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Maid Training

(2) Wearing a maid's outfit. Cleaning, serving the Mistress, and generally acting as a maid.

(c) alternative to Butler Training, Valet Training

Malicious Warning

(2) Purposefully lying about a person to deem them an unsafe player by others in the community. This practice is usually done by a scorned play partner and can be grounds for expulsion from many SM organizations.

(11) Purposefully lying about a person in order to deem them an unsafe player by others in the community. This practice is usually done by a scorned play partner and can be grounds for expulsion from many SM organizations.

Manacles; also, Irons

(2) Wrist restraints, usually made of metal.

(3) Metal rings joined by a chain to restrain the wrist or ankles.
(3) See also: Bondage.

(4) Any metal cuffs with a length of chain attached, that either connect the cuffs together (as in a pair of handcuffs) or which may be used to affix the cuffs to a wall or other restraint point.

(11) Wrist restraints, usually made of metal.

Marketplace protocol

(10) The setting of Laura Antoniou's Marketplace series of novels and short stories is a detailed and nuanced secret institution that arranges and oversees the training, sale, and ownership of consensual slaves who generally serve a succession of two-year contracts until they retire. The following article provides a general summary of the common protocols for Marketplace slaves, organized as a protocol schema, though specific requirements and protocols vary among Marketplace owners.

Classes
Five classes of people make up the Marketplace: owners, trainers, slaves, spotters, and employees. In general, spotters locate potential slaves (called clients by the Marketplace), assess them, and provide their initial training before passing them on to specialized trainers who will prepare them for their initial sale to one of the Marketplace's owners. Slaves will often return to their trainers to improve themselves and learn new skills in between contracts. Trainers generally apprentice themselves to experienced trainers (Master Trainers) to learn their craft. The large and complex infrastructure of the Marketplace requires many employees who are well compensated for their discretion. Note that these categories may overlap. For example, some trainers (and owners) also spot slaves, and some of the Marketplace's trainers are themselves, slaves. Some Marketplace owners have several slaves in their households, and in these situations, one slave generally has supervisory and disciplinary authority over the others.

Dress and symbols
Marketplace slaves generally wear traditional chain and padlock collars during their training. These are replaced after their sale (generally by auction) with the collar style and design of their owner. These are usually also chain and padlock collars, though the books mention other styles as well--particularly for more expensive slaves. Beyond the collar, preferences for dress and symbols vary widely among Marketplace owners. In general, slaves' attire (or lack thereof) varies by circumstance and is often functional rather than erotic. It lacks the rigid specificity found in other erotic fiction, such as The Story of O. Overt symbols, such as O's Roissy ring, which are apparently discouraged.

Reflecting the tastes of the author, tattooing, piercing, and branding appear frequently in Marketplace stories, and a slave's contract will specify any limitations for these and other body modifications. In past generations, it was common for Marketplace master trainers to mark their apprentices. Imala Anderson, for example, marked Chris Parker as her apprentice with a rose cutting, but this practice has become rare.

Speech rules
Marketplace slaves are generally expected to remain silent unless spoken to and to respond to any questions quickly and honestly. They are expected to be courteous, respectful, and thank their owners for disciplining them, allowing them pleasure, and just about “every kind of attention” (The Slave, 76). They address free individuals as sir or ma'am and their owners as master, mistress, or whatever other titles they specify. The Marketplace's best slaves are voice trained. Voice-trained slaves never indicate their personal desires when responding to their owners, often employing such stock phrases as “whatever pleases you, Master.”

Slaves undergoing their initial training often live under considerable restrictions. At the training establishment of Alexandra Selador and Grendel Elliot, for example, trainees are expected to “maintain absolute respect and obedience.” They are “not allowed to ask questions unless given direct permission to do so,” nor are they allowed “privacy, the freedom of discussion, choices in anything, or pleasure,” unless directly approved by their trainers (Marketplace, 65). They must offer their “most profound and genuine submission” along with “absolute, trusting obedience,” and accept everything they are taught with “gratitude and respect” (Marketplace, 139). They must also keep themselves “clean and available for inspection and use at all times” (The Slave, 68).

