Layering

This post is primarily for Dominants but perhaps boys will be interested in learning as well. 

Layering is placing an action, word, protocol, or anything else intended to make a submissive move into sub-space. Layering is a tool many doms use without even thinking about it. Here’s an easy example: Collar, leash, decorative rope work, having a boy call you Sir, having a boy naked in your presence, making a boy kiss your feet upon entering service, and capitalizing Sir when sending text messages. These are all layers. 

Everyone is using them. So why discuss it? Layering just right, combining all different kinds of stimuli creates the experience. It takes a scene from enjoyable to unforgettable. 

You want to hear out your boy’s fantasies. 

You’ll want to know the correct vocabulary for the guy you’re playing with. 

You’ll want to consider what else could be done to the environment to enhance the scene. 

Foreshadow. 

Consider any special requirements you may have of the boy to get him in the right mindset. 

Once you feel you’ve considered every angle of your scene (and I do often just make a list). Look critically at what you’ve pulled together and try to select the top five or top ten items that you want to layer together you feel are most effective. Too many more and a scene can feel a bit busy and the sub may have trouble determining where his attention should be.