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Table Play

(3) A padded table, where the submissive is restrained for play. The table has many securing points to offer different positions for play or examination. Tables can be used as racks if outfitted accordingly.

Taken in Hand

(10) A Taken In Hand relationship is a consensual male-led exclusive monogamous relationship in which the man's control is real and for the purpose of creating a deeply connected, fully engaged relationship with a white-hot sexual connection. The term has been popularized by the UK Web site [link from archive.org, the site is now defunct or nonfunctional] of the same name.

How the man expresses his leadership and control is an individual matter, but it is for the benefit of the relationship rather than being purely self-serving. The Taken In Hand man protects and cherishes the woman he leads. The Taken In Hand woman responds positively to her man's authority and leadership. It is not necessarily a Domestic Discipline relationship, though it can be.

Taken In Hand couples often think of themselves as vanilla (though many may not know the word in this context) and tend to be unfamiliar with or turned-off by BDSM or its literature, perhaps because of its exotic language, customs, and rituals. Many Taken In Hand couples think of what they are doing as being very ordinary. However, as with other types of D/s, there are no typical reasons some prefer this kind of relationship, to another. Nor is there any assumption that this is morally superior to any other kind of relationship: it is simply a preference some have.

Taken In Hand is not about the woman being slavishly obedient or submissive by default. It is more likely to be about the man correcting and controlling her to the delight of both. In some D/s relationships, the woman might aspire to be more submissive, whereas in many a Taken In Hand relationship, the woman will have no such aspiration.

Taken In Hand can sound boringly conservative and conventional to anyone with a penchant for some of the more elaborate, painful, ritualistic, theatrical, humiliating SM or D/s practices, but it often seems hardcore, extreme, dangerous, and scary to anyone who doesn't like the idea of the man's leadership being real instead of stylized or confined to set times and negotiated scenes.

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Tampon Training

(3) Tampons inserted into the rectum, used as an anal plug, for play or punishment.

Tantra

(8) Yoga-type sexual discipline.

Tattoo; pl., Tattoos

(3) A permanent form of scarring to the body in the form of various types of pictures or drawings or names, etc.
(3)A permanent form of "marking the submissive" as property.
(3) See also: Branding.

(9) Some like giving them, some like getting them (E).

(c) Skin Ink, generally permanent.
(c) Moderate Risk, if done by a professional.

Tawse

(2) An instrument used for striking or whipping a person, consisting of a thick, heavy leather strap that splits into two or three parallel tails at the striking end.

(4) An instrument used for striking or whipping a person, consisting of a thick, heavy, leather strap that splits into two or three parallel tails at the striking end.

Taylor Hammer; also, Taylor Reflex Hammer

(2) A common medical instrument consisting of a triangular rubber hammer attached to a metal handle, used for testing reflexes by tapping just beneath the knee. Sometimes used for percussion in the BDSM community.

(4) A common medical instrument consisting of a triangular rubber hammer attached to a metal handle, used for testing reflexes by tapping a person just below the knee.

(w) Starting in the late 19th century, several models of specific reflex hammers were created: The Taylor or tomahawk reflex hammer was designed by John Madison Taylor in 1888[3] and is the most well-known reflex hammer in the USA. It consists of a triangular rubber component that is attached to a flat metallic handle. The traditional Taylor hammer is significantly lighter in weight when compared to the heavier European hammers.

Teasing

(3) The act of "teasing" to enhance erotic play or pleasure. Teasing the partner in such a way as to stimulate sexual pleasure.

Teledildonics

(2) Colloquial Of or relating to any form of sex toy or fucking machine designed to be operated remotely, as by radio, over a computer network, and so on.

(4) Relating to any form of sex toy or fucking machine designed to be operated remotely.

(w) Teledildonics (also known as cyber dildonics) is the name coined for virtual sex encounters using technology to mimic and extend human sexual interaction.
(w) Usage, To refer to remote sexual activity using technology. Nowadays, the term is commonly used to describe remote sex (or, at least, remote mutual masturbation), where tactile sensations are communicated over a remote cloud between the participants. The term can also refer to the integration of telepresence with sexual activity that these interfaces make possible and can be used in conjunction or interchangeably with sex technology. The term has also been used less accurately (since there's no "tele-" element) to refer to robotic sex, i.e., computer-controlled sex toys that aim to substitute for or improve upon sex with a human partner. Nowadays, it is commonly used to refer to Bluetooth-enabled sex toys.

Temperature Games

(2) A scene involving the use of ice, ointments, or heating substances to alter a bottom's body temperature.

Temporary Piercing

(2) The placement of sterile needles under the skin for sensation or decorative purposes instead of jewelry placement.
(2) See lacing and bell dancing.

