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(10) A shorthand used on TSR and other forums to refer to slaves and submissives without limiting the reference to a particular model of D/s or M/s.

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Sadism: (2) The act of inflicting pain.; (8) Empowerment and arousal derived from injuring others.

Sadism and masochism, also S&M, Sadomasochism: (1) This is an alternative term that is used to describe the BDSM scene. Gradually it is being replaced with the broader ranging acronym BDSM.

Sadist: (1) An individual who enjoys causing pain. The term dates back to the Marquis de Sade.; (2) A person who specifically enjoys administering pain. A Sadist is not necessarily dominant, nor is a Dominant necessarily sadistic.; (4) A person who derives pleasure, especially sexual gratification, from inflicting pain, suffering, or humiliation on others. The word comes from the name of Donatien Alphonse Francois, compte de Sade, known as the Marquis de Sade (1740 - 1814). He was the author of several sexually explicit works which explored the darker side of sexuality and for which he spent much of his life imprisoned.; (7) A person Who enjoys administering pain and or humiliation, often for sexual gratification.

Sadomasochism

(1) The taking of pleasure, often sexual gratification, from the consensual interactions between a “sadist” and a “masochist.”

(2) A term used to describe erotic activities that involve dominance, submission, or the giving and receiving of pain.

(4) Any activity or practice involving the infliction and receiving of pain.

(8) The combination of inflicting and receiving pain as a means to sexual arousal.

(10) Sadomasochism, or S&M, is a combination of two terms: sadism, meaning receiving pleasure (sexual or non-sexual) from pain inflicted upon others; and masochism, meaning receiving pleasure from receiving pain. These two characteristics regarding the interaction of pleasure and pain are regarded collectively under one term. A person may a sadist, a masochist, or both. Any of the three, in a more general term, would be called a sadomasochist.

It should be noted that, speaking generally, a masochist's pleasure derived from pain would not be derived from pain received outside of a "scene" or outside of BDSM practice, such as being injured in a car accident.

The term sadomasochism is frequently used to explain BDSM activities. These activities can range from erotic spankings to bondage to more intense forms of pain infliction or torture. Sadomasochism can also incorporate receiving pleasure from related acts such as humiliation or domination/submission (exchanging of power). Sadomasochists frequently exhibit these tendencies via relationships such as Master/slave, Mistress/boy, etc. BDSM activities are usually experienced within a "scene," which is a pre-discussed interaction between a "Top" and a "bottom." This allows BDSM practitioners to operate effectively within their standing mantra: making play safe, sane, and consensual.

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Sadomasochistic Paradox

(10) The Sadomasochistic Paradox derives from the apparently contradictory nature of masochism, when masochism refers to wanting, enjoying, or liking that which you do not want, enjoy or like. Sadists who enjoy inflicting such experiences on masochists, or dominants who inflict them on masochistic submissives for some other reason, are also drawn into this by questions like "How can I hurt someone who enjoys anything that hurts?"

The resolution of the apparent paradox is that masochists like and dislike physically (or emotionally) painful experiences in different parts of their brain and psyche. For example, they may lust after an experience and beg for it while driven by their more instinctive, sexual desires, while their more conscious thoughts are silently screaming that it will hurt. As the experience approaches, the conscious mind comes to the fore but by then it is too late, and they either bail out with a safeword or in the Consensual Nonconsent (CNC) common in O&P, must endure the experience. In fact, being made to go through with intense experiences is a common reason why masochistic submissives seek out relationships involving Consensual Nonconsent.

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Safe Call: (2) An arranged phone call that is set up with a safe contact when going to meet someone new or unfamiliar. Setting up a safe call is extremely important, as is meeting for the first few times in a public setting to assure safety.; (4) A practice is sometimes used as a safety measure when meeting a new partner for the first time. A safe call is a prearranged telephone call made to a trusted friend at a specific time to let that friend know that everything is okay.

Safe Contact: (2) A person who is the safety net for a person meeting someone new or unfamiliar. A safe contact must be sure to have all the information written down of where the person is in case the call does not occur so that help can be notified.

Safe, Sane, and Consensual, also SSC

(1) A popular slogan in the BDSM world meaning that play should always be safe and sane, with good judgment exercised. And, most importantly, it MUST be consensual.

(2) A term seen as the basic guidelines to SM play. Though it does state the major components of a scene it is far from describing true aspects of such but is simple enough to get the point across.

(4) A phrase commonly used to encapsulate the best principles of BDSM activity. It must be safe; you must not put people at emotional or physical risk. It must be sane; BDSM play is not the place to play out your neuroses because, in doing so, you can hurt people. It must be consensual; anything done to a person without their consent shows at best a lack of respect and more often is abusive. Good guiding principles.

(10) Safe, Sane and Consensual (SSC) is one of several phrases used by a large section of the BDSM and sexual bondage communities, who regard SSC to be a watchword for safety to describe themselves and their philosophies.

The principles are that BDSM activities should be:

safe: attempts should be made to identify and prevent risks to health
sane: activities should be undertaken in a sane and sensible cast of mind
consensual: all activities should involve the full informed consent of all parties involved

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safe: attempts should be made to identify and prevent risks to health
sane: activities should be undertaken in a sane and sensible cast of mind
consensual: all activities should involve the full informed consent of all parties involved

Other people in the BDSM community do not consider SSC to be an accurate term for these relationships / activities. The term Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK) has been gaining popularity as a substitute description.

For those who dissent, issues generally arise from the subjective nature of each term in SSC and the problems this creates both within and outside the community when using the term as a yardstick to evaluate activities. Another objection to SSC is that it is redundant. For example, that genuine consent (freely given informed consent) is an equivalent principle, since without sanity one cannot be genuinely informed, and that safety is an illusion in the real world. Instead of only doing safe activities, we consent to do activities with an acceptable level of risk. In that view, information about risk is central, not safety, and so informed consent is sufficient.

Within ownership and M/s/, SSC is often rejected because of its association with "Safety Police" attitudes which are usually antithetical to ownership relationships. SSC also fails to address the issue of Consensual Nonconsent.

Most people attribute the term SSC to David Stein, based on his essay "Safe Sane Consensual: The Evolution of a Shibboleth" in which he describes the coining of the term by a GMSMA (Gay Male S/M Activists) committee of which he was a member in 1984. It is important to note that all the key concepts of SSC appeared before this. Tony DeBlase in DungeonMaster magazine popularized the term “Safe and Sane” SM and various American SM organizations including the Society of Janus, TES, and Samois elaborated on this in their own definitions of SM in the early 1980s. The term SSC did not achieve widespread notice until its use in some of the literature for the SM-leather contingent of the 1987 March on Washington for Gay and Lesbian Rights, which GMSMA helped organize. In 1988, representatives from most of the major U.S. and Canadian SM organizations met at a conference in Dallas. Following two days of increasingly vitriolic debate, they formed an organization called Safe Sane Consensual Adults, which two years later merged with the National Leather Association (NLA). The NLA, in turn, popularized the term SSC in all its publications and its Living in Leather convention and helped it win almost universal acceptance by the early 1990s as the key concept that differentiated SM activities from abuse and criminality.