Deportment
Marketplace slaves are commonly prohibited from using furniture, masturbating, or seeking other pleasures without permission. A Marketplace slave is trained to respond to a variety of position commands, including “present,” which involves presenting oneself for punishment or sexual use, and “show yourself,” which involves stripping off one's clothing and executing three maneuvers:

1. lacing fingers behind the neck, standing straight, spreading one's legs, and turning slowly in place to show off one's body;
2. bending forward and bracing hands on knees; then
3. kneeling with knees widespread, back straight, head bowed, and hands crossed behind back.

(The Marketplace 286; The Slave, 112; and The Reunion 482)

Marketplace training manuals include instruction for deportment in a variety of situations and roles. For example, slaves may be required to act like pets. Pets crawl, carry items in their mouths (gently so as not to leave teeth marks), may not use furniture, and may not talk, making only animal whines and other noises (The Marketplace, 302).

*The page references for The Marketplace and The Slave refer to the original Masquerade Books editions. The references for the others are to the Mystic Rose editions.

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Marketplace series

(10) The Marketplace series comprises five novels by Laura Antoniou and a few separately published short stories, which describe the experiences of the participants in a highly ritualized fictional BDSM secret society. "The Marketplace" is notable for being focused as much on character development as erotica, and for the pansexual nature of its setting.

The main thread through these books is the idea of the Marketplace, a secret society of people dedicated to training and selling slaves to qualified owners. The books consist of:

• "The Marketplace" (1993)
• "The Slave" (1994)
• "The Trainer" (1995, revised ed., 2001)
• "The Academy" (2000)
• "The Reunion" (2002)

Through these books, Antoniou explores the concept of consensual nonconsent, gratification through service, consensual slavery, and the support structures needed to maintain a hidden society. The series has several recurring characters, including the mysterious Chris Parker, a slave trainer who aspires to be a slave himself. Other featured characters include Robin Cassidy, a young woman who has pushed beyond the structure of Dominance/submission role-playing and is trained to be a slave; Imala Anderson, a Master Trainer who not only trains slaves but mentors new trainers; Alexandra Selador and Grendel Elliot, trainers who specialize in novice slaves; and Michael LaGuardia, an overconfident man who believes he can be a slave trainer. As Antoniou developed the series, she added more characters, giving the Marketplace universe a rich and complex international feel, with stories taking place in the United States, Great Britain, Ireland, and Japan.

The series is frequently cited by BDSM aficionados as one of the most realistic portrayals of a fictional slave-training community, with a conscious effort by the author to create a real sense of the economics of the structure while setting the Marketplace within the contemporary real world. There is an enormous diversity of characters in age, body type, gender, and sexual orientation. Many conversations between characters explore the nature of dominance and submission, sadomasochism, and the difference between consensual pair-bonded BDSM relationships and being sold as chattel to the highest bidder.

Along with the Story of O's secret Chateau de Roissy, the Marketplace is likely to have contributed to the Ancient European Houses myth which has grown up online.

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Marking; as in, Marking Slaves

(4) Marks left on a submissive's body as a result of punishment, for example whipping or caning. Sometimes viewed by submissives as a bade of pride but can also be a major embarrassment if unwanted.

(10) Tattoos and brands offer an alternative to the slave collar, as a way of marking a property as owned.

SLRN markings
The Register allows slaves to obtain a lifelong Registration Number, which can remain unchanged even if the slave's name is changed by future owners. Since the Registration Number is associated with the slave rather than the relationship, it may be used to avoid the taboo against relationship-specific body modifications (ie a tattoo of the Registration Number marks the bearer as a slave or submissive, not as a particular owner's slave.)

As an example, a slave owner may enjoy marking their property's body, collar, etc with the slave's Registration Number, safe in the knowledge that this identifies them as a slave and allows third parties to determine the slave's owner using this number and the Register entry. This provides a measure of third-party acknowledgment of their bond and can make the slave's condition feel more inescapable and therefore more complete.

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Marks

(2) Bruises, welts, or other markings of the skin caused during SM activities.

(11) Bruises, welts, or other markings of the skin caused during SM activities.