Tens Unit; also, TENS Unit

(2) A medical nerve stimulator used in an SM scene involving electric play.

(3) Term meaning Transcutaneous Electrical Neural Stimulation unit. A machine designed to apply electrical impulses to the body at safe levels.
(3) Note: As with any type of electrical play, safety precautions should be observed as this form of play is very dangerous.
(3) See also: Electricity, Violet Wand.

(4) An electrical device that applies electrical signals through pads affixed to the skin, in the anus and vagina, and around the male genital area. Used in BDSM as a form of electrical play. It can have an effect ranging from a mild tingle to a very strong sensation, depending on how it is used.

Term of address

(10) A term of address is used to stress someone's status as a superior, inferior or respected peer when talking to them. Typically, terms of address are placed at the start or end of words addressed to the individual: for example, "sir" in "yes, sir".

In the Ownership and Leather subcultures, "master", "mistress", "sir", and "ma'am" are the most common terms of address towards dominants or owners. Towards submissives and property, "slave", "boy" and "girl" are also sometimes used to stress their status.

Some protocols also require submissives and property to address dominants other than their owner as "sir" or "ma'am", although many dominants dislike this and conflicting protocols can raise etiquette dilemmas.

A term of address is distinct from a title prefixing a name, such as "master" in "Master Example"; and from a role, such as being a master or serving as a slave.

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(10) A term of address is used to stress someone's status as a superior, inferior or respected peer when talking to them. Typically, terms of address are placed at the start or end of words addressed to the individual: for example, "sir" in "yes, sir".

"Master", "mistress", "sir", and "ma'am" are the most common terms of address towards dominants or owners. Towards submissives and property, "slave", "boy" and "girl" are also sometimes used to stress their status.

Some protocols also require submissives and property to address dominants other than their owner as "sir" or "ma'am", although many dominants dislike this and conflicting protocols can raise etiquette dilemmas.

A term of address is distinct from a title prefixing a name, such as "master" in "Master Example"; and from a role, such as being a master, or serving as a slave. However, both terms of address and titles are types of honorific.

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Texting and Audio

(9) Audiobooks, messages etc.

(c) A technological successor to phone sex, computer sex.

Thigh Cuffs

(3) A simple belt around the waist with connectors around it to restrict the submissive's movement of arms and legs.
(3) See also: Cuffs.

Third Gender

(6) noun: for a person who does not identify with either man or woman, but identifies with another gender. This gender category is used by societies that recognize three or more genders, both contemporary and historic, and is also a conceptual term meaning different things to different people who use it, as a way to move beyond the gender binary.

Thud

(2) A sensation made by toys that have a heavy impact, such as most floggers. Most toys used for flagellation are described as having a sting or thud feeling upon contact with the skin.

(4) A sensation of a dull, heavy impact felt during forms of corporal punishment.

Thumb Cuffs

(3) Restraining devices used for restraint by the thumbs.
(3) See also: Cuffs.

Ticklers

(3) These are 16 to 18-inch rods with a tiny *flogger* attached on the end. Great for small areas where precision impacts are desired.
(3) Other ticklers: feathers, sandpaper, etc.

Tickling

(3) Tickling the body to induce laughter. Often used in age play scenes.

Tit Torture

(2) The act of causing deliberate physical pain to the breasts and nipples.

(7) Administering sensations to the nipples usually with clamps, fingernails, teeth, or abrasives.

Title

(10) Within the Ownership and Leather subcultures, titles are often placed before a name to indicate status.

This is more common amongst dominants and owners, with titles such as "Master", "Mistress", "Mr", and "Sir". For submissives and property who do use titles, "slave", "boy", and "girl" are the most common.

A title prefixing a name is distinct from a term of address such as "master" in "yes, master"; and from a role, such as being a master or serving as a slave.

There are two views on the appropriateness of using titles: first, that they are part of the individual's name and their own choice; secondly, that titles have to be conferred by someone else - for example, that "master" as a title is only granted by one's peers at the cap stage of "earning your leathers", or that "sir" and "lord" can only be inherited or granted by a monarch. These differences of opinion can raise etiquette problems, as the offense can be caused by the refusal or insistence on including a title when using a person's name.

The word "title" is also used to refer to Leather contests that grant a title such as International Master/slave to the winners.

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(10) Titles are often used before a name to indicate status. This is more common amongst dominants and owners, with titles such as "Master", "Mistress", "Mr", and "Sir". For submissives and property who do use titles, "slave", "boy", and "girl" are the most common.

