, enforced code of behavior which a submissive is expected to abide by. A protocol often imposes constraints and limits on the submissive's behavior, particularly in social settings; for example, a protocol may specify that a submissive is not to speak to another person without the dominant's permission, may not speak unless spoken to, and so on.

(4) Any defined, enforced code of conduct of behavior which a submissive is expected to abide by. Protocols often impose constraints and limits on the submissive’s behavior.

(10) A protocol is a rule or code of formally correct behavior, especially describing how an activity should be performed. In D/s, the protocol is usually symbolic of submission and is, therefore, a type of ritual.

The protocol is more specific than etiquette, which may also apply to informal environments.

Many different and often contradictory protocols exist in D/s circles, and it is better to speak of "my protocol" or refer to a protocol by a name (eg Roissy protocol) than refer to "protocol". Different protocols are conveniently defined and compared by writing a protocol schema - a systematic description of the Classes, Dress and symbols, Speech rules, and Deportment involved.

High Protocol
The phrase "High Protocol" is frequently used in D/s and the ownership subculture, but has no universal meaning. Most high protocols for submissives do share some common features, including:

• Restrictions on speech (eg silence; speaking only when spoken to; requesting permission to speak; or specific forms of address such as "Sir, yes, sir!")
• Deferential behavior (eg not turning back to the dominant; keeping head below theirs; kneeling when otherwise unoccupied; requesting permission to leave the room.)
• Immediate response to commands, and concentration on the dominant and their requirements.
• Serving or waiting without drawing unnecessary attention to the submissive.

The fictional protocol in force at Roissy in the "Story of O" is a classic example of a detailed high protocol.

High Protocol in front of people who are not members of the dominant's immediate household may also have some of the features of a performance. This is felt by Rene in the "Story of O":

O felt him watch her the way an animal-trainer keeps an eye on the animal he has trained, watchful to see that the animal, upon whose performance his honor is at stake, performs well

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Protocol schema

(10) A protocol schema is a systematic way of describing the set of rules which constitute a protocol. The schema is divided into four sections:

• Classes - the groups of people who interact according to the protocol. This section should specify the relation between each class and any hierarchy within it. For example, that waiters serve customers in a restaurant, but that customers are served according to gender and then in decreasing order of age.
• Dress and symbols - any restrictions or requirements relating to clothing, and any symbols such as collars.
• Speech rules - rules relating to silence, forms of address, speaking only when spoken to, or ways of referring to oneself or others.
• Deportment - rules governing how the individual walks, stands, kneels, or otherwise acts physically, in ways not covered by the previous sections.

Within D/s, it is natural that more emphasis will be placed on the submissive when writing out a protocol.

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(C) See also

• Marketplace protocol schema
• Roissy protocol schema
• Estate protocol schema

Provocation

(2) Attempting to gain the attention of a Dominant by negative means, such as angering or challenging.

Psycholagny; Psychology

(2) Orgasm without physical stimulation.
(2) Commentary: In some D/s relationships, the dominant partner will train the submissive partner to orgasm on command, with a word or a gesture, but without being touched physically.

(w) The ability to achieve orgasm without any physical stimulation of the genitalia, usually achieved through mental stimulation or fantasy alone.

Psychological Bondage

(2) Bondage without the use of ropes or other restraints, in which the submissive is simply commanded not to move.

(c) Similar to mental bondage, mental restraints

Public Exposure

(3) Play which involves exposing oneself in public (i.e., flashing). Used for control/humiliation purposes.

Public Plan

(2) The performance of an SM scene at a play party or other function in open view of other people.

Pump Gag

(2) A type of gag consisting of a blunt, rounded, or penis-shaped rubber bladder that is placed in the mouth and can then be inflated with air by means of a hand pump. The gag increases in size, filling the mouth when inflated.

(4) A type of gag consisting of a blunt, rounded, or penis-shaped rubber bladder, which is placed in the mouth and can then be inflated with air by means of a hand pump.

Punishment: also, Penalties

(3) Scenes where the Dominant "punishes" the submissive for "bad or unruly" behavior. Often performed in little boy/girl scenes which may involve spankings, time-outs, etc.

(10) In Ownership relationships, punishment is the application of penalties in response to disobedience or other forms of unsatisfactory behavior, and is part of the owner's structure of discipline. It is more often the loss of privileges rather than the infliction of pain, although both approaches are often used within a household.

In BDSM, the term punishment is occasionally used to refer to some forms of impact-based SM (eg caning) that are traditionally associated with school, prison, or military punishments.

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Punishment Scene

(2) A scene in which the Dominant administers physical correction for improper behavior on the submissive's part, be it genuine or fantasy.

Punishment Tie

(2) Any form of bondage done in such a way that the bound person's pose or the bondage itself is painful or uncomfortable, or any kind of bondage done with the intent of causing pain or discomfort to the bound person. Some forms of shibari include punishment ties.
(2) See related pain play.

(4) Any form of bondage done in such a way that the bound person’s pose of the bondage itself is painful or uncomfortable.

Pup Play; also, Puppy Play

(2) Sub is made to act like a puppy. Sub barks, whines, eats from a bowl, etc. Such play is sexual but also focuses on the altered mind-space of bottom/pup and the complete dominance of his/her Trainer/Master.

(4) An activity in which the submissive takes on the role of a puppy, as by barking, walking on all fours, in sleeping in a kennel or doghouse.

(9) Treating someone like (or pretending to be) a dog.

Puppy

(2) A person who enjoys acting like a young dog and is treated as such by its Master.
(2) Also An over anxious beginner.

Pushing Limits

(2) An activity that involves taking a person to the edge of a personal limit, then pushing them to take a little bit more.

(7) SM play that takes the submissive up to the edge of what they can stand and a little beyond.

Pussy Torture

(4) The female equivalent of 'cock and ball' torture. In this case clamping, whipping, or other ways of inflicting pain are focussed on the female genitalia.

Pussy Whipping

(3) "Whipping" the genital (vagina) area with different types of equipment for erotic pleasure.
(3) Example, floggers, crops, slappers, etc.
(3) See also: Licking.

Pussy Worship

(3) The practice of play involving the "worship" of the female genitalia. involve cleaning, licking, shaving, etc. In general, "worship" is a form of erotic play.

PVC; acronym for Poly Vinyl Chloride

(4) A thin, shiny plastic material often used for fetish clothes.

(9) To love wearing PVC clothing.

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