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Safe Sex: (2) Practiced by those who have self-worth and respect for their partners; safe sex is the use of protective barriers during sexual contact to prevent the exchange of bodily fluids and transmission of diseases.; (4) Sex which does not impair the physical or emotional health of either partner, and involves precautions like wearing condoms, using dental dams, being careful to protect yourself against blood, not taking part in any risky BDSM activities unless you know exactly what you're doing and have your partners informed consent, and avoiding risky BDSM activities if you've been drinking or taking drugs.; (7) Sexual activity in which no body fluids are exchanged.; (c) Preferred term: Safer sex

Safety Police

(10) The "Safety Police" refers to the tendency of some people to express overly cautious attitudes about other people's practice of BDSM. One of the criticisms of the SSC approach is that it encourages people to police the line between supposedly "safe" and "unsafe" activities.

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Safeword; also, Safe Word, Safe Signal; sometimes, Code Word

(1) A word or phrase a submissive can use to stop his or her scene. It is absolute. If a Dominant disregards a submissive’s safe word, that Dominant is considered “unsafe.” The most common safe word – even in Fifty Shades — is “RED!”

Sometimes the word “YELLOW” is agreed to which means “slow done a bit.”

(2) An agreed-upon word or signal used during an SM scene to communicate when things become too intense or adjustments are required.

(4) Pre-arranged words or signals that can be used by a submissive in BDSM play to slow down or stop the action.

(7) A word or signal agreed upon by the Dominant and submissive that can mean stop, slow down, or a pause in the action is needed.

(10) A safeword is a codeword or series of codewords that are sometimes used in BDSM to mean that a bottom or submissive is reaching a limit or for the Top/Dom to stop the scene. Safewords are agreed upon before playing a scene by all participants. Many organized BDSM groups have standard safewords that all members agree to use to avoid confusion at organized play events.

More on Safeword here or here.

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Safe-zones: (2) The areas of the body that have fat and muscle layers protecting the bone and vital organs which can be safely struck during SM activities such as flagellation or caning. If you are not familiar with the parts of the body that fit in this category I suggest finding out before participating in a scene, no matter what role you act in.

Sa'fora: (2) See kajira.

Saint Andrew's Cross; alsoSaint Andrews Cross: (2) An X - shaped cross that a submissive can be strapped to for play.; (3) This is a cross made in an X formation. It is generally angled and self-supporting. Some are suspended from ceilings or mounted directly to a wall. The cross has leather restraints for arms, legs, and body, Some have hooks along the edges for a person to be “laced” to the cross. Used for sexual play, or punishment can be administered while attached to the cross.; (c> aka; (c) Sometimes also An X Cross

Saint Chatherine's Wheel: (2) A wonderful piece of equipment to which a submissive can be bound, and then spun as desired.; (c) See more atChaterine's Wheel

SAM; Acronym: Smart-ass masochist: (2) A bottom that does things purposefully to anger or insult a Dominant to gain attention or to provoke the Dominant to 'punish' them. This type of activity is looked down upon unless it is done as part of a scene and agreed upon by the parties.

Same Gender Loving, acronym, SGL: (6) adj.: sometimes used by some members of the African-American or Black community to express a non-straight sexual orientation without relying on terms and symbols of European descent.

Sane Sex: (7) Sexual activity free of drugs and alcohol and clear of mind.

Saran Wrap: (3) Plastic wrapping used most commonly to wrap leftover food. In BDSM play, used most likely in "bondage" scenes. This form of play can be dangerous.
(3) See also: Mummification.

Scarfing; Colloquial: (2) Breath control by means of using a scarf or scarf-like object as a ligature around the neck.
(2) Usage: A relatively uncommon term; appears to have originated in the United States.; (4) Breath control by means of using a scarf or scarf-like object as a ligature around the neck.

Scarification: (2) A form of body modification involving cutting the skin, often in intricate or elaborate patterns, in such a way that the healing process leaves behind a permanent scar.

Scat; also, Scatology, Scat Play: (2) Term for feces.; (4) Play involving feces (shit); eating it, smearing it over things, being shit upon, etc.; (7) Feces (shit). Used by some in an SM scene for erotic stimulation.; (9) Play with fecal matter (E).; (c) High Risk
(c) See also Brown Showers

Scene; also, Sceneing: (1) A BDSM session. Sometimes refers to a “public scene” at a party where the participants let others watch.; (2) An encounter that involves BDSM activities.
(2) Session.; (4) Scene (sceneing) - BDSM activity between two or more people. Used as a noun, 'scene' is often used to describe the whole BDSM community or the many aspects of it you might come across, like 'scene parties' or 'scene clubs'. It can also be used to describe an individual BDSM session, as in "I had a great scene with her last night". It can also be used as a verb, as in "do you want to scene with me", meaning do you want to have a BDSM session with me, or "she spends her life sceneing". Used in this way, it is synonymous with the word ‘play’.; (7) A structured sexual or SM/BD encounter. Sometimes a scene is used for instruction or introduction to a new experience.

School Room: (2) Where schoolboy/schoolgirl/teacher scenes are played out, with the Mistress acting as the teacher.

Scold's Bridle: (2) A lockable metal cage that encloses the head, with an integrated metal protrusion that goes into the wearer's mouth, preventing speech. Also called a "brank" or sometimes "branks."
(2) Commentary: A rare piece of BDSM equipment modelled after a similar device used in Medieval times to punish gossipy or "troublesome" women.; (4) A lockable metal cage that encloses the head, with an integrated metal protrusion that goes into the wearer’s mouth, preventing speech.

Scratching: (3) Scratching the body with the fingernails or another instrument for mild pain.
(3) Note: Safety precautions should be observed as deep scratching may lead to bleeding of the skin. Care should be exercised in preventing infection.; (c) Moderate Risk; infection from breaking the skin by scratching.

Scrotal Expansion: (2) The use of saline solution injected into the scrotum to stretch the ball sack.

Scourge: (2) A specific type of flogger which usually has two or three long, heavy lashes attached to a rigid handle.; (4) A specific type of flogger, which usually has two or three long, heavy lashes, attached to a rigid handle.

Self-Bondage: (2) The act or practice of tying one's self up or otherwise restraining one's self, sometimes as a part of masturbation. Often includes some mechanism by which the person may be freed after a set amount of time, which may include a timer mechanism to release a key or otherwise release the person.; (4) The act or practice of tying one’s self up, sometimes as a part of masturbation. Often includes some mechanism by which the person may be freed after a set amount of time.

Sensation Play: (2) Any BDSM activity involving creating unusual sensations on a person, who may be blindfolded, as with ice cubes, soft fur or cloth, coarse materials, and the like. Sensation play is much milder than pain play and may or may not include an element of power exchange.; (4) Any BDSM activity involving creating unusual sensations on a person, who may be blindfolded, as with ice cubes, soft fur or cloth, etc. Sensation play is milder than pain play and may or may not include an element of power exchange.; (9) Running different materials across the skin to create different sensations. Eg. silk, burlap, brush bristles.