A title prefixed to a name (e.g. "Sir Stephen", etc.) is distinct from a term of address such as "master" in "yes, master"; and from a role, such as being a master, or serving as a slave. However, both terms of address and titles are types of honorific.

There are two views on the appropriateness of using titles: first, that they are part of the individual's name and their own choice; secondly, that titles have to be conferred by someone else - for example, that "master" as a title is only granted by one's peers at the cap stage of "earning your leathers", or that "sir" and "lord" can only be inherited or granted by a monarch. These differences of opinion can raise etiquette problems, as offence can be caused by the refusal or insistence on including a title when using a person's name.

The protocol described in the Gor books is conspicuously lacking in titles connected with slave ownership -- words such as "master" or "mistress" are almost never prefixed to proper names.

The word "title" is also used to refer to Leather contests which grant a title such as International Master/slave to the winners.

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Titleholder

(2) A person who has won one of the many Leather contests held in the SM community. Most contests are held as fundraisers for organizations, charities, and awareness programs. Some people look down on these contests comparing them to nothing more than a beauty contest while others believe them to be educational.

Toilet Box

(2) Laying on your back, a toilet box is a purpose-built box, with a toilet seat on top, which fits around the head. Mistress then sits on the box.

Top

(2) Term used for a Dominant and/or Sadist.

(4) One who gives the pain or sensation, which a 'bottom' wishes to receive, so for example in a spanking the 'top' will administer the spanking and the 'bottom' will be spanked. The word can also be used as a verb (as in 'topping' someone, meaning to give them pain or sensation). The words 'top' and 'bottom' are often used interchangeably with 'dominant' and 'submissive' but they are not synonymous. In relations between a dominant and a submissive, there is always an exchange of power, where the submissive agrees to submit to the will of the dominant. That same surrender isn't required or implied in a session between a 'top' and a 'bottom'. Others sometimes equate the words to sadist (top) and masochist (bottom).

(7) A Dominant and or Sadist.

(8) The person who controls the stimuli during sex games. An S&M term used to describe the dominant or sadistic partner in a scene. The word "topping" is sometimes used as a verb.

(10) The top is the participant in a BDSM activity who takes the active role. For example, wielding a flogger, tying the ropes, giving the orders. A minority limit the meaning of the word top to physical BDSM, but the most common usage of the word includes dominants as a special type of top.

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Top Drop

(2) The feelings of depression, guilt, etc. that may arise in a Dominant after SM play, especially if wrapping or other error occurs. The submissive version is called bottom drop.

(4) A sudden, abrupt feeling of depression, unhappiness, or other negative emotion in a dominant, which may occur immediately after a period of BDSM activity.

Top Space

(2) The mental state a Dominant takes on in preparation for a D/s scene or activity that reflects the person's controlling energy.
(2) Term synonymous with Bottom Space

Top Surgery

(6) noun: this term refers to surgery for the construction of a male-type chest or breast augmentation for a female-type chest.

Top Toy

(2) Any SM instrument that is likely to be much more enjoyable to the Dominant than to the submissive and is usually extremely painful.

Topping

(2) Portraying a dominant persona during SM play; domination.

Topping from the Bottom

(2) The act of attempting to dominate a scene when in a submissive position. This type of behavior is not tolerated for long.

(4) A phrase used to describe a 'bottom' or a 'submissive' who tries to control the BDSM play session while seeming to submit.

Top's Disease

(2) This is the Dominant version of bottom's disease, where a Dominant acts superior to bottoms and treats them as inferior beings. These Dominants are truly clueless about the true dynamics of SM interaction.

Torture (Not literal torture)

(1) Any type of pain inflicted by the Top on a bottom. Examples: tickle torture, clothespin play, nipple clamps, et. al.

(2) Generic term for activities that occur during a scene. Can be from mild to extreme.

(4) In BDSM, the word is usually used to describe the more severe forms of erotic punishment although what constitutes 'severe' will vary considerably between individuals.

Total Power Exchange; abbreviation, TPE

(2) A relationship in which the Dominant is in total control over the submissive and dictates all activities.

(4) A relationship in which one person surrenders control to another person for an indefinite duration, and in which the relationship is defined by the fact that one person is always dominant and the other is always submissive.

(10) Total Power Exchange or TPE is a term coined and defined by Steven S. Davis in the mid-1990s: "A TPE (Total Power Exchange) relationship, sometimes described as an absolute lifestyle d&s relationship ... is a relationship in which no impediment to the exercise of the owner's power is accepted ... Such things as safewords, contracts, negotiated limits, and anything else which recognizes/acknowledges/formalizes limits on the owner's power are inimical to TPE."

