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Hair Pulling

(3) Pulling of one's hair for the purpose of pain / humiliation. Used often in heavy scening.

Hair Tie; also Hair Bondage

(2) Any bondage technique in which a rope, twine, or cord is woven or braided through a person's hair, then tied in such a way as to limit the mobility of the bound person's head.

(4) A bondage technique, in which rope, twine, or cord is woven or braided through a person’s hair, then tied in such a way as to limit the mobility of the bound person’s head.

Hairbrush Spanking

(3) Play that involves the use of a hairbrush to inflict pain on the buttocks. Commonly used in "naughty boy/girl" scenes for punishment.

Hand Fetish

(9) Well, people like feet, why not hands?.

Hand Jobs

(3) Using the hands to perform sexual gratification on a man's penis. Stroking of the penis to facilitate orgasm.

Handballing

(2) Fisting.

(4) The same as fisting.

(11) Fisting.

(c) See fisting
(c) High Risk

Handcuffs

(2) Narrow metal cuffs with a pivoting hinge and a ratcheted locking mechanism, connected by a short length of chain and often used to restrain people's wrists together. Commonly used by law enforcement and security personnel.

(4) Metal restraints that lock around the wrists, just like the police use.

Hankies

(2) Colored bandanas are used to signify a person's preference in SM activities or roles.
(2) See flagging.

(11) Colored bandanas are used to signify a person's preference in SM activities or roles
(11) See also flagging.

Hanky Code; pl., Handkerchief Codes

(2) The list that states what hanky color signifies which SM activity. This list is extensive and has variations depending on which faction of the community (gay, straight, lesbian, etc.) it was written to serve.

(4) A covert technique developed largely by the old leather community for advertising one’s BDSM preferences and to indicate the activities in which one is interested. The code worked by using a system of colored handkerchiefs, usually worn in the back pocket, on the left for dominants and the right side for submissives. Each class of activity had its own particular color, i.e. a person who is interested in pain play might wear a black handkerchief, whereas a grey handkerchief may indicate an interest in bondage.

(8) Color codes that identify sexual preferences.

(11) The list that states what hanky color signifies which SM activity. This list is extensive and has variations depending on which faction of the community (gay, straight, lesbian, etc.) it was written to serve. Some of the lists I have found on websites are humorous at best as people try to create new codes.

Hard Limit; pl., Hard Limits

(2) What someone absolutely will not do, usually non-negotiable.

Harem

(2) A group of subs serving one or more dominants.

(3) To have more than one submissive in a scene or in daily life (i.e., the Dominant has a "harem" of women/men). A common occurrence in the Mormon religion, and in polyamorous relationships.

Harness

(2) A device made of chains and/or leather straps that go on the body to assist in suspension, for pony play, or as decorative attire to show submission.
(2) An object made to hold a dildo in place.

(3) Bondage apparatus consisting of a network of straps designed to form a web over a large area of the body or head. Well-known leather body harness for wearing around the upper torso. Harnesses can be constructed from a variety of materials. Some harnesses built properly are used in suspension.

(8) Body harnesses used in suspension or penis restriction, or straps worn to support a dildo for penetrating another partner.

(11) A device made of chains and/or leather straps that go on the body to assist in suspension, for pony play, or as decorative attire to show submission.
(11) An object made to hold a dildo in place.

(c) Decorative attire of leather straps around the chest to show that the person is into the leather scene or is into a leather lifestyle.
(c) also, boot harness, cock harness

Head

(3) To perform oral sex on the man's penis for erotic pleasure to facilitate orgasm.
(3) See also: Fellatio.

Head Games

(2) A scene involving manipulation of a person's psychological or emotional state of mind.

(4) Psychological manipulation by the dominant intended to intensify the erotic or emotional response of the submissive through heightened anticipation and fear.

(11) A scene involving manipulation of a person's psychological or emotional state of mind.

(w) Playing mind games is the largely conscious struggle for psychological one-upmanship, often employing passive-aggressive behavior to specifically demoralize or dis-empower the thinking subject, making the aggressor look superior.
(w) also power games or head games

Heavy

(2) A term used to describe extreme SM play or a person into the giving or receiving of extreme pain, a heavy Top or heavy bottom.

(11) Term used to describe extreme SM play or a person into the giving or receiving of extreme pain, a heavy Top or heavy bottom.