Sensory Accentuation: (2) The act of manipulating senses by taking away one or more to bring out stronger influences of another. This is done by controlling what the person hears, sees, smells, tastes, etc., completely or in part.

Sensory Deprivation: (2) A scene in which the Dominant takes away the senses of a bottom with the use of gloves, blindfolds, bondage, earplugs, etc., in an erotic manner.; (3) Play which involves "depriving" the submissive of certain sensory perceptions. May include blindfolds, bondage, gags, etc.; (8) Using lack of sensations to create desire.; (9) Taking away various senses, like sight with a blindfold, plug for the ears, etc.

Sensual Massage: (8) Combining elements of sensuality with massage to produce arousal and possibly orgasm.

Serpent's Tounge: (2) 1. Colloquial; see tawse.
(2) 2. An implement for striking consisting of a heavy, wide leather strap with a deep "V"-shaped cut in it, so that it tapers into two pointed triangular tails at the striking end.

Service

(2) Any act performed for a Dominant by a submissive that expresses respect, honor, gratitude, or submission.

(10) The actions that comprise serving a dominant, owner, or master. Often those thinking about service talk about such things as preparing and serving food, cleaning, gardening, and other forms of labor. Or they may talk about highly stylized forms of service (for example, the Japanese Tea Ceremony, serving at formal occasions, or other activities). Technically, everything done to fulfill the requirements or desires of a master is considered service. In this respect, activities such as working at a conventional job where the proceeds go to the owner can be considered service as well.

Service-oriented
(10) A slave or submissive is said to be "service-oriented" if the slave has a strong drive to serve his/her owner or others. Often this is used to differentiate slaves who have other primary motivations to seek enslavement (for example control-oriented) from those who are service- oriented.

In Service (or in service to)
(10) A tagline used by submissives and slaves to indicate that they are involved in a M/s or D/s relationship. When used, its connotation indicates that the submissive or slave sees his/her relationship as a service-oriented relationship.

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Service D/S: (2) A specific type of D/s centered around the submissive serving the dominant in practical ways, as by bringing the dominant food or drink and so on. For people involved in service D/s, the sexual submission may or may not be a part of the relationship.; (4) A specific type of D/s centered around the submissive serving the dominant in practical ways, i.e. bringing the dominant food or drink. Sexual submission may or may not be a part of the relationship.

Session: (2) See scene (def. 1).
(2) Usage: Most often used to indicate a scene with a prodomme.; (2) An SM encounter.
(2) A scene; (4) Most often used to indicate a scene with a prodomme.

Sex: (2) Vaginal or oral sex may be the culmination of games played privately between couples, but it is rarely if ever part of professional domination. The vast majority of professional mistresses will not have sex of any kind with their clients and will be angered by any suggestion that they should.

Sex Assigned at Birth, acronym, SAAB: (6) abbr.: a phrase used to intentionally recognize a person’s assigned sex (not gender identity). Sometimes called “designated sex at birth” (DSAB) or “sex coercively assigned at birth” (SCAB), or specifically used as “assigned male at birth” (AMAB) or “assigned female at birth” (AFAB): Jenny was assigned male at birth, but identifies as a woman.

Sex Magick: (8) The use of witchcraft rituals for sexual purposes.

Sex Reassignment Surgery, acronym, SRS: (6) noun : used by some medical professionals to refer to a group of surgical options that alter a person’s biological sex. “Gender confirmation surgery” is considered by many to be a more affirming term. In most cases, one or multiple surgeries are required to achieve legal recognition of gender variance. Some refer to different surgical procedures as “top” surgery and “bottom” surgery to discuss what type of surgery they are having without having to be more explicit.

Sex Slave: (8) Person who enjoys being dominated.

Sex Surrogates: (8) People who are trained to help other people overcome sexual dysfunctions.

Sex Toys: (8) Mechanical objects used to assist in masturbation or sex play.; (9) A general love of using sex toys, but people can have a specific love for one kind of toy (eg. butt plugs).

Sexologists: (8) People who study the science of sex.

Sexual Attraction: (6) noun: a capacity that evokes the want to engage in physically intimate behavior (e.g., kissing, touching, intercourse), experienced in varying degrees (from little-to-none to intense). Often conflated with romantic attraction, emotional attraction, and/or spiritual attraction.

Sexual Climax: (8) The moment of most intense pleasure in sexual intercourse [syn: orgasm, climax, coming]

Sexual Orientation: (2) The chosen preference a person has regarding the gender of his or her sex partner(s). Bisexual, gay, lesbian, heterosexual, are some of the most popular orientations.; (6) noun: the type of sexual, romantic, emotional/spiritual attraction one has the capacity to feel for some others, generally labeled based on the gender relationship between the person and the people they are attracted to. Often confused with sexual preference.

Sexual preference: (6) noun: the types of sexual intercourse, stimulation, and gratification one likes to receive and participate in. Generally, when this term is used, it is being mistakenly interchanged with “sexual orientation,” creating an illusion that one has a choice (or “preference”) in who they are attracted to.

Shaving: (3) Using a razor or straight blade to shave hair from the body.
(3) Note: Shaving of the genital area should be done with extreme care.; (8) Removing the hair of a partner or oneself, usually pubic, with a razor for arousal.

Shibari: (2) A type of bondage originating in Japan and characterized by extremely elaborate and intricate patterns of rope, often used both to restrain the subject and to stimulate the subject by binding or compressing the breasts and/or genitals. Shibari is an art form; the aesthetics of the bound person and the bondage itself are considered very important. Also sometimes called kinbaku. See related karada, shinju, kami, kotori, sukuranbo. Usage: Most technically, shibari is the act of tying, and kinbaku is artistic bondage. In general use, however, shibari and kinbaku are often used as synonyms.; (3) The art of Intricate Japanese Rope Bondage. Bondage patterns are intricate and artistically pleasing.
(3) See also: Bondage, Intricate Japanese Rope Bondage.; (4) A type of Japanese bondage, characterized by extremely elaborate and intricate patterns of rope, is often used to both restrain the subject and to stimulate the subject by binding and compressing the breasts and/ or genitals.; (9) Japanese rope bondage.

Shinju: (2) A type of rope harness, originating in Japan, which goes around and over the breasts. A shinju does not restrict motion, and can be worn under clothing; as the subject moves, the ropes shift against the breasts, providing constant stimulation. Often used in shibari.; (4) A type of Japanese rope harness, which goes around and over the breasts. A shinju does not restrict motion and can be worn under clothes. As the subject moves, the ropes shift against the breasts, providing constant stimulation.

Shoe Fetishism: (2) A type of sexual expression centered around a fixation on shoes, sometimes as part of submission. Submissive shoe fetishism may involve acts such as licking, kissing, or caring for the dominant partner's shoes.; (2) Also: retifism, Psychology

Shrew's Fiddle; Colloquial: (2) See fiddle.

