Why I Am a Fan of Pain
I am a sadist. I am a person who enjoys inflicting pain on his submissives. I have, however, also come to learn that I exclusively enjoy inflicting pain on men who enjoy having pain inflicted on them.
The very first sub I ever had that enjoyed pain would writhe and yelp and grind his ass into my sheets. He taught me a bit about fine control, how to hit, and where to hit.
One of the most important pieces I ever read about pain related pain to wine. When you first drink wine it has a rather bitter taste up front and it lasts for a little while after you first drink it. Then you experience the aftertaste. A very different experience from the initial taste you experienced.
It’s true. I could simply reach out and whack you with my crop and it would hurt, but that’s not what a session is really like or about. My intent when I wield such a device is to find “almost ouch”. The point where it hurts a bit, but not so much that you want me to stop. When I find that spot and dance along the edge, one hit a little softer, another a little harder than that, I’m doing it slowly and building up. The intent behind doing it is to start an endorphin flow. You can trick your body into thinking that the pain is a sign that you’re in mortal danger. It will release endorphins to give you a rush so you can move faster and think clearer to escape whatever danger you might be in. It feels good and the endorphins further increase your pain tolerance. It’s a similar high to what surfers, parachuters, and other “extreme” sports enthusiasts experience.
Once you get that nice little rush going, you’ll find that the impacts my cane rains down upon you feel different. Like a little static jolt of pleasure. They will end up hurting if I hit you VERY hard but most are surprised at the amount they enjoy the sensation.
If you aren’t certain you’d hate pain play, I’d encourage you to give it a try. If you read some of my earlier entries, I mentioned sub-drop. In case you didn’t, it’s worth a quick repeat. Sub-drop is the drop in endorphin levels after a more intense play like pain play. It is something you need to be aware of before it happens. Some people want to be held afterward and reassured. Others just really want to get out of there and be alone. It can feel an awful lot like depression since you will have had a sudden endorphin drop, but it will pass and you will be ok.