Although there is a large overlap between TPE and Internal Enslavement, the term "TPE" can be misleading in several respects and has lost much of its original meaning.

(10) Also referenced by Absolute Power Exchange

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(10) Total Power Exchange or TPE is a term coined in the group alt.sex.bondage in the mid-1990s, and defined by Steven S. Davis as "A TPE (Total Power Exchange) relationship, sometimes described as an absolute lifestyle d&s relationship ... is a relationship in which no impediment to the exercise of the owner's power is accepted ... Such things as safewords, contracts, negotiated limits, and anything else which recognizes / acknowledges / formalizes limits on the owner's power are inimical to TPE."

Although there is a large overlap between TPE and Internal Enslavement, the term "TPE" can be misleading in several respects and has lost much of its original meaning.

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(c) See also: Total Power Exchange at www.enslavement.org.uk

Toys (slang)

(1) Portable BDSM equipment – usually contained in a “toy bag.”

(2) All items that are usable in an SM scene.

TPE; Abbreviation

(2) Total Power Exchange

Trainer

(3) A Dominant who helps submissives understand the sexual aspects of the lifestyle. Study and play sessions are the normal negotiations.

Training; also, Conditioning, Slave-training

(2) An educational program designed to teach a top or bottom the dynamics of the BDSM lifestyle and fundamentals of submission as well as servitude. Can also describe the teaching of a specific activity such as feminization or animal mannerisms.

(4) A process whereby the dominant will seek to modify the submissive's behavior, responses, or attitudes by systematic training.

(10) In O&P, training of submissives and slaves is viewed as both an initial period of teaching and an ongoing process, similar to athletes or dancers who "keep up with their training". This is in contrast to traditional descriptions of slave training in fiction, which had more of the character of a military bootcamp, turning raw submissives into the finished product of obedient, skilled slaves in a few weeks or months.

Most skills and good habits are learnt and then kept up to scratch with practice and repetition, and the ongoing process of training goes about this in a deliberate way. This can involve a certain amount of self-training by submissives, just as an amateur marathon runner might maintain their own training programme. However, keeping up with training in a long term relationship imposes a role and obligations on dominants, as the ultimate enforcers of the standards they choose to require.

In practical terms, training involves learning and practising desired skills, and adhering to the household's structure of rules and rituals which develops and reinforces habits of obedience and eases submission in other areas.

(It has been suggested that repeatedly being confronted with rules that must be obeyed helps wear down feelings of psychological reactance.)

Other uses of training
Slave training has a long history in BDSM fiction and more recently in non-fiction books and courses. However, this model of training has typically focussed on a relatively short process of turning a raw, free individual into a trained slave ready for acquisition by a new owner.

Corset training or waist training is a way of using tight-laced corsets to progressively alter the figure, usually of a woman.

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Training Collar

(2) A collar that is given to a submissive in the early stages of a BDSM relationship (particularly a TPE relationship) when the submissive and the dominant are still exploring the possibility of a committed relationship.
(2) Similar in some ways to an engagement ring in a wedding.

(4) A training collar is given to a submissive in the early stages of a BDSM relationship.

(c) In a progression to a wedding ring and wedding, similar to a promise ring or an engagement ring, depending on how the Dom/Master plans on the progression of collars. However, it is beyond a friendship ring.

Trampling

(2) A practice in which one person lies prone and is stepped or walked on by another.

(4) A practice in which one person lies prone and is stepped or walked on by another.

(9) Being under someone’s foot/shoe. Can be related to foot fetish, but not necessarily.

Trans*

(6) adj.: an umbrella term covering a range of identities that transgress socially defined gender norms. Trans with an asterisk is often used in written forms (not spoken) to indicate that you are referring to the larger group nature of the term, and specifically including non-binary identities, as well as transgender men (transmen) and transgender women (transwomen).

Transformation

(9) The fetish for transforming or changing people into other people, objects, or creatures – popular in Japanese hentai.

Transgender

(6) 1 adj.: a gender description for someone who has transitioned (or is transitioning) from living as one gender to another.
(6) 2 adj.: an umbrella term for anyone whose sex is assigned at birth and gender identity does not correspond in an expected way (e.g., someone who was assigned male at birth, but does not identify as a man).

Transparency

(10) The state in which the M-type has full rights to access all or any of the s-type's mental and emotional activity. This can be achieved by the s- type being required to answer any questions, being required to volunteer certain types of information as applicable in the moment or through some designated schedule or method of disclosure, or some combination of the two.

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Transition / Transitioning

(6) noun, verb: referring to the process of a transgender person changing aspects of themself (e.g., their appearance, name, pronouns, or making physical changes to their body) to be more congruent with the gender they know themself to be (as opposed to the gender they lived as pre-transitioning).