Signal Whip: (2) A type of small singletail, usually three to four feet in length.; (4) A type of singletail, usually three to four feet in length.

Single-Glove: (2) See armbinder.

Single-tail Whip: (2) Similar in design to a bullwhip but usually between 3 and 6 feet in length, these whips are made from leather (usually kangaroo), braided over metal ballbearings, with a string-like material 'cracker' at the tip. This whip is also known as a Signal Whip and is most popularly used in dog sled racing to queue the animals.

Silent alarm: (2) A non-verbal sign of danger that is set off when a safe call is not placed at the time agreed upon. When contact is not made at the time arranged the contact person would assume something went wrong and proper action is taken.

Sirik

(10) Sirik is a term coined by John Norman for an arrangement of chains linking a Turian collar to bracelets and anklets. In Nomads of Gor, John Norman wrote:

both girls wore the Sirik, a light chain favored for female slaves by many Gorean masters; it consists of a Turian-type collar, a loose, rounded circle of steel, to which a light, gleaming chain is attached; should the girl stand, the chain, dangling from her collar, falls to the floor; it is about ten or twelve inches longer than is required to reach from her collar to her ankles; to this chain, at the natural fall of her wrists, is attached a pair of slave bracelets; at the end of the chain there is attached another device, a set of linked ankle rings, which, when closed about her ankles, lifts a portion of the slack chain from the floor; the Sirik is an incredibly graceful thing and designed to enhance the beauty of its wearer; perhaps it should only be added that the slave bracelets and the ankle rings may be removed from the chain and used separately; this also, of course, permits the Sirik to function as a slave leash.

The sirik is similar to five banding, but with the addition of chains. The purpose is to thoroughly restrain a woman's movements, but without needing to fasten her to anything, and while still allowing her to stand, to walk with mincing steps, and to kneel in the Gorean "tower slave" or "pleasure slave" (nadu) positions.

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Sissy: (2) A male submissive subject to feminization, as by being made to wear women's clothing, act like a woman in social settings, and so on.

Sissification: (2) See feminization.

Skinny Dipping: (3) Refers to swimming in the nude / swimming naked.

Skoliosexual: (6) adj.: being primarily sexually, romantically, and/or emotionally attracted to some genderqueer, transgender, transsexual, and/or non-binary people.

Slaphappy: (2) See slapper.
(2) Usage: Becoming archaic.

Slapper: (2) An implement used for striking a person, consisting of two thick leather paddles bound together at the handle, such that when the person is struck the two paddles hit one another, creating a loud sound.; (4) An implement used for striking a person, consisting of two thick leather paddles bound together at the handle, such that when the person is struck, the two paddles hit one another, creating a loud sound.

Slave

(1) A term used interchangeably with “submissive.” Some consider a slave a more extreme version of a submissive. This will be discussed in a future article, “Slave vs. submissive.” Check back soon.

(2) A submissive that lives it to a deeper level and is usually specialized in one or more areas (valet, maid, chef, companion).

(3) A totally subordinate person who needs total direction in all aspects of their life. To be owned, to serve, without question, and who questions nothing they are told.

(4) In its traditional meaning, a person that is the legal property of another and is therefore forced to obey them. In BDSM, someone may adopt the role of a slave for the duration of a 'scene' or play session or they may enter into a long-term, structured D/s relationship in which they are owned as a 'slave' by a dominant 'master'. The word 'slave' is also used fairly interchangeably with 'submissive' by some, although the words in fact have different meanings. Every slave is submissive, but every submissive is not a slave.

(7) A person who hands over power to another, or surrenders its mental, physical, spiritual, sexual, and visual self to a Master's Will.

(8) Person who contracts to be sex slave.

(10) A person who is owned: that is, someone in a relationship with an owner who has ultimate authority over them, and from which the slave cannot remove themselves.

One of the key differences between the usage of the word "slave" in the Ownership Subculture and the BDSM Play Scene is the concept of slaves being literal slaves: this is just the everyday definition of "slave" and it doesn't include the roleplay slaves you sometimes meet elsewhere in BDSM.

For example, the second edition of the Oxford English Dictionary gives: "One who is the property of, and entirely subject to another person, whether by capture, purchase or birth; a servant completely divested of freedom and personal rights."

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Slave Auction

(2) An event sometimes held at play parties, conventions catering to BDSM participants, and the like, in which submissives are auctioned off for the use by the highest bidder in some context or for a set period of time. Slave auctions are sometimes held at BDSM-related events to raise money for charity.

(10) A slave auction is a social event, usually run as a fund raiser for charity and as a way to meet new people in the BDSM or Leather scene.

The general scenario is that slaves or submissives are presented on a stage by their tops or masters, and the latter would list (or have the former demonstrate) their skills and credentials, as well as what sorts of BDSM activities they have to offer. Usually a short scene of spanking, flogging, etc, would accompany the auction process.

There are many variations of this practice in terms of location, dress codes, etc. Typically, the slave auction is combined with other types of kinks that provide a context for the auction to take place. For example, if the participants of the auction enjoy public nudity, then the auction can be performed outdoors with the slaves scantily clad or even nude. Other times, the auction can be indoors, for example in an office setting, with all participants dressing like professionals. Thus, the enjoyment of the auction for a slave or submissive not only stems from the humiliation they receive from their top (by being "owned" and "sold"), but also from being able to fulfil certain sexual fantasies during the course of the auction.

Sometimes a master or mistress, by auctioning their slave, makes the auction process a "scene" (encounter) in itself.

Then people in the audience bid on their offer, usually using play money purchased with a donation to a local charity. The winner then makes arrangements for the "scene" with the person who bid their services.

No actual exchange of property takes place.

It is a popular way for people who are new to the scene to demonstrate what they have to offer, or for the newly single to advertise their availability, much like a vanilla "bachelor auction" would be.

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Slave contract: (1) A signed consensual contract, wherein a submissive or slave cedes to the Dom or Master a specified set of powers over her for a set period of time. Although legally unenforceable, it is still a powerful document in the BDSM community.; (4) A formal document, which may be agreed between a ‘master’ and his ‘slave’, setting out the nature and limits of their relationship.; (c) A slave is a submissive, but not all submissives are slaves.

Slave mode

(10) The system of slave modes was introduced by the BEST slave training website and is a mechanism to manage protocol in a 24/7 M/s relationship. At any given time, the slave is considered to be in a particular slave mode. Each slave mode is associated with a specific set of rules. The slave may be changed to a different mode on command. A change may also occur automatically in certain contexts, such as entering a vanilla situation. The original system described on the BEST site has 3 modes – the strict 'Slave Mode', the more relaxed 'Service Mode', and the 'At Ease' mode, primarily used for vanilla situations. However, it is possible to devise any number of protocol schemes around this type of framework.

The practical advantage of this type of approach is that it enables the adoption of sophisticated and potentially very strict high protocols in a manner that is automatically and unambiguously compatible with the mundane requirements of everyday life.