Hedgehog

(2) A device used for sensation play consisting of a short metal cylinder with numerous spikes attached to a handle in such a way that it can be rolled over the skin, producing a sensation somewhat similar to that of a Wartenberg wheel.

(4) A device used for sensation play consisting of a short metal cylinder with numerous spikes attached to the handle in such a way that it can be rolled over the skin, producing a sensation similar to that of a Wartenberg wheel.

Hermaphrodite; pl., Hermaphrodites

(6) noun: an outdated medical term previously used to refer to someone who was born with some combination of typically-male and typically-female sex characteristics. It’s considered stigmatizing and inaccurate.
(6) See intersex.

(8) Person who has both female and male genitalia.

(9) Fetish for someone with male and female body parts.

Heteronormativity

(6) noun: the assumption, in individuals and/or in institutions, that everyone is heterosexual and that heterosexuality is superior to all other sexualities. Leads to invisibility and stigmatizing of other sexualities: when learning a woman is married, asking her what her husband’s name is. Heteronormativity also leads us to assume that only masculine men and feminine women are straight.

Heterosexism; alsoHetrosexist

(6) noun: behavior that grants preferential treatment to heterosexual people, reinforces the idea that heterosexuality is somehow better or more “right” than queerness, and/or makes other sexualities invisible.

Heterosexual; also, Straight

(6) adj.: experiencing attraction solely (or primarily) to some members of a different gender.

High Protocol

(1) A D/s relationship wherein the rules are both demanding and encompassing. If it is practiced most of the time outside of play or clubs, it is often referred to as “24/7” – although, with jobs, family, and other real-life considerations, it is doubtful anything can literally be 24/7!

(10) The phrase "High Protocol" is frequently used in D/s and the ownership subculture, but has no universal meaning. Most high protocols for submissives do share some common features, including:

• Restrictions on speech (eg silence; speaking only when spoken to; requesting permission to speak; or specific forms of address such as "Sir, yes, sir!")
• Deferential behavior (eg not turning back to the dominant; keeping head below theirs; kneeling when otherwise unoccupied; requesting permission to leave the room.)
• Immediate response to commands, and concentration on the dominant and their requirements.
• Serving or waiting without drawing unnecessary attention to the submissive.

The fictional protocol in force at Roissy in the "Story of O" is a classic example of a detailed high protocol.

High Protocol in front of people who are not members of the dominant's immediate household may also have some of the features of a performance. This is felt by Rene in the "Story of O":

O felt him watch her the way an animal-trainer keeps an eye on the animal he has trained, watchful to see that the animal, upon whose performance his honor is at stake, performs well

• From: From wiki on Protocol, from: www.seekdiscipline.com

High-heel, pl., High-heels

(3) Along with boots, these are the most fetishized items around. They combine the discomfort and pain of wearing them with the damage they can inflict when used as weapons. Some scenes may involve wearing, licking, cleaning, etc.
(3) See also: Boot Worship, Foot Worship.

High-heel Training

(2) Used to describe feminization or the act of teaching a submissive to walk in spiked heels.

(11) Used to describe feminization or the act of teaching a submissive to walk in spiked heels.
(11) See also feminization

Hobble Skirt

(2) A item of clothing consisting of a very tight skirt that ends below the knee, which prevents freedom of movement of the legs, allowing the wearer to walk slowly in a hobbling motion but not to move quickly.

(4) An item of clothing consisting of a very tight skirt that ends below the knee, which prevents freedom of movement of the legs, forcing the wearer to walk in a hobbling motion.

(c) similar to the skirt worn in the sketches by Mrs. Wiggins (played by Carol Burnett), secretary to Mr. Tudball (played by Tim Conway).

Hobble Stock

(2) Any device intended to restrain a person by the genitals, such as a fixed bar or blank with an attached cuff designed to be locked around the penis and testicles, or a fixed rod ending in a dildo to which a woman's legs may be bound so that she is penetrated by the dildo and can not move.
(2) See related impalement.

Hog Slapper

(2) An implement for striking, consisting of a strap of thick, heavy rubber, often wrapped in burlap or some other coarse material.

Hogtie; also, Hog Tie

(2) A bondage technique in which the bound person's ankles and wrists are bound together, usually behind the back; then the ankles are bound to the wrists while the person lies on his or her stomach.
(2) Also, verb to tie in a hogtie.