Martinet

(2) A specific type of whip consisting of a short, rigid handle with many short leather lashes, each of which is square in cross-section.
(2) See whip (def. 1)

(4) A specific type of whip consisting of a short, rigid handle with many short leather lashes, each of which is square in cross-section.

Martymachilia; Psychology

(2) Sexual arousal from being watched during sex; exhibitionism.

(w) A paraphilia that involves sexual attraction to having others watch the execution of a sexual act.

(4) Sexual arousal from being watched during sex.

Masochism

(2) The eroticism and enjoyment of pain.

(8) The deriving of sexual gratification, or the tendency to derive sexual gratification, from being physically or emotionally abused. The deriving of pleasure, or the tendency to derive pleasure, from being humiliated or mistreated, either by another or by oneself. A willingness or tendency to subject oneself to unpleasant or trying experiences. The sexual pleasure obtained from receiving punishment (physical or psychological).

(11) The eroticism and enjoyment of pain.

Masochismo

(2) A deep sense of pride felt by a submissive or bottom regarding the amount of pain or other play deemed 'heavy' that he or she can take. Some masochists collect the toys or equipment that have been broken on their bodies as trophies. After 5 a person is considered an Ace Bottom.

(11) A deep sense of pride felt by a submissive or bottom regarding the amount of pain or other play deemed 'heavy' that he or she can take. Some masochists collect the toys or equipment that have been broken on their bodies as trophies. After 5 a person is considered an Ace Bottom.

Masochist

(1) One who derives pleasure from pain.

(2) Used to describe a person that enjoys receiving erotic pain. A masochist may or may not have submissive qualities.

(4) Someone who derives pleasure, especially sexual pleasure, from pain or humiliation. The word comes from the name of Leopold von Sacher-Masoch (1839-95) the Austrian writer (and masochist) who described what he enjoyed so well in his novel, “Venus in Furs”.

(7) A person who enjoys receiving pain and or humiliation, often for sexual gratification.

(11) Term used to describe a person that enjoys receiving erotic pain. A masochist may or may not have submissive qualities.

Massage

(3) Using the hands (generally) to massage areas of the body. Possibly giving a massage to "warm-up" or “foreplay” before play.

(8) Rubbing the body to increase circulation.

MAsT; Acronym

(10) MAsT (Masters And slaves Together) is a US-based organization for adults who live a D/s lifestyle. More than 20 local MAsT chapters exist around the US, in gay, gay & lesbian or pansexual formats.

Some MAsT meetings are held according to a D/s protocol, and the lowercase "s" in the name reflects this.

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Master

(2) A masculine Dominant. I use the word 'masculine' instead of 'male' because there are many lesbian butch Dominants who hold the title of Master. A Master may or may not have sadistic tendencies.

(10) Master Master is a term used to describe or address the dominant partner in a relationship or scene. Because it is an honorific of the dominant, it is common for "master" to be written with a capital letter.

The term "master" is mostly used within the Ownership Subculture to refer to males but is sometimes also used by female owners or dominants to stress the masculine style of their dominance.

Owner
Typically, the Master is used to describe the owner in a Master/slave relationship. It is sometimes, less commonly, used as a title for the dominant in a D/s relationship.

The master has usually acquired the right to exercise authority over the slave (or submissive) in some substantial sense, within a relationship that may extend to a full time, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, or something less extensive (weekends as schedules permit, for instance).

Head of household
Master may also be used in its everyday sense as the male head of a household in some styles of D/s and M/s, especially those groups of people identifying as a house.

Expert
Not often used within the meaning of BDSM, but sometimes found in this context to mean someone who knows a lot about some subject, such as ropework or computers or whips (as in "he is a famous whip master.")

Historically, a master craftsman (sometimes simply called Master) was a member of a guild. In the European guild system, only master craftsmen were allowed to actually be members of the guild. An aspiring master would have to pass through the career chain from apprentice to journeyman before he could be elected to become a master craftsman. He would often have to produce a sum of money and a masterpiece before he could actually join the guild. Becoming a Master was often very hard.

The usage of master in SM parallels this usage in some ways, as early practitioners used to go through an 'apprentice' stage, often having to act as a submissive or masochistic as part of the process. However, master in historical SM and Leather derived from 'Master/slave' rather than apprentice/journeyman/master.