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Slave Training

(10) Slave Training teaches the master's protocols, preferences and principles, and aligns the slave's perceptions with their owned status.

Slave Training can be broken down into establishing:

Protocols - rules of correct behaviour for a slave, including both practical issues and rituals.
Preferences - the personal likes and dislikes of the slave's master (and anyone else they will be serving - this is an ongoing aspect of training if new people are to be served.)
Principles - the master's general ethical values and practical principles, which a slave can use to deal with unanticipated situations.
Perceptions - including rejecting false entitlement, and feeling owned due to Internal Enslavement.

From: www.seekdiscipline.com

(10) Slave Training is a frequent motif in Master/slave fiction, but has been a vague concept in the BDSM scene and M/s subcultures where it can mean anything from an SM session to a process similar to Internal Enslavement. In O&P, the term training refers both to the initial instillation of the dominant's preferred attitudes and behaviours, and the ongoing process of maintaining the submissive's mindfulness and adherence to the dominant's preferences.

In fiction
Slave Training houses are frequently used settings in The Story of O, the Gor books, and Laura Antoniou's Marketplace series. These houses typically offer formal training programmes, turning formerly free and independent people into obedient slaves, skilled in the arts of service. The island resort setting of Exit to Eden also constitutes one large training environment.

All these training programmes appear to be structured rather like a military boot-camp, with periods of intense instruction and practice in various skills, mixed with indoctrination about the slave's new role and purpose in life.

In reality
The very concise "Miss Abernathy's Concise Slave Training Manual" was an attempt at setting out practical advice with the flavour of the fictional slave training scenarios. However, it and the subsequent "Training With Miss Abernathy" largely focussed on elements of service (eg learning how to arrange a good sock drawer) rather than anything specific to Master/slave relationships.

More realistically, organised slave training weekends such as Master Taino's Training Academy offer orientation, practical teaching, and one-to-one counselling sessions for those starting out on this path.

Finally, theories of Master/slave relationships (such as Internal Enslavement) can be used as the basis of slave training, as can the O&P concept of ongoing training.

From: www.ownership-possession.com

Example:

**slave Training Weekend Program**
Activity	Faculty
Master / slave Issues
The slave heart	Master Taino
slave Protocol	Lady Lynette
The slave perspective	slave llamb
The dynamic of Master/slave relationships	Master Taino
Communication in M/s Relationships	TBA
Problem Solving and Difficult Discussions	Master David Ph D
BDSM in Master / slave Relationships	Master Taino
Community / Resources	Master Taino

BDSM Basics
Bondage: Ropes and Restraints	Master David
Spanking, Paddling and Caning	Lady Lynnette
Flogging	Master Taino
Electricity	Master David
Hot Wax	Lady Lynette

Other Activities
Serving Formal Dinner	Master J
Round Table Sessions	Faculty and staff
Individual Counseling	Faculty
Domestic Service	Lady Lynette

From: http://masterslavetraining.org/slaveprogram.htm

Sleepsack; also, Sleep Sack: (2) See body bag.; (3) Refers to a bag in which the body is wrapped in a sleeping bag-type contraption with ropes or straps. An intense form of "bondage".
(3) This form of play can be dangerous.
(3) See also: Mummification.

Sleepsack Fetish: (9) Comes from an arousal from closed spaces. The sub gets into a sleepsack, bag, or box etc.

Sling: (2) A large piece of leather, material, or cargo netting suspended by chains in which a submissive can recline and be bound to. Slings are great for fisting, genital piercing, and sensory play.; (3) Slings are made in many designs and shapes, but their use is to open access to the genitalia for play or punishment.
(3) Note: This form of suspension causes fatigue rather quickly, so after-care should be taken as well as care during such use. Not for the novice.; (4) An item of furniture, usually made of leather, canvass, or nylon webbing, suspended by chains or cables from the ceiling. A person may sit in the sling and be arranged for easy access to such activities as sexual intercourse.; (8) Swings or other forms of support or suspension from which a person may engage in sex.

SM; acronym, Sadomasochism; also, S&M, S & M: (2) Erotic power exchange.; (2) See sadomasochism.; (7) Fantasies and experiences in which domination, submission, sadism, masochism, humiliation, and related activities are a part of erotic and or sexual play.; (8) The common term for sexual or erotic activity involving the giving and receiving of pain and pleasure. The letters of the expression refer to sadism and masochism. Although, strictly speaking, the term refers only to physical play, it is sometimes generally used to encompass dominance and submission play (D&S) as well. Some people spell this term SM to indicate that sadomasochism is one word and one lifestyle, not two.

SM Orgasm: (2) A physical, emotional, and/or spiritual feeling of ecstasy reached during an SM scene without the use of genital stimulation.

SM Virgin: (2) Term for someone with little or no experience in SM activities.

Smoke: (2) The Mistress will exhale cigarette smoke, often into the filter tube of a gas mask worn by the sub. Any game involving cigarette or cigar smoke.; (c) Moderate Risk

Smotherbox: (2) A lockable box, often padded with leather, designed to be locked over the head of a submissive and used for queening. The smotherbox contains a large opening that exposes the submissive's face, allowing the dominant to straddle or sit on the box. May include a mechanism for affixing the box to the floor or an item of furniture such as a bed or bench, so that the submissive can not move.; (4) A lockable box, often padded with leather, designed to be locked over the head of the submissive and used for queening. The smotherbox contains a large opening that exposes the submissive’s face, allowing the dominant to straddle or sit on the box.

SM-Positive: (2) Used in reference to a person, group, organization, or business that accepts SM play between consensual adults as a healthy form of sexual expression.

Snake: (2) A type of flexible singletail that lacks a rigid handle.

Snake Bite: (2) A rubber suction cup is applied to the skin. Be aware that it leaves a mark like a love bite.; (c) Part of a Cutter's snake bite kit.

Soft Limit; pl., Soft Limits: (2) Something that someone is hesitant to do or nervous to try. They can sometimes be talked into the activity, or preferably it may be negotiated at a trial or beginner level into a scene.; (4) A limit that is not necessarily set in stone, but which may be flexible or may change over time.

Sound; also, Urethra Sound, Sounds: (2) A small curved rod that is inserted into the urethra.; (4) A thin, solid metal rod designed to be inserted in the urethra, often as part of a medical role-play.; (c) verb Sounding.

Sounding: (9) Inserting metal rods into the urethral openings (originally a medical term) (E).; (c) Moderate Risk.

Spandex: (3) A form-fitting, stretchy type material that clings to the body (i.e., most women's pantyhose are made of spandex). When worn can be quite comfortable and look extremely sexy when worn on "tight bodies".
(3) See also: Rubber / Latex Clothing.

