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The Meretricious Dominant
(The Rule of One and the Wall of Can'ts...)
Synthetic attractions - based on pretense or insincerity. Cheaply ornamental. Gaudy. Relating to a prostitute - a harlot's traits....
The professed rather than real intention...
There is one rule of Domination. As the ruler, you create the rules. This is the 'assumption' of control or command. This control or command radiates outward from the central point or the ruler. In this model, the Dominant is the source of rule; therefore, is personally unable to excuse or justify their own actions and choices based on the infringement of forces or rules within their own domain. After all, they created the rules and are therefore in absolute control of them. Either you rule, or you follow. This is called the Rule of One!
If it is a Dominant's intent to rule, then they will rule. Don't talk about ruling.
A 'professed' or stated position of a ruler is not a ruler's manifesto.
Example: Telling you I am the Queen of Sheba does not make it so...
Domination is self-evident or an unquestioned state. The need or requirement to identify oneself is often in lieu of any supportive data or evidence that would make this self-identification redundant.
Example: There is no need to tell you I am female when the evidence supporting that conclusion is extensive and evident!
To tell or profess your Dominance is incidental. A ruler rules. A Dominant - Dominates.
Today, within the D/s lifestyle, we see many 'scheduled' Dominants. These are the dominants who selectively schedule specific time periods to 'be' dominant. Which leads the observer to question what that person 'is' the rest of the time. What motivates this 'scheduled' dominant to profess their dominance? If the dominant is in 'rule' of their own life or world, then what creates this limited, secretive display?
Many scheduled dominants have a 'wall of can'ts' to justify or explain to others the limitations of their apparent actions. Some 'can'ts' typical of this dominant are: "I can't see you full time because I am right in the middle of a very difficult divorce" - followed three years later by - "I can't see you full time because the divorce is almost final, we are at a particularly delicate phase..." (which means said dominant is happily married) I can't give you my home phone number because I have children and one of them might pick up the telephone (as if children cannot summon a parent to the phone - this one generally means that the 'spouse' might answer). I can't be online, on the phone, or meet you at a specific time because I have to work (which means their spouse is home and probably listening). Clue: If a Dominant wants to do something, they do it! If a Dominant rules their personal world or environment, they have no need or desire to use excuses or empty justifications to explain their actions and choices. Can't mean they are not in control. It means they do not rule. Something or someone is controlling their ability to do.
Temporary, non-sustained domination is role-playing or acting for a short, defined period of time. It is to 'role-play' the position of Queen of Sheba. Presenting this 'temporary' status as a real status is the point where pretense, falsehood, and insincerity come into play. This profession is designed to project a false intent. No 'scheduled' dominants identify themselves as temporary dominant actors looking to role-play the position of dominant for short periodic episodes designed primarily to boost their ego, satiate their carnal or sexual desires, and vent their feelings of inferiority or emasculation for not being dominant in truth.
That they are unable to sustain a dominant presence is often quite evident when one looks at their daily lives. Often, there will be little or no other areas within their lives that they are in control of in any appreciable way. In many cases, it may appear that their life controls them and that they are imprisoned within their own life, being run, used, and told what to do.
The Meretricious Dominant mimics the actions, attitudes, and behaviors of others to lure people into positions of vulnerability, primarily for cheap, easy sex with a kink twist.
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