(4) A bondage technique in which the bound person’s ankles are tied to the wrists, usually behind the back, while the bound person lies on his or her stomach.

Homage

(3) Term meaning to pay respects to; homage; honor. A ceremony involving the submissive "honoring" the Dominant in some way - public or private. Could also mean paying "homage" to the penis/vagina, feet, breasts, etc., by worship.
(3) See also: Boot Worship, Foot Worship, Cock Worship.

Homoeroticism

(8) Sexual arousal from a person of the same sex. A sexual attraction to (or sexual relations with) persons of the same sex [syn: homosexuality, homosexualism, gayness]

Homophobia

(6) noun: an umbrella term for a range of negative attitudes (e.g., fear, anger, intolerance, resentment, erasure, or discomfort) that one may have toward LGBTQ people. The term can also connote a fear, disgust, or dislike of being perceived as LGBTQ. homophobic.
(6) adj.: a word used to describe actions, behaviors, or individuals who demonstrate elements of this range of negative attitudes toward LGBTQ people.

Homosexual

(6) adj. & noun: a person primarily emotionally, physically, and/or sexually attracted to members of the same sex/gender. This [medical] term is considered stigmatizing (particularly as a noun) due to its history as a category of mental illness, and is discouraged for common use (use gay or lesbian instead).

Honor Bondage; Colloquial

(2) See psychological bondage.

Hood; pl., Hoods

(2) Hoods are usually rubber, leather, latex, or PVC and totally enclose the head. There are many different types of hoods, but some have gags or zips fitted to restrict vision and breathing. Very efficient when used as part of sensory deprivation games.

(4) Cover the head and may be made from a variety of materials such as leather, cotton, latex, or rubber depending on your tastes. They are used to de-personalize and disorient or more benignly in BDSM as scary props for the dom or to provide anonymity for dominant or submissive which can be quite liberating

Horse

(2) 1. A piece of bondage furniture consisting of a plank supported by two legs on each end, similar to a sawhorse. A person may be bent or tied over the horse and flogged or spanked.
(2) 2. See wooden horse.

(4) A piece of bondage furniture consisting of a plank supported by two legs on each end, similar to a sawhorse. A person can be bent or tied over the horse to receive discipline.

Hot Oils

(3) The use of warmed oils for massaging or various other uses for erotic type play. Be careful of oil temperature before applying to another's skin, test on Your own forearm first.
(3) This form of play can be dangerous.
(3) See also: Aromas, Hot Wax.

Hot Wax

(3) The process of using hot wax in scening. The wax most commonly used are candles and can be used on various parts of the body for erotic stimulation.
(3) Note: Some types of wax, beeswax, for instance, tend to become extremely hot during burning and should always be used carefully to prevent permanent burning/scarring of the skin.
(3) Note: not for the novice, as this form of play is extremely dangerous.
(3) See also: Hot Oils, Waxing.

(8) A sex game in which hot wax is melted onto a partner.

House

(10) House is used in several different ways within the Ownership Subculture and BDSM, but always to represent a group of individuals pursuing some common purpose and wishing to establish some form of identity together. The construction "The House of X" is a very common way of titling such households.

Historical uses
Much of the imagery and symbolism in BDSM comes from historical holders of power, such as monarchs and feudal lords. Royal and noble dynasties often took the name of the form the "House of York" or the "House of Grimaldi" to identify themselves, either based on a geographical location ("York") or their founder ("Grimaldo Canella".)

Modern science fiction has used similar terminology when putting quasi-aristocratic households in a fantasy context. For example, the slave-dealing business run from the House of Cernus in John Norman's Gor series; and the struggle between House Atreides and House Harkonnen for control of the planet Arrakis in Frank Herbert's "Dune". These fictional houses share the key features of historical houses: the idea of a common identity and name, a leader, and retainers or servants.

D/s Households
A House provides an alternative model to the leather family, for groups of people living together in a D/s structure. For some people who prefer more patriarchal styles of dominance, the idea of a hierarchical and even formal or ritualized household may sit more comfortably than a family. Most D/s Households have a clearly identified head of household, who may be referred to as the master or mistress.

Many D/s Households are prominent within their local BDSM scene and may organize events or their local chapter of an organization such as MAsT. Having a shared household identity is both convenient and affirming, in the same way, that many married couples prefer to share a surname.