Casual usage
Some people in a relationship, or just within a BDSM scene, enjoy the psychological impact of calling their dominant partner Master or having their submissive partner call them Master. Such usage is not by itself an indication that they are a Master any more than calling a partner 'honey' indicates that they are made of honey.

This usage of the word master, as an honorific when neither party in a relationship consider themselves to be owned nor owner, is a common source of confusion when trying to use or understand BDSM terminology, given that the most accepted usage requires no certification or formal training. Most especially, a Dom might be called Master by his sub in a D/s relationship.

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(c) Some female-identified dominants will use the term Master instead of Mistress.

(11) A masculine Dominant. I use the word 'masculine' instead of 'male' because there are many lesbian butch Dominants who hold the title of Master. A Master may or may not have sadistic tendencies.

Master/Mistress

(1) A skilled Top. This is best explained in “What Is A Master?” which will appear in an upcoming edition of Kink Weekly.

(c) A male/female, respectively, who takes ownership of their submissive, thus making the sub a slave.

(4) The Oxford English Dictionary describes a 'master' as 'a person who dominates others' or 'a skilled practitioner of a particular art'. Those two concepts, dominance, and skill, are brought together in the use of the word 'Master' in a BDSM context. The title may sometimes be used within a D/s relationship as a loving tribute by a submissive to the skill of her partner or it may define a relationship in which the submissive sees herself as a 'slave' who is owned by her 'master'. Essentially though the word describes how someone else regards you, not how you regard yourself.

(7) A male Dominant that is usually in an ongoing relationship in which a slave is submissive to Him.

(c) Master is commonly used for a male dominant but in reality, is for any masculine dominant. Mistress, in contrast, is commonly used for a female or feminine dominant.

Master/slave

(2) A consensual relationship in which one person receives control (the Master) when given it by another (the slave) for mutual benefit. An extreme form of D/s which usually involves a 24/7 relationship rather than a short period of time (a scene or perhaps a weekend.) The slave will usually accept a collar from their Master to show that they are owned.

(10) Master/slave relationships are a special case of D/s, in which the dominant has ultimate authority over the submissive.

Master/slave also exists as a subculture that straddles the Leather and BDSM worlds and is represented at regular conventions and meetings in North America. These include the annual International Master/slave contest for Master and slave pairs, held as part of South Plains Leatherfest each February; the MASTER/slave Conference held in Washington DC each July, which is also the largest convention dedicated to M/s relationships; and Masters And slaves Together with over 20 chapters across the United States.

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MASTER/slave Conference

(10) The MASTER/slave Conference is an annual convention held in Washington DC. The conference takes place over a weekend in late July, and includes the Northeast Master/slave Contest, which is a preliminary round for the International Master/slave Contest.

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Master Training

(c) Master Training teaches general protocols, expectations, and principles, and acquaints the Master with community perceptions with the behavior of the Master's self selected status.

Example:

Master Training Weekend Program

Activity	Faculty
Issues on Master / slave Relationships
The calling of Mastery: the Master's Heart	Master Taino
Protocol	Master Tallen
The slave perspective	slave llamb
BDSM in M/s relationships	Master Taino
Communication in M/s relationships	slave sandy
Accepting Service	slave llamb
Masters in service	Master Taino
Problem Solving and Difficult Discussions	Master David Ph D
Community and Resources	Master Taino
Ethics in Master/slave Relationships	Lady Lynette
BDSM Basics
Bondage: Ropes and Restraints	Master David
Hot Wax	Lady Lynette
Flogging	Master Taino
Electricity	Master David
Other Activities
Round Table Sessions	Faculty Members and Staff
Individual Counseling	Faculty

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Masturbation

(8) Stimulating one's own sexual organs and erogenous zones.

Mastigothyma; Psychology

(2) Sexual arousal from being flogged.

(4) Sexual arousal from being flogged.

(k) Sexual arousal that is derived specifically from the act of being flogged.

Menage á Trois

(8) Three people having sex together.