Spanking: (2) The striking of the buttocks with a hand, gloved or bare, or a flat, hard object such as a paddle.
(2) Paddling.; (3) Involves striking someone with the palm of the hand or other object (i.e., paddle, hairbrush, pig slapper, riding crop, etc.) on the buttocks as a form of punishment/humiliation. Mild spanking can be very erotic and when done correctly can push the submissive into "subspace" releasing endorphins which in turn creates a sense of euphoria.
(3) See also: Beating.; (4) Activity that involves striking your partner's buttocks with your hand or sometimes a flat implement like a hairbrush or paddle. The most common position for spanking is 'OTK', or 'Over The Knee'.; (7) Striking a submissive’s buttocks with a hand.; (8) Using one's hand to slap a partner's buttocks for sensory enhancement and arousal.; (9) Tap dat ass.

Spanking Bench: (2) A low bench, often padded and often equipped with restraints or tie-down points, over which a person can be bent or tied and spanked or flogged.; (4) A low bench, often padded and equipped with restraints or tie-down points, over which a person can be bent or tied and spanked or flogged.

Spanking Glove: (2) A glove, often made of leather or heavy rubber and frequently (though not always) fingerless, designed to protect the wearer's palm as the wearer spanks another person.

Speculum: (2) A medical instrument designed to hold open the vagina or anus during an exam. There are various uses for it in an SM scene with a willing body and a creative mind.; (3) A medical instrument intended for the use of medical examination of the vagina or rectum, made of steel or plastic in the shape of a duckbill. The speculum is lubricated and inserted. After insertion, the "bill" is spread apart to open the cervix in the vagina. In BDSM play, commonly used in medical scening.
(3) This form of play can be dangerous. Not for the novice.; (4) A medical instrument commonly consisting of two or occasionally three probes designed to be inserted into the vagina or the anus, together with a mechanism intended to spread the probes apart, opening the vagina or anus. Sometimes used in medical role-play scenes.

Spencer Paddle: (2) A specific type of oblong wooden paddle, allegedly invented by an American schoolteacher named Harold Spencer in the 1930s, that has a rounded end, is generally about fifteen to twenty inches long and has several holes drilled in the striking surface. The holes are intended to prevent the formation of a cushion of air between the paddle and the person being paddled, which Spencer reasoned might soften the blow.; (4) A specific type of oblong wooden paddle. It has a rounded end and has several holes drilled into the striking surface.

Spider Gag: (2) A specific type of ring gag featuring a central ring to which short rods or metal extensions are fitted, to hold the mouth open and keep the lips open as well.

Spiritual Attraction: (6) noun: a capacity that evokes the want to engage in intimate behavior based on one’s experience with, interpretation of, or belief in the supernatural (e.g., religious teachings, messages from a deity), experienced in varying degrees (from little-to-none, to intense). Often conflated with sexual attraction, romantic attraction, and/or emotional attraction.

Spreadeagle; also, Spread-eagle: (2) A posture in which a person is bound or restrained with the legs spread apart and the arms spread wide with the hands over the person's head.; (4) A posture in which a person is bound or restrained with the legs spread apart and the arms spread wide with the hands over the person’s head.

Spreader Bar: (2) An implement consisting of a rigid bar or rod, often with attachment points for restraints built into it at each end, designed to be attached to a person's feet or ankles to hold the person's legs spread apart. May be adjustable in length.; (3) A bar-type device used to "spread" apart arms/legs of the submissive. Bars can be made of common, inexpensive materials such as dowel rods, PVC pipes, broomsticks, etc.
(3) See also: Bondage.; (4) A bondage device, the spreader is a rigid bar of varying lengths, attached at the ends either to the wrists or ankles, which keeps the arms or legs apart and renders the submissive helpless.

Squirk; Colloquial; also, Squick: (2) A feeling of disgust, repulsion, or similar negative emotional reaction to the idea of an activity that does not appeal to someone.
(2) verb To feel disgusted or revulsion at an idea; Water sports make Lisa squick.
(2) Etymology: The word "squick" has an interesting history. It was coined by a regular user of the old Usenet newsgroup alt.sex.bondage to describe a sudden and unexpected revulsion experienced by her partner when a group of very young kittens tried to nurse on him. It was originally intended to mean a strong negative response that was both surprising and unexpected. Since then, it has commonly been used to describe an emotional reaction of disgust in general, despite the original intent; (4) A feeling of disgust, repulsion, or similar negative emotional reaction to the idea of an activity that does not appeal to someone.

SSC; Initialism: (2) Safe, Sane, and Consensual.; (c) More at Safe, Sane, and Consensual.

St. Andrew's Cross; also, St Andrews Cross: (2) A popular type of bondage furniture consisting of an X-shaped cross, commonly made of wood but occasionally made of metal or other materials, to which a person can be bound and flogged, whipped, and so on.; (4) An X-shaped crucifixion device usually made of wood. The submissive is tied or chained to the cross, either facing towards or away from it, depending on what you intend to do with her.; (c) See Saint Andrew's Cross

Stapling: (2) A temporary piercing technique done with a surgical stapler.

Star-fucker: (2) Term used in reference to someone who chases after and plays with only people who are well known, powerful, or famous in the leather community.

Stealth: (6) adj.: a trans person who is not “out” as trans, and is perceived/known by others as cisgender.

Stealth Sex, also, Stealthing: (c) When a top secretly removes a condom or punches a hole in the condom to pass on any STD the top may have to the bottom.

Steel Bondage; Colloquial: (2) Any form of bondage involving metal restraints or equipment, as handcuffs, leg irons, and the like.

Sting: (2) A sensation produced by some toys, such as the cat-o-nine or other devices that cause an intense 'stingy' feeling, as opposed to those which produce a 'thud'.; (4) A sensation of quick, sharp pain.

Stinger: (c) Small multi-strand whip used at close range.

Stock; pl., Stocks: (2) A device used for bondage consisting of a vertical wooden post or a wooden frame atop which is set two heavy wood planks which close around a person's neck and wrists.; (3) A type of bondage "furniture" based on the medieval form of stocks used for punishment. Stocks usually consist of two hinged pieces of wood with semi-circular holes which when locked together form a ring large enough for the head/neck and wrists to be placed inside.; (4) A device used for bondage consisting of a vertical wooden post or a wooden frame atop which is set two heavy wood planks, which close around a person’s neck and wrists.

Stock Whip: (2) 1. See signal whip.
(2) 2. Any of a class of singletail whips having a relatively long, rigid handle, often made of wood, which is outside the braidings of the whip's lash (as opposed to singletails such as a bullwhip, where the handle is enclosed at the end of the lash).

Story of O

(10) "Histoire d'O" (English title: "Story of O") is a sadomasochistic novel by French author Pauline Reage, revealed a few years before her death as being the pen name of Anne Desclos (1907-1998), who also wrote under the name of Dominique Aury in her career as a translator.

It is a fantasy of female submission about a Parisian fashion photographer who is blindfolded, chained, whipped, branded, made to wear a mask, and taught to be "constantly available" for oral, vaginal, or anal intercourse.

More about Story of O here.