BDSM Publishing and Fashion Houses
Similar names are also used by some BDSM publishers, such as the House of Milan and House of Gord, and fashion businesses, such as House of Harlot. This usage also overlaps the mainstream concept of a "publishing house" or a "fashion house", but has an added dimension within BDSM due to its historical and modern D/s associations.

House of Domination
The term House is also rarely used to refer to a business of professional domination. Similar to the usage in publishing or fashion, it represents a commercial venture. A House of Domination is an establishment from where multiple professional domains operate.

Links to D/s and M/s households

• The Order for Discipline and Service - a household in Virginia, US: Archive
• Sir Stephen's household - in New Jersey, US: Archive Current
• Household Keppeler - in Michigan, US: Archive
• The Iron Triangle Household - in Seattle, US: Archive
• House of Tanos - near Manchester, UK:  No archive, no current; Alternate Archive
• House of Shaman - in Florida, US: Archive

See also links on the leather family article.

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• From: www.ownership-possession.com

House Boy; also, Houseboi, Houseboy

(2) A bottom who lives with a Dominant that has the task of caring for the Dominant's home. This includes, but is not limited to, maintaining the home, tending to guests, and running household errands.

(4) A male house slave.

(11) A bottom who lives with a Dominant that has the task of caring for the Dominants home. This includes, but is not limited to, maintaining the home, tending to guests, and running household errands.
(11) See also Bottom.

(c) Sometimes in a slave role, not just a submissive or bottom.

House Girl

(2) A female house slave.

(4) A female house slave.

House Slave

(2) A submissive, who may often live with the dominant, who acts as a maid, cleaning up the dominant's house and performing other household errands, often while nude. A house slave may sometimes be punished for failure to perform satisfactorily; with this form of D/s, the sexual submission may or may not be part of the arrangement.

(4) A submissive, who may often live with a dominant, who acts as a maid, cleaning the dominant’s house and performing other household errands. A house slave is punished for failure to perform satisfactorily.

(c) house slave in various roles, i.e., butler, valet, cook, personal assistant, personal shopper, housekeeper. As a slave, the Dominant may use the slave sexually and may punish the slave for infractions and other failures to perform as expected. The slave may have a formal uniform or a uniform specified as "Contemporary Uncovered Epidermis", i.e., naked.

Housework

(3) Play involving the Dominant instructing the submissive to perform domestic duties as a form of punishment/control. Can sometimes also be used as erotic play.
(3) Example: cleaning in the nude.
(3) See also: Chores (Domestic Service).

Human Furniture

(9) Someone loves to act like a piece of furniture.

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Humbler

(2) An implement consisting of a locking metal ring that fits around the testicles, connected to two wings that go between the legs and behind the buttocks. A person wearing a humbler cannot stand straight without placing painful pressure on the testicles; the humbler forces the wearer to walk bent over or on all fours.

(4) An implement consisting of a locking metal ring, which fits around the testicles, connected to two wings, which go between the legs and behind the buttocks. A person wearing a humbler cannot stand upright without placing painful pressure on his testicles; the humbler forces the wearer to walk bent over on all fours.

Humiliation

(2) Any activity that causes the submissive to feel shame, embarrassment, or degradation. The means used to accomplish this vary from person to person. Care must be taken to assure no emotional or physiological limits are crossed.

(3) To humiliate the submissive by requiring them to perform things they normally would not do, most commonly in public.
(3) Examples: wearing revealing clothing; having sex in public; playing out puppy, boy/girl scenes, etc.

(4) Making someone feel ashamed or foolish by injuring their dignity and self-respect, especially publicly. Some enjoy it in certain kinds of role-playing or relationships. Mental domination exercised through humiliation or praise can be positive or destructive, depending on who is involved, their background, the intention behind the humiliation, and how it is carried out.

(7) Activities that cause the submissive to feel shame, embarrassment, or degradation.

(11) Any activity that causes the submissive to feel shame, embarrassment, or degradation. The means used to accomplish this vary from person to person. Care must be taken to assure no emotional or physiological limits are crossed.

Humiliatrix

(2) A female dominant skilled at humiliation play. Etymology: The word was coined by Edmund Bohun in 1853, from the Latin for "woman who humiliates."

(c) Humilator, Humilatee (both considered sex neutral)

Hypnotism

(3) To place someone in a trance-type state, and offer suggestions into certain types of behavior.
(3) Safety note: This form of play is not for the novice.

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