Medical Fetish

(4) A collection of sexual fetishes for objects, practices, environments, and situations of a medical or clinical nature. This may include the sexual attraction to medical practitioners, medical uniforms, surgery, anesthesia, or intimate examinations such as rectal examinations, gynecological examinations, rectal temperature taking, catheterization, enemas, injections, the insertion of suppositories, menstrual cups, and prostatic massage; or medical devices such as orthopedic casts and braces. Also, the field of dentistry and objects such as dental braces, retainers or headgear, and medical gags. Within BDSM culture, a medical scene is a term used to describe the form of role-playing in which specific or general medical fetishes are pandered to in an individual or acted out between partners.

Medical Play

(9) Play or scene using medical equipment/tools (E).

(c) Moderate Risk, for simulated acts, High Risk, for actual skin cutting acts, psycho dramas.

Medical Scene

(2) Where the Mistress plays the role of doctor or nurse. Often involves the use of rectal exams, enemas, and catheters. Occasionally, body-neutral fluids are injected under the skin.

(3) Done in a room equipped and fitted as a physician's or surgeon's office. This is a form of role play, where cavity exams, piercing, the use of needles, scalpels, equipment sounds are generally found. Not for the novice.
(3) Some forms of this play are illegal, and can be dangerous.

(c) also Master
(c) Risky; but High Risk when using catheters, or injections.

Mentee

(c) One who receives assistance from another in study or learning. Maybe in a formal Mentor/Mentee relationship, or a one-time question and answer session. A Mentee is guided by Mentor to achieve knowledge.
(c) See also, Mentor.

Menthol Play

(4) A form of erotic play in which menthol products are used on sensitive areas of the body to produce intense stimulation. Cough drops or toothpaste containing menthol can be used to spice up fellatio (cock sucking) or cunnilingus (pussy licking). Arthritis creams and sprays (e.g. Ben Gay) which contain menthol can also be used to make male masturbation more intense, but are generally much too strong to be tolerated on the sensitive internal mucous membrane of the anus or vagina. This kind of play needs to be treated with care because it can also cause intense discomfort.

Mentor

(3) One who assists another in study. Usually, a well-versed Dominant helping a submissive understand the lifestyle and their role in it. A Mentor guides another to achieve knowledge, not a teacher.

(c) See also, Mentee.

Metrosexual

(6) adj.: a man with a strong aesthetic sense who spends more time, energy, or money on his appearance and grooming than is considered gender normative.

Military Play

(2) A specific form of role-playing which involves military-style settings, uniforms, hierarchy, or protocol.

(4) A specific form of role-playing involving military-style settings, uniforms, hierarchy, and protocols.

Military scene

(2) The use of uniforms, ranking systems, and behaviors associated with the Military during an SM session. Military mannerisms are also associated with those who live the code of Old Guard.

(11) The use of uniforms, ranking systems, and behaviors associated with the Military during an SM session. Military mannerisms are also associated with those who live the code of Old Guard.
(11) See also Old Guard.

Milking

(2) 1. The practice of stimulating the male prostate, often with a finger or with an implement such as a dildo, or of stimulating the perineum in such a way as to produce ejaculation without orgasm.
(2) 2. The practice of inducing orgasm repeatedly in a man, often by sexually stimulating him over and over, until he is no longer able to produce ejaculate.
(2) 3. Stimulating the prostate by means of an electrode built into a dildo or similar probe, inserted into the anus, and connected to an electrical stimulation device such as a TENS unit. The electrode causes involuntary contraction of the muscles around the prostate, causing ejaculation without arousal or orgasm.

(4) The practice of stimulating the male prostate and or perineum, often with a finger, in such a way as to produce ejaculation without orgasm.

Mind Bondage

(4) A kind of bondage in which the submissive is restrained simply by the dominant describing to her how she is tied up or by telling her to stay in position. No 'real' bondage is involved.

Mind Play

(4) Psychological manipulation by the dominant intended to intensify the erotic or emotional response of the submissive through heightened anticipation and fear. It may be good or bad, depending on the circumstances and motive. Also known as head games, head trips, or mind-fucking.

Mistress

(2) A feminine Dominant.

(4) A female dominant

(10) A female equivalent of master. Typically used to refer to someone who owns a slave within a Master/slave relationship, or heads a D/s household.