From: www.seekdiscipline.com

Straight: (6) adj.: a person primarily emotionally, physically, and/or sexually attracted to some people who are not their same-sex/gender. A more colloquial term for the word heterosexual.; (7) A heterosexual or someone not interested in SM play.

Straitjacket; also, Straight Jacket: (2) A heavy jacket, often made of canvas, whose sleeves end in long straps, which are wrapped around the jacket and buckled in place. A person confined in a straitjacket has very little freedom of motion; freeing oneself self from a straitjacket is virtually impossible.; (3) A jacket type of garment meant to be worn "backward", consisting of close-ended sleeves that are strapped crisscrossed around the back and tied or locked in place (i.e., Houdini used this garment to escape from frequently).
(3) See also: Bondage.; (4) A heavy jacket, often made of canvas, whose sleeves end in long straps, which are wrapped around the jacket and buckled in place. A person confined in a straitjacket has very little freedom of motion.

Strap: (2) An implement used for striking a person, consisting of a long, flat piece of heavy leather.
(2) Also, verb to strike with a strap.; (4) An implement used for striking a person, consisting of a long, flat piece of heavy leather.

Strap-in: (2) A dildo designed to penetrate a person either vaginally or anally and then be held in place by a strap or harness, sometimes equipped with a lock to prevent it from being removed.; (4) A dildo designed to penetrate a person either vaginally or anally and then held in place by a strap or a harness. Is sometimes equipped with a lock to prevent it from being removed.

Strap-on: (2) A dildo attached to straps, a harness, or some other mechanism designed to be worn around the waist.; (3) A fastening type strap most commonly used to hold a dildo in place. Commonly used in lesbian scening.; (4) A dildo attached to straps, or harness designed to be worn around the waist.

Strappado Bondage: (2) A specific bondage technique in which a person's hands are tied behind his or her back, then a rope is tied to the wrists and attached to an overhead fixture or pulley tightly enough so that the bound person is forced to bend over with his or her arms in the air.

Strapping: (3) A length of material, most commonly leather, used for striking the body.
(3) See also: Flogger, Whipping.

Stripping: (8) Removing one's clothes, sometimes performed on stage in an erotic manner.

Stretchers: (3) Generally made of wooden dowel rods or metal tubing, having eyelets to secure a submissive's arms, legs apart for play. These are very portable, to use anywhere. Stretchers come in various lengths, usually 24 inches to 48 inches.

Stud: (6) noun: most commonly used to indicate a Black/African-American and/or Latina, masculine, lesbian/queer woman. Also known as ‘butch’ or ‘aggressive’.

Sub Frenzy; Colloquial; also, Sub-Frenzy: (2) A very strong, sometimes overwhelming, desire to find a dominant partner or to become immersed in BDSM-related activities, sometimes seen in people who identify strongly as submissive, particularly people who have either just newly discovered their submissive side or who have not partaken in BDSM-related activities for a long time. People in the grip of sub-frenzy may sometimes make unwise or unsafe choices.; (4) A very strong, overwhelming desire to find a dominant partner or to become immersed in BDSM-related activities. Sometimes seen in people who identify strongly as submissive.

Subduction

(10) Subduction ("leading below") is a term borrowed from Geology and used in Enslavement to describe the process by which a slave's freedoms are stripped away. It is derived from an analogy between the slave's response to this process and earthquakes.

Strong reactions to increasing control, ie psychological reactance, are not unnatural or uncommon - in many ways, they are the symptom that things that really matter to the slave are being controlled. That does not excuse disobedience, but it can give clues that they are suitable for enslavement even when they are letting themself and their dominant down by acting up.

This whole process of increasing control is analogous to the plates in the earth's crust sliding past each other. One of the sea bed plates slides under the continental crust by "subduction". Sometimes this goes smoothly, and you don't notice it going under. But other times it sticks and there's no progress being made. The pressure builds up and up until there's a violent earthquake. It's all very disruptive and fraught at the time, but afterward, everyone sees that a big chunk of the plate has gone under in one huge movement.

Enslavement is frequently like that: sometimes blockages and then earthquakes happen, but the slave is always further on afterward.

From: www.seekdiscipline.com

Subdrop: (2) A physical condition, often with cold- or flu-like symptoms, experienced by a submissive after an intense session of BDSM play. This can last for as long as a week and is best prevented by aftercare immediately after the session.

Submission: (8) Surrender to and trust of a partner.

Submissive

(1) An individual who consents to give up power to a Dominant. This can be for any duration – for an hour or a lifetime. Also called a sub, bottom, or slave. Again, differences between these terms will be covered right here in future articles.

(2) A person who enjoys giving control to a Dominant and derives pleasure from serving the needs of that Dominant.

(3) One who gives freely of themselves for the pleasures of another. A subordinate with negotiated limits.

(4) A person of either gender who submits to the will of a dominant, either for limited BDSM play or within a longer-term relationship.

(7) One who yields control by obedience to the Will of a Dominant. A strong characteristic is that of humility.

(10) A person who prefers to be subordinate in a D/s relationship, obeying, serving, and pleasing their Dominant partner. Submissive is the broadest term in the submissive/slave/property panoply. All slaves are submissives and all who describe themselves as property are submissives but not all submissives are slaves or property of an owner. Self-describing as a submissive does not necessarily mean that the person already has a dominant. Instead, submissive describes a preference for taking the submissive role in a relationship or in a bdsm scene and operates as a type of self-description or self-advertisement.

The term bottom is in turn a more general than "submissive", and also includes people who take a passive role in BDSM activities that don't include obedience or service.

The everyday definition of the word "submissive" is: "characterized by tendencies to yield to the will or authority of others" (Merriam-Webster). The bdsm and M/s definition of submissive differs from the everyday definition of submissive in the following ways:

Submissive in BDSM and the Ownership Subculture is commonly used as a noun and this is a correct usage within this subculture.
The word submissive in the BDSM world is considerably more protean than the ordinary use of the word. Submissive in the everyday sense is an adjective describing a fixed personality feature exhibited in all interactions with others. In the vanilla world "submissive" commonly refers to a set of traits that is manifested whenever the person interacts with anyone. Within BDSM or the Ownership Subculture, the word "submissive" refers only to that person's relationship to their own dominant or potential dominants they wish to form a relationship with. In other words, some very non-submissive people in the vanilla world commonly describe themselves as submissive when referring to their relationship with a dominant or when describing themselves in the BDMS or Ownership Subculture.

From: www.seekdiscipline.com

Differences between submissives and slaves

(10) Within much of the Ownership Subculture, submissive is used as a counter-example to the term "slave". Submissives are described as people who have rights within their D/s relationship, including the right and ability to leave if the relationship becomes difficult or unpleasant. Within a D/s relationship, submissives may have the ability to negotiate the terms of their submission on a moment-to-moment basis and have expectations of their owner on how they should be treated. These expectations are taken very seriously by both the dominant and the submissive. They may be described in a written document which both parties are expected to adhere to or they may be verbal agreements that are subject to frequent re-negotiations.