Transparency

(10) The state in which the M-type has full rights to access all or any of the s-type's mental and emotional activity. This can be achieved by the s- type being required to answer any questions, being required to volunteer certain types of information as applicable in the moment or through some designated schedule or method of disclosure, or some combination of the two.

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Transman; also, Transwoman

(6) noun: a man/woman who was not assigned that gender via sex at birth, and transitioned (socially, medically, and/or legally) from that assignment to their gender identity, signified by the second part of the term (i.e., -man, -woman). Also referred to as men and women (though some/many trans people prefer to keep the prefix “trans-” in their identity label).

Transsexual

(8) Person in the process of physically changing sexes.

Transphobia

(6) noun: the fear of, discrimination against, or hatred of trans* people, the trans* community, or gender ambiguity. Transphobia can be seen within the queer community, as well as in general society.

Transphobic

(6) adj.: a word used to describe an individual who harbors some elements of this range of negative attitudes, thoughts, intents, towards trans* people.

Transsexual; also, a Trans Person

(2) A person who is uncomfortable with their natural gender and acts as lives as and portrays his or herself as the opposite sex. Some transsexuals go a step farther and begin hormone therapy to change the shape of their bodies and/or to prepare for gender reassessment.

(4) A person born with the physical characteristics of one sex, who emotionally and psychologically feels they belong to the other sex. Some can live their lives in the condition they were born, but others feel so uncomfortable that they seek to change their sex through medical intervention.

(6) noun & adj.: a person who identifies psychologically as a gender/sex other than the one to which they were assigned at birth. Transsexuals often wish to transform their bodies hormonally and surgically to match their inner sense of gender/sex.

Transvestite; also, Cross-dresser, TV, Tranny

(2) A person who dresses and acts as the opposite sex but has no desire to become the opposite sex.

(4) Someone who likes to dress in the clothes of the opposite sex. Male transvestites differ from transsexuals in that they desire to dress and occasionally act like women, but do not consider themselves as women or even want to be. "Crossdresser" is generally the preferred term for those who participate in this behavior.

(6) noun: a person who dresses as the binary opposite gender expression (“cross-dresses”) for any one of many reasons, including relaxation, fun, and sexual gratification (often called a “cross-dresser,” and should not be confused with transsexual).

(8) Person aroused by cross-dressing.

(c) Slang, Cross Dresser.
(c) verb, Cross Dressing.

Transvestitism

(7) See cross dressing.

Tribute

(2) The money that is paid to a Pro-Domme as a fee for a session.

(c) Money or other items of value received by a FinDom.

Triple Penetration

(3) Penetration of the body in three bodily orifices.
(3) Example: Insertion of the penis, dildo, butt plug in a female submissive all at once to enhance sexual stimulation.

Tripple Weave

(2) A flashy flogging technique involving the use of a flogger in each hand. The floggers are swung in an alternating overhand/underhand pattern; each flogger moves in a circle on each side of the wielder's body. See related florentine.

(4) A flashy flogging technique involving the use of a flogger in each hand. The floggers are swung in an alternating overhand/ underhand pattern; each flogger moves in a circle on each side of the wielder’s body.

TT; Abbreviation

(2) Tit torture.

Turian collar

(10) A collar is a rigid metal collar that is circular in cross-section. The term was invented by John Norman for use in his Gor series of science fiction books. In Nomads of Gor, John Norman wrote:

The Turian collar lies loosely on the girl, a round ring; it fits so loosely that, when grasped in a mans fist, the girl can turn within it; the common Gorean collar, on the other hand, is flat, snugly fitting steel band. Both collars lock in the back, behind the girl's neck. The Turian collar is more difficult to engrave, but it, like the flat collar, will bear some legend assuring that the girl, if found, will be promptly returned to her Master.

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Tweezer Clamps

(2) A type of nipple clamp consisting of long, thin, tweezer-like clamps made of flexible spring steel, with a ring that can be used to adjust their tightness.
(2) Commentary: Among the mildest of all forms of nipple clamps, typically causing little or no pain.

(4) A type of nipple clamp consisting of long, thin, tweezer-like clamps made of flexible spring steel, with a ring that can be used to adjust their tightness.

Two-Column Tie

(2) In bondage, any form of a tie binding two parts of the body together.
(2) Example, any tie which ties the wrists together, or ties a wrist to an ankle.
(2) See related one-column tie.

Two-spirit

(6) noun: is an umbrella term traditionally within Native American communities to recognize individuals who possess qualities or fulfill roles of both feminine and masculine genders.

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