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(11) A feminine Dominant. Though I do not know of any males who go by the title of Mistress I do know a few who have the Mommy title so I am sure in this vast community that somewhere there is a male Mistress. (*If anyone knows of one, please email Me*)

(c) Contrast with Master.
(c) Some female identified doms use the title of Master.

Modeling

(3) Usually used for pictures, where one is placed in positions for best appearance.

(c) May be any combination of live audience performance, webcasting, pictures, and videos. May be "G" rated or more intimate/kinky.

Mommy

(2) A feminine Dominant that relates to a submissive in a parent role.

(4) A dominant, usually but not always female, who adopts a maternal role when relating to a submissive.

(11) A feminine Dominant that relates to a submissive in a parent role.

(c) Contrast with Daddy.

Monday morning rebound syndrome

(2) Carries similar effects as Top drop or bottom drop but on a higher level. The effects do not come on immediately but may appear hours or days after participating in an SM scene.

(11) Carries similar effects as Top drop or bottom drop but on a higher level. The effects do not come on immediately but may appear hours or days after participating in an SM scene.
(11) See also Top drop, bottom drop.

Moonglove

(2) See armbinder.

Mouth Bit; pl., Mouth Bits

(2) Any of a style of gags with a long, cylinder-shaped bit, usually made of soft rubber or latex, in place of a round ball. Mouth bits may include an integrated harness; such bits are often used in pony play.

(3) A type of mouthpiece, generally used on horses and ponies, that is inserted into the mouth and is used to bite down on. Used typically during pony girl/boy play scenes.

(4) Any style of gag, with a long, cylindrical-shaped bit, usually made of soft rubber or latex, in place of a ball. Mouth bits may include an integrated harness; such bits are often used in pony play.

Mouth Gag

(2) A dental instrument designed to hold the mouth open for long periods of time, sometimes used as a gag in BDSM play.

(4) A dental instrument designed to hold the mouth open for long periods of time, sometimes used as a gag in BDSM play.

MSM / WSW

(6) abbr.: men who have sex with men or women who have sex with women, to distinguish sexual behaviors from sexual identities: because a man is straight, it doesn’t mean he’s not having sex with men. Often used in the field of HIV/Aids education, prevention, and treatment.

Mummification

(1) Using saran wrap to immobilize the bottom. Often performed in public play as it can be visually stunning.

(2) Complete immobilization of a submissive's body. This can be done with equipment made specifically for this purpose or by wrapping the body with layers of plastic wrap (or similar material).

(3) A specialized kind of bondage in which the whole body, including the head, if a breathing tube is used, is wrapped tightly to prevent any type of mobilization. Common types of materials are saran wrap, gaffa tape, or cloth or latex bandages. Holes are then sometimes made to allow access to the genital area.
(3) This form of play is dangerous, and should always have extra help around in case of an emergency.
(3) See also: Bondage, Immobilization, Sleep Sack.

(4) A very tight and constricting kind of bondage in which the person is completely (or nearly so) wrapped in restrictive material such as bandages, cling-film, rubber, or a special bag designed for this purpose.

(7) Bondage in which the submissive is immobilized usually through wrapping in many coils of materials such as a plastic wrap, leather, duct tape, etc.

(9) Wrapping someone entirely to limit movement.

(11) Complete immobilization of a submissive's body. This can be done with equipment made specifically for this purpose or by wrapping the body with layers of plastic wrap (or similar material).

(c) Also using duct tape and sleep sacks.

Munch

(2) A meeting of SM people to socialize, normally held in a restaurant or other 'vanilla' location.

(4) A term used to describe informal meetings run by BDSM clubs and organizations in safe, social settings such as a group lunch or 'munch' at a public restaurant, where kinky people can make new acquaintances or socialize with old friends in a low-key, pressure-free "vanilla" setting.

(11) A meeting of SM people for the purpose of socializing, normally held in a restaurant or other 'vanilla' location.
(11) See also Vanilla

Mx., / “mix” or “schwa” /

(6) noun: an honorific (e.g. Mr., Ms., Mrs., etc.) that is gender-neutral. It is often the option of choice for folks who do not identify within the gender binary: Mx. Smith is a great teacher.

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