From: www.seekdiscipline.com

Differences between submissives and slaves

(10) Submissive is sometimes used as a counter-example to the term "slave", if submissives are described as people who have rights within their D/s relationship, including the right and ability to leave if the relationship becomes difficult or unpleasant. Within a D/s relationship submissives may have the ability to negotiate the terms of their submission on a moment to moment basis and have expectations of their owner on how they should be treated. These expectations are taken very seriously by both the dominant and the submissive. They may be described in a written document which both parties are expected to adhere to or they may be verbal agreements that are subject to frequent re-negotiations.

From: www.ownership-possession.com

Submit: (2) To give up power or control. A person who gives up power or psychological control to another is said to submit to that person. Submission: the act of giving up control.; (4) To give up power or control to another.

Subspace; also, Sub Space

(1) A high endorphin state that a bottom often enters into when a skilled Dominant executes a good BDSM scene.

(2) A specific state of mind that a submissive may enter, particularly after intense activities and/or (depending on the person) intense pain play, characterized by euphoria, bliss, a strong feeling of well-being, or even a state similar to intoxication. Thought to be related to the release of endorphins in the brain. The euphoria associated with subspace may last for hours or sometimes even days after the activity ceases.

(3) A mental altered state in which a person can be taken to. Space is a form of hypnotism that can be self attained, or a Dominant can aid to obtain. Subspace is used for sexual pleasure and can be utilized to convert pain to pleasure.
(3) After-care is mandatory, as is constant monitoring. Not for the novice.

(4) A blissful and euphoric state reported by some submissives during BDSM play. Also called 'bottom-space', 'flying' or an 'endorphin-high'.

(10) Subspace is a trance-like state which many submissives can enter or be placed in, either during SM play, bondage, or through receiving strong attention, especially eye-contact, from their dominant.

Submissives report an increased level of focus on their dominant, perhaps to the extent that they are only dimly aware of anything else, and may become unable to speak ("becoming non-verbal").

Subspace is distinct from the endorphin high or bottom space, which may be produced by SM; and from the "out of body" detached or dissociated state that some endurance players (and trauma victims) report.

Enslavement can be viewed as subspace applied to a whole relationship, but at a less conscious level.

From: www.seekdiscipline.com

Suction Cups: (4) Cups, which are placed over the breasts to create a partial vacuum inside, sometimes assisted by pumps. The tissue inside becomes engorged with blood and expands, increasing its sensitivity.; (c) Similar to Cups in Cutter's Snake Bite Kit.

Sukaranbo; also, Sukuranbo: (2) In shibari, a type of rope harness that wraps around the buttocks and upper thighs and passes between the legs and over the genitals, passing between the labial lips of a female wearer. The rope may feature a knot at the place where it touches the clitoris. A sukuranbo does not restrict motion, and may even be worn under or over clothing; as the wearer walks or moves, the ropes slide over the genitals, causing sexual stimulation.; (4) A type of Japanese rope harness that wraps around the buttocks and upper thighs and passes between the legs and over the genitals. This type of bondage does not restrict movement and can be worn under clothes. As the wearer walks and moves, the ropes stimulate the genital area.

Supplicant

(10) A supplicant, one who supplicates, is a term to applied to humble petitioners. For example at the University of Oxford, it refers to students who have qualified but not yet been admitted into their degree.

Within D/s, the word supplicant is often used to a refer to a submissive applicant, hoping to enter the service of a particular dominant or household.

From: www.seekdiscipline.com

Surrender: (7) To hand over power to another. To give oneself up into the power of another.

Suspension: (2) A form of bondage in which the submissive is suspended off the ground. This is not recommended for persons who are not knowledgeable in this type of play.; (3) An advanced form of bondage in which the whole body is "suspended" off the ground and hanging "free in space".
(3) Note: not for the novice, use of properly designed equipment is advised.

Suspension Bar: (2) A short bar, often made of metal and which may be straight or slightly curved, with a mounting point in the center and additional mounting points designed for rope, chain, or suspension cuffs on each end. A person is bound to the suspension bar, which is hung from an overhead point by means of a cable or chain connected to its central mounting point. May often be used in conjunction with a lift, winch, or pulley system such that a person may be bound to the suspension bar and the bar may then be raised or lowered.; (4) A short bar (straight or slightly curved), often made of metal, with a mounting point in the center and additional mounting points designed for rope, chain, or suspension cuffs on each end. A person is bound to the suspension bar, which is hung from an overhead point by means of cables and/ or a pulley system. The bar is then raised or lowered.

Suspension Bondage: (4) An advanced bondage technique in which the submissive is 'suspended' off the ground by means of ropes or other restraints.

Suspension Cuffs: (2) Any restraints designed to encircle the wrists, ankles, hands, or feet and designed in such a way as to distribute the wearer's weight so that the wearer may be partially or completely suspended from the cuffs. Some suspension cuffs contain an integrated panic snap.; (4) Any restraints designed to encircle the wrists, ankles, hands, or feet in such a way as to distribute the wearer’s weight so that the wearer may be partially or completely suspended from the cuffs.

Suspension Frame: (2) Any frame, rack, or similar structure designed for suspension. Common configurations of suspension frames include an open "box" with mounting points along its upper edges, in which a person can be suspended so that the person hangs horizontally within the box; a rectangular upright frame, from which a person may be suspended with rope or suspension cuffs; and a long wood or metal pole, supported by two legs on each end, from which a person may be suspended by ropes.; (4) Any frame, rack, or similar structure designed for suspension.

Suspension Rack: (2) See suspension frame.

Suturing; also, Suture Play: (2) The practice of temporarily suturing or sewing parts of the body, particularly the genitals, for sexual gratification. Forms of suturing include sewing the labia closed and sewing the foreskin of the flaccid penis to the scrotum.
(2) See related needle play, lacing (def. 2).; (4) The practice of temporarily suturing someone or parts of their body, particularly the genitals, for sexual gratification.

Swapping: (3) The "swapping" of one's partner generally for sexual/erotic play. Switching partners temporarily for play purposes.

Swing: (8) An object that allows a person or two to be suspended and move back and forth during sex.

Swinging: (8) Group sex or wife swapping.; (9) Committed couples consensually indulging in sex with other couples.

Switch: (2) A person who enjoys acting out both the dominant and submissive roles in SM play.; (3) One who "switches" between Dominant/submissive roles, i.e. from scene to scene or within a scene. Some switches may submit to one Dominant, and dominate others, etc.; (4) The name for a person who enjoys both the submissive and dominant roles at different times.; (7) One who enjoys switching roles between being Dominant and submissive.

Sybian: (2) One popular variety of commercially available fucking machines consisting of a dildo affixed to a dome-shaped saddle which the user sits on.; (4) One popular variety of commercially available fucking machines consisting of a dildo affixed to a dome-shaped saddle which the user sits on.

S-type

(10) A shorthand used on TSR and other forums to refer to slaves and submissives without limiting the reference to a particular model of D/s or M/s.

From: www.ownership-